Bullying is a worldwide
concern.
1)
"My 13 year old has been the butt of his mate's cruel jokes. He is
a lovely, sensitive boy who scores straight A's. He told me he wanted to
stop school since he could not continue in that environment anymore. We
have our fair share of bullying teachers too, and I can say it is even
worse here.(Ghana,
Africa).than
in the U.S. It is about time we save our children from these bullies, be
they schoolmates or teachers. ...Cynthia G.
2)
"I know how pervasive bullying is worldwide. I've not only received feedback
from parents all over the world, my son was in grade school in both New
Zealand and Australia. When he told us he was being bullied in the first
grade in New Zealand, we spoke to his teacher about it. Her response was
to give a lecture to her students.(victims
and bullies together).in
which she admonished them "not to tell tales out of school".
"Those were the first 'no-snitch'
seeds planted in my son's mind, and they were nourished frequently by many
other ignorant and incompetent teachers along the way. All this resulted
in his developing The Game's no-snitch mind-set, a mind-set that negatively
impacted his life all the way through high school. I will say it yet again:
The headmasters.(principal's).first
duty should be to represent the parents, and he should immediately fire
any teacher who tries to discourage kids from reporting bullying. ...Robert
Ringer
3)
A classic K-Mart ending:
"I was in a science class
in the 9th grade and there were a couple of bullies that targeted me and
turned most of the class against me. The teacher.(whose
father was an administrator in the school system).turned
a cold shoulder to the bullying. When I went to the guidance counselor
after dealing with this for half the year, I told her what was happening
and asked for a transfer. She did absolutely nothing, but advised me to
stick it out.
"I was too ashamed to talk
to my parents about it, and suffered the entire year in silence. If I could
only go back, I would pop both guys in the jaw. It would have been well
worth the suspension I would have gotten.
"I was able to get the last
laugh, however. I crossed paths with one of the guys a few years later
in college. With his support system no longer behind him, he was a totally
different person. He was polite and quiet instead of the aggressive,
outgoing, jerk
that pushed me around just a few years before. He wouldn't even make eye
contact with me.
"The last time I saw him,
he was working in the local K-Mart in customer service and acted as though
he didn't know me. The other guy who gave me a hard time ended up being
fired from a job as a personal trainer at a local gym where I worked out.
"I ended up graduating from
college and making something of myself, although sometimes I kick myself
for not confronting them when I had the chance." ...Rich M.
"Don't kick yourself. All's
well that ends well. When you're a kid, bullies.(especially
in packs of two or more).can
be very intimidating. Yours is just another case of a teacher condoning
bad behavior. Sadly it's all part of The Game. ...Robert Ringer
4)
Destroying lives by the millions ...
"Most parents will never
homeschool.
They don't think they can or that they have the time. They like the 'free'
stuff where they can park their kids and do other things. You're right
about the attempt to outlaw homeschooling. We homeschooled our seven children.
We used public schools for the oldest only, for two months.
"...I have a nephew with
Down syndrome. He had language skills that were out of this world before
starting school. At the age of 31/2, his skills were those of
a 5 year old. I have a videotape of him having a philosophical discussion
with his brother before he was 4.
"He is now way behind
in school and will probably never catch up. He's currently 18. I don't
believe the primary problem is mental retardation. I think they.(children
such as my nephew).are
too laid back and not curious and you have to stimulate them to want to
learn.
"The parents had accomplished
that and then this one stupid therapist insisted he had to work
for an hour whether he wanted to or not. She totally killed all the curiosity
others managed to induce in him. I volunteered to educate him, but my sister
turned me down.
"The other thing was that
they did nothing to stimulate him intellectually and the only reason he
did so well in language was speech therapy and constantly being around
people who talked to him. Glenn Doman has charts showing language development.
One chart said superior children put together two word phrases by 13 months.
My nephew did it in 11 months.
"Not only did he have a vocabulary
that wouldn't quit, he memorized the words to hundreds of songs, the Lutheran
liturgy.(both
congregation and pastor parts).and
the dialog/script/screenplay.(without
the instructions, just the speech).of
entire movies." ...Pat G.
"I am all too familiar with
the problem of 'laid back and not curious'. Early intervention is critical
and ongoing verbal interaction with children who have such problems is
even more critical. Potentially happy, successful lives are being destroyed
by the millions and that by caring, yet 'unqualified' educators. Uncaring
'educators are useless educators. ...Robert Ringer
5)
The 80/20 rule become 99/1 ...
"After I took my oldest son
out of school in 2nd grade, I had second thoughts because he never got
to see other kids his age. He had one caring teacher, so I went to
talk to her, and she informed me that "School was no place for kids."
"My children wanted to go
back to school in high school, so I let them. One graduated, the other
got a GED and is now the foreman of a power lineman crew.
"My boys were big guys, so
to my knowledge the other kids didn't try to bully them, but teachers sure
did! For instance, the PE teacher threatened to give my son an F in PE
because he refused to try out for basketball. Because he was so tall, he
'had' to play.
"I realize there are a handful
of good and dedicated teachers. But I do believe in their case the 80/20
rule should be changed to 99/1. Many of them are pathetic bullies who only
teach so they can feel superior to someone.
"By the way, that opinion
began to form when I was in grade school, and was then reinforced when
I was in college, getting a degree in education. I used to look at my fellow
students and think that I didn't want any future child of mine to be their
victim. And, of course, my kids' treatment solidified that belief." ...Marte
C.
"Your ratio may be a bit
high even for me, but it's a lot closer to the truth than schools and parents
of Inner Ring kids would like us to believe. The foxes are in charge of
the henhouse. Before you can begin to attack the student bully problem,
you first have to get rid of the teacher and administration bullies. You
are absolutely right about the perverse desire of many teachers to feel
superior to someone, and captive kids make that easy for them. ...Robert
Ringer.
humanity is here to learn
higher ways of consciousness, thus
transforming his nature, the cause of problems.
