A major problem
is male/female relationships. Most people do not know why
they are on Earth and even those that do or did, like David,
often screw
up their lives.
David liked a particular
woman so much and being the king, took her away from a man very loyal to
David. His unchecked desire
caused David problems. David later arranged for the woman's partner to
be murdered. Not good. The
story.
Another story of a man and
his uncontrollable sexual appetite:.2Samuel
13:1-14. Verse 15 shows how screwed up this guy Amnon's mind was. The
story carries on till he dies:.verse
29.
If men and women can master,
by wisely regulating, the sexual part of their lives, many problems related
to sexual desire will be gone. Look at the messes people have gotten into
because they lack discipline, which equates to impatience. Problem is,
few speed records are broken running from temptation:.1Corinthians
10:13. Watch out for temptation. The more you see of it, the better
it looks! Ha ha!
People of the world have
not changed as the thousands of years went by. They want this individual.
Then that one. The grass always
seems
greener a little further away. Then they don't like this about them.
And move to another. Perhaps they pick up some disease. They find the other
was not as they thought:.Jeremiah
2:33. They feel cheated. They move on. Much time is wasted and they
are none the better for it. They may go from one abusive relationship
into another wondering why 'faith' has not worked for them. One should
hesitate to proceed into a relationship unless he or she possesses a sense
of peace about it all:.Philippians
4:7. Ask Suby could be of some help here for you. When peace lacks,
how can there be any meaningful basis for a lasting sincere relationship?
We all need someone who approves of us, when we are such as being worthy
of that.
The only faith that works
is one's faith in Christ, which is actually His
faith working in us who believe. How?
In
Him
are all the
promises:.2Corinthians
1:20.
If
God's
nature is your nature and you live
your life.quietly
with patience, knowing the true God of all good creation is always
out for your good and will never leave you lonely, then trust Him:.Genesis
2:18; John 10:10. Is it really,
the right one or choice
from right ones? This bunk
about a soul mate being the other half you may not yet have found, is all
just so much crap. There are many of those of the opposite sex who you
could get along with:.Proverbs
18:24. Those who have the Holy Spirit of God are the ones to consider.
At the right time for you
when you are looking and the other is too, you both will find each other:.Psalms
73:24. Remember, an acorn attracts to it from the ground that which
is in harmony with it so it can
grow into an oak tree. Look to God in you and in hope:.Micah
7:7.
Remember, the Creator guides
us with intuition and counsel. Study the Bible.
Talk to your parents and those who are your real friends:.Psalms
73:25. Ask God too, about why
you are here, what contract you made with God to do what, when on Earth
in the physical?
You want someone to grow
in love with:.1Thessalonians
3:12,13; Luke 1:79. How
would you know if you are really in love with someone and they with
you?
The Holy
Spirit will move in you and you will know this is the right one, you'll
know just what to say and it will all be comfortable and with no fear of
'maybe he/she doesn't like me, even though I like her/him, what can I do
to get him/her'? Selfish mating involves 'how can I use what he/she likes,
to get what I want?'
We grow into becoming
a 'right one' for another as we learn to be more giving, serving, charming,
growing in poise,
passion,
etc.
The things that last are the
things of high consciousness. As long as this continues, the chances
are excellent that the relationship
will
carry on.
Working on a relationship
on a moment by moment basis keeps you in the present. Dragging the past
into the present kills creativity. Opining
over the future is fantasy. Worrying over it is useless. All these destroy
where you could be in present
awareness. Build your relationship from your present reality. Building
it from fanciful notions is immature; fanciful notions such as the 'perfect
mate' in every way. Just be glad someone likes you that you in turn also
find attractive and take effort to do something with what you have at hand.
The problem is: We often
choose whom we think is the best for us. And we never know another's heart
that well, but God does:.1Chronicles
28:9. Trust Him. Without this, we short change ourselves every time.
Better to live alone for years and decades if necessary, than waste time
in a wrong relationship. I've seen so many relationships start off with
'diamonds in the sky' only to result in hopes being dashed.
And then maybe we're so stupid,
like I was, that we just screw it up when we had a good relationship. We're
all so complicated, not even knowing ourselves very well. Ask God to bring
the right person into your life and ask Him for the wisdom to recognize
it. I'm convinced that without this, futility
results.
Ask God for guidance and
then follow it! Where will I find the right one for me? That is a good
question to Ask Suby, below. Follow what comes to your mind. What city
should you go to, if any? What place there? And at what time?
Have the courage to follow
your heart and not be shy,
when the time comes. Once you figure it is the right one, it is time to
take action.."There
is no action without inspiration."....Bernie
Siegel, M.D., featured in the award winning movie What
If? The Movie.
An example of a woman unafraid
to show her heart was Minnie Driver's portrayal
in the movie The Governess.
Shyness is self-consciousness,
but is often misconstrued
for the fine character quality of deference.
It doesn't take but a few teenage years to find out really how seldom others
do think of us.
Shyness can also belie.stubbornness.
Many self-conscious people are just not sure how they should be in various
situations. Just be your best
loving self and you'll fulfil all that's necessary to be in another's good
graces:.Romans
13:10 "Love works no ill to his neighbour, therefore love is the fulfilling
of the law.".You
are
unique. If you really care for others
your self-consciousness will vanish.
We are physical and we are
here now. As we grow in awareness and heartfelt involvement in the relationship
with the Father that Emmanuel came to make possible for us, we become
unified, one with each other and aware of the oneness we now have with
God:.John
17:21,26 "That they all may be one, as you Father are in me and I in
you, that they also may be one in us...that the love
you've loved me with may be in them and I in them."
It is the Creator's heart
for us to be at one, in unity,
with each other. When we allow the physical to unduly
influence us, we lose zest
for one another. Oh, he's too fat. He doesn't do this. He doesn't do that.
She's not so cute. She's always b#@#@!^* about something.
Many people spend much more
time thinking, fussing or talking about seemingly meaningless physical
'concerns' than relishing the thoughts about Christ in them and others.
But there are physical considerations of significance, different for each
of us. Use the time
you have here to advantage.
See the 'rate-a-mate'.
