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If one is not seeking to grow spiritually, the relationship is based on and will be kept together for only a while, by physical needs and concerns. The 'honeymoon' wears off all too quickly. Such a flimsy basis endangers the relationship the more it encounters the vicissitudes of living. The heart is made to be a 'spiritual thing'. Trying to always please the heart with physical things.(vacations, gifts, entertainment, the excitement of things, etc.).is short lived, leaving one somewhat frustrated and empty.

Care and concern satisfy the heart, because these are some of the higher consciousness values of the Soul. The things of the spirit last, including you. Satisfaction from the ego level of living only pacifies for only a short while. But the hunger for all things is of the spirit in you, urging life on with its daily prompts which most of us in ignorance obviate. Only spiritual things truly satisfy continuously. Life needs to be satisfying in the present. It's the present that is eternal. Think of that in the idea.of hell.

Have your attention on what is.(on what is now; be presently minded).and you'll get fullness in every way, every day. Enjoy bliss. Bathe in bliss! Bliss rides on the current of natural feeling. Be mindful, full of awareness.in the present.

The Infinite One told Abraham to listen to Sarah:.Genesis 21:12. Sarah was a woman who fit in well with Abraham:.1Peter 3:6. The key to think about is: What makes a relationship.(for example your relationship).work? What does it take to make it last? Approaching a relationship from unbending polarized.(two extreme and variant points of view).viewpoints does not contribute to building the rapport necessary for a solid relationship:.Amos 3:3.

Get a guy who loves you.(see 'and ladies' and look up the scriptures mentioned at the link). Obviously a guy who's beating a woman up is not at all concerned with any kind of rapport with a woman whatsoever. Get out from him quick while you are still breathing!

Perhaps the woman also is not really interested in rapport with someone, for some foolish women just harp and harp on things they deem as unsatisfying:.Proverbs 26:17; 27:15. Other women will 'sell' their soul for money; they marry the guy solely to get what they secretly and selfishly desire. This can be a trick of the dark side.

A guy who cannot handle frustrations; a guy who does not smile at children and note if children respond to him; a guy who serves himself first; is not a guy you will grow spiritually with. Some people, both guys and girls just go around putting holes in others.

The rapport needed for a decent relationship must be there if the relationship is to progress. Without this, only fear will develop if you set yourself up with one of these."children of the devil".(Ephesians 2:2,3 and again, 2Corinthians 6:14 and Amos 3:3)

If you live with such a dolt, you will have trouble in your home:.Proverbs 11:29. He may even go to church!

Does he love the spiritual things of the true Infinite One and is he humble enough to produce works of service and love to others?.If.he is that way with others, he'll be that way with you too. Or is he the type that if his pride is hurt, he will take it out on you? Does he or she have that special attractiveness that excites you? That's important. Look for things:.Galatians 5:19-26; Proverbs 10:18; 28:26. See the guy as he is, not as you wish and hope that he would become, but get someone with whom you think the interest won't wane

Also most important is background. What is the heritage? Are his mom and dad still together? Did they love one another and him too? Did they show affection to each other and do things together with and for one another? Try to find these things out, before you let your heart get involved:.Proverbs 4:23.

And look for a man who can and wants to provide:.1Timothy 5:8

Guys and ladies: If a person is truly a spiritual person of love, there will be kindness and consideration coming forth from him or her; important qualities to be looking for. Avoid those offensive in manner who retort.vituperatively with answers that antagonize

Avoid getting involved with a demanding person. Demanding people tend to be cruel and uncaring. And stay away from fragile relationships too. A fragile relationship is where you have to 'tippy toe' around the other for fear of being offensive. In such a relationship, there is no mutual unconditional acceptance of each other's personality. You're headed for disaster.

The last thing you want is strife in your relationship. Look for unselfish mates. Strife is born of a selfish nature. Seek someone easy to be with, easy to talk with:.James 3:17,18. One cannot have much.(or any).peace when the other does not approve of you. Why waste your time? 

The ability to be intimate is knowing what the other feels and allowing the other into every aspect of who you are. An honest person hides nothing:.Romans 12:17 "...Provide things honest in the sight of all men."

Why should he or she even want to hide anything? If God knows all and God is most important in his or her life, they will.want.to be open. He or she each knows what they now are in God, so the past.should.not matter. The past is for learning.

Obviously one is only open with another they are sure that they can trust. Selfish persons have great difficulty with being intimate.

Both men and women can be very nice on the surface for years. Such are they who may be in relationships of convenience. As soon as intimacy deepens, the worst can come out. Many just can't handle it. The insecurities and vulnerabilities of each can become difficult to cope with.

Love covers, but many mates would rather haul out all the garbage when upset and present it again to the one they claim to 'love':.1Peter 4:8;.Romans 13:10; Proverbs 10:12.

Love is responding positively to what someone is, more than to what they say. Words of love are valueless if not felt. Many you meet will be incapable of feeling your love. Don't waste your time with them. Ask yourself if the other has good will toward you. Be alert for a mate where love dances in the freshness of the unknown.

Passion is intense longing for union. Negativity in a mate kills love's working, kills one's desire, kills one's passion, in both. Love changes with the passage of time, but it never diminishes. If you can't be happy with someone, you really can't be with them. The most beautiful 'make up' a woman can wear is passion.
 


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LETTER from wife
I've been a good woman to you for seven years and I have nothing to show for it.
These last two weeks have been hell. Your boss called to tell me that you had quit
your job today and that was the last straw. Last week, you came home and didn't
notice that I had gotten my hair and nails done, cooked your favorite meal and even
wore a brand new neglige. You came home and ate in two minutes and went straight
to sleep after watching the game. You don't tell me you love me anymore. You don't
touch me or anything. Either you're cheating or you don't love me anymore. Whatever
the case is, I'm gone. P.S. If you're trying to find me, don't. Your cousin and I are moving
away to West Virginia together! Have a great life!
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LETTER from husband
Nothing has made my day more than receiving your letter. It's true that you and I have been
married for seven years, although a good woman is a far cry from what you've been. I watch
sports so much to try to drown out your constant nagging. Too bad that doesn't work. I did notice
when you cut off all of your hair last week, the first thing that came to mind was 'You look just like a man!'
My mother raised me to not say anything if you can't say anything nice. When you cooked my favorite meal,
you must have gotten me confused with my cousin who loves pig, because I stopped eating pork seven years ago.
I went to sleep on you when you had on that new neglige because the price tag was still on it. I prayed that it
was a coincidence that my cousin had just borrowed fifty dollars from me that morning and your neglige was $49.99.
After all of this, I still loved you and felt that we could work it out. So when I discovered
that I had hit the lotto for ten million dollars, I quit my job and bought us two tickets to Fiji.
But when I got home you were gone. Everything happens for a reason I guess. I hope
you have the filling life you always wanted. My lawyer said with your letter that
you wrote, you won't get a dime from me. So take care. P.S. I don't know if I ever told
you this but Carl, my cousin was born Carla.
I hope that's not a problem.
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