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A major problem is male/female relationships. Most people do not know why they are on Earth and even those that do or did, like David, often screw up their lives

David liked a particular woman so much and being the king, took her away from a man very loyal to David. His unchecked desire caused David problems. David later arranged for the woman's partner to be murdered. Not good. The story

Another story of a man and his uncontrollable sexual appetite:.2Samuel 13:1-14. Verse 15 shows how screwed up this guy Amnon's mind was. The story carries on till he dies:.verse 29

If men and women can master, by wisely regulating, the sexual part of their lives, many problems related to sexual desire will be gone. Look at the messes people have gotten into because they lack discipline, which equates to impatience. Problem is, few speed records are broken running from temptation:.1Corinthians 10:13. Watch out for temptation. The more you see of it, the better it looks! Ha ha!

People of the world have not changed as the thousands of years went by. They want this individual. Then that one. The grass always seems greener a little further away. Then they don't like this about them. And move to another. Perhaps they pick up some disease. They find the other was not as they thought:.Jeremiah 2:33. They feel cheated. They move on. Much time is wasted and they are none the better for it. They may go from one abusive relationship into another wondering why 'faith' has not worked for them. One should hesitate to proceed into a relationship unless he or she possesses a sense of peace about it all:.Philippians 4:7. Ask Suby could be of some help here for you. When peace lacks, how can there be any meaningful basis for a lasting sincere relationship? We all need someone who approves of us, when we are such as being worthy of that. 

The only faith that works is one's faith in Christ, which is actually His faith working in us who believe. How?
   In Him are all the promises:.2Corinthians 1:20

If God's nature is your nature and you live your life.quietly with patience, knowing the true God of all good creation is always out for your good and will never leave you lonely, then trust Him:.Genesis 2:18; John 10:10. Is it really, the right one or choice from right ones? This bunk about a soul mate being the other half you may not yet have found, is all just so much crap. There are many of those of the opposite sex who you could get along with:.Proverbs 18:24. Those who have the Holy Spirit of God are the ones to consider.

At the right time for you when you are looking and the other is too, you both will find each other:.Psalms 73:24. Remember, an acorn attracts to it from the ground that which is in harmony with it so it can grow into an oak tree. Look to God in you and in hope:.Micah 7:7.

Remember, the Creator guides us with intuition and counsel. Study the Bible. Talk to your parents and those who are your real friends:.Psalms 73:25. Ask God too, about why you are here, what contract you made with God to do what, when on Earth in the physical?

You want someone to grow in love with:.1Thessalonians 3:12,13; Luke 1:79. How would you know if you are really in love with someone and they with you?

The Holy Spirit will move in you and you will know this is the right one, you'll know just what to say and it will all be comfortable and with no fear of 'maybe he/she doesn't like me, even though I like her/him, what can I do to get him/her'? Selfish mating involves 'how can I use what he/she likes, to get what I want?'

We grow into becoming a 'right one' for another as we learn to be more giving, serving, charming, growing in poise, passion, etc. The things that last are the things of high consciousness. As long as this continues, the chances are excellent that the relationship will carry on.

Working on a relationship on a moment by moment basis keeps you in the present. Dragging the past into the present kills creativity. Opining over the future is fantasy. Worrying over it is useless. All these destroy where you could be in present awareness. Build your relationship from your present reality. Building it from fanciful notions is immature; fanciful notions such as the 'perfect mate' in every way. Just be glad someone likes you that you in turn also find attractive and take effort to do something with what you have at hand.

The problem is: We often choose whom we think is the best for us. And we never know another's heart that well, but God does:.1Chronicles 28:9. Trust Him. Without this, we short change ourselves every time. Better to live alone for years and decades if necessary, than waste time in a wrong relationship. I've seen so many relationships start off with 'diamonds in the sky' only to result in hopes being dashed. 

And then maybe we're so stupid, like I was, that we just screw it up when we had a good relationship. We're all so complicated, not even knowing ourselves very well. Ask God to bring the right person into your life and ask Him for the wisdom to recognize it. I'm convinced that without this, futility results. 

Ask God for guidance and then follow it! Where will I find the right one for me? That is a good question to Ask Suby, below. Follow what comes to your mind. What city should you go to, if any? What place there? And at what time?

Have the courage to follow your heart and not be shy, when the time comes. Once you figure it is the right one, it is time to take action.."There is no action without inspiration."....Bernie Siegel, M.D., featured in the award winning movie What If? The Movie.

An example of a woman unafraid to show her heart was Minnie Driver's portrayal in the movie The Governess.

Shyness is self-consciousness, but is often misconstrued for the fine character quality of deference. It doesn't take but a few teenage years to find out really how seldom others do think of us.

Shyness can also belie.stubbornness. Many self-conscious people are just not sure how they should be in various situations. Just be your best loving self and you'll fulfil all that's necessary to be in another's good graces:.Romans 13:10 "Love works no ill to his neighbour, therefore love is the fulfilling of the law.".You are unique. If you really care for others your self-consciousness will vanish. 

We are physical and we are here now. As we grow in awareness and heartfelt involvement in the relationship with the Father that Emmanuel came to make possible for us, we become unified, one with each other and aware of the oneness we now have with God:.John 17:21,26 "That they all may be one, as you Father are in me and I in you, that they also may be one in us...that the love you've loved me with may be in them and I in them."

It is the Creator's heart for us to be at one, in unity, with each other. When we allow the physical to unduly influence us, we lose zest for one another. Oh, he's too fat. He doesn't do this. He doesn't do that. She's not so cute. She's always b#@#@!^* about something.

Many people spend much more time thinking, fussing or talking about seemingly meaningless physical 'concerns' than relishing the thoughts about Christ in them and others. But there are physical considerations of significance, different for each of us. Use the time you have here to advantage.

See the 'rate-a-mate'.


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Being a husband is just like any other job; it's easier if you like your boss!
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