Commitment
is a responsible decision to be loving to the one.(your
beloved).with
whom you wish to be
intimate, the one
to whom you have decided to maintain special affection, tenderness and
caring.
Commitment involves a sense
of presence of each other's heart, that knowing you can trust the other
enough to fully commit yourself.
Once one decides to be committed
to another, they have decided to look for sexual affection only from this
special person because this is the all you give to the other.
Try to keep emotions in balance
with an overstanding
of who this person, who is the object of your attention and affection,
really is. Do your best to avoid being unequally yoked:.2Corinthians
6:14. Similar
overall direction in outlook is important!
Treat a dog with kindness,
pet him often, feed him well and he will never leave you. The same system
works well with your mate!
Some people spend more time
loving their dog after a day away, than they do with each other. Apart
from perhaps a quick peck on the cheek or worse yet.
Sometimes you may get greeted by orders to wipe your feet when attention
and affection are lacking.
If your partner is rushing
from you to other things, give a little more direction. Perhaps a marked
route to a different city! Always be helpful! If they want to go, get 'em
outta there! Help them get going to where they think life may be better
for them.
A good woman will in action
and effect be saying 'here's my life'. Men should be aware of that! If
you don't have the one you like,
he or she is not for you:.Psalms
34:10 ".....they that seek the Lord do not lack any good thing."
One's gut feeling.(Psalms
7:9).is
an
emotion being
the result of feelings
and feelings denote
individuality of thought; that is, each thought is particular
to each individual at whatever moment he or she may have a thought and
produces corresponding
feelings.
For example, the word 'health'
will produce feelings in line with the thoughts an individual has about
health. They could be positive or negative. Winning a larger amount in
a lottery or getting a sizeable increase in salary will produce feelings
of excitement.."Feelings
are connected with the events. Why do your affairs go in such a way but
not another? The World is single and it is various in its singularity.
God's simplicity is trusting and He is as simple and transparent as you
have imagined, as you thought about Him before and He
is as kind and constructive as you knew it before. He is your Creator
and He gives you the way.
Go along His way since His way is your way.(the
Creator wants the best for you, just as you also want the best for yourself)."....Grigori
Grabovoi. We all have somewhat different feelings at different times
in our lives, as we have reacted to events and conditions attending events
in individual ways. Some of us just don't feel close to God sometimes.
Why?
It's important to be presently
minded.(what
does that mean?),
aware of what your moods.(a
mood is a continuing dominant
feeling fed by one's thoughts, which are the words he thinks that bring
forth meaning {he was in a happy mood}).and
feelings are because of the connection between them and the invisible
energy that brings things into manifestation for life, for living.
Keep your happy mood up. Don't allow your moods to be messy, that is, to
screw your life up. Keep up your happy mood with music
and meditation.
Feelings
are comprised of
thoughts which have been generated due to sensations
experienced and agreed with.(accepted
and adopted, thus
created in a person's experience).
Feelings produce potential for expression.(manifestation).and
mood states that are important to the individual, whether positive or negative,
contribute to the life a person experiences. Again, once accepted, feelings
comprise
one's dominant
mood, their daily state.
Take a little time to analyze why it is that you feel a certain
way and perhaps not another way that you may know of that could be a better
way.
Many thoughts that we have
daily just evaporate because they lack importance. We see many vehicles.
They have grabbed our immediate attention for one reason or the other,
but a few minutes later the impressions are gone. You can't recall the
vehicles you saw at what intersection ten minutes ago. They weren't important
to remember beyond the moment.
Feeling adds the power needed
to
make things matter. Thoughts are things in the mind, but it takes feeling
to give thoughts you may have the power in
order for them to come into physicality.
Impressions.(a
thought that is important enough to have lasting meaning).last
with feelings attached. Feeling makes it personal. We all feel somewhat
different about things that may make impressions upon us. Why?
Some are still so steeped
in ego concerns that they are
asleep and past feeling for anything that is not of selfish concern.
They are awaiting an awakening,
while being stuck on the road of dark
side influence:.Ephesians
4:18,19 "Having the understanding darkened, being alienated from the
life of God through the ignorance that is in them, because of the blindness
of their heart. Who being past feeling have given themselves over unto
lasciviousness.(well,
they had to do something with their lives since they weren't awakened yet),
to work all uncleanness with greediness." 1Thessalonians
5:6 "Therefore let us not sleep, as do others, but let us watch and
be sober."
It is what is important to
each of us individually that will manifest in life. We make certain things
important to us by what we think and do and have feelings about. If we
think and do, leaving high
consciousness things out of the picture.(because
we didn't really know any other way of living),
we are relegating
ourselves to the only thing left, the rocky road of ego
level living.
Here we remain stuck.(John
8:24).in
a
morass of confusion
and negativity and life reflects that back into our daily experience:.Romans
7:24.
If we think health is important,
we may research to find out what is best for us so that we can follow those
things. Those things that we take effort on have feeling to us, because
we have decided for whatever reason or reasons that they are important.
What is important to most
is what they lack and so their life produces what is shown to be important
to them by the feelings they have over things. To them it is important
if they don't have enough money, if they don't have the health they want,
if they don't have the life they want and so they get more of what is important
to them. They feel frustrated, hopeless, helpless, angry.(a
person's angry feelings are very important.to
them, just try and get them to see differently when they are in the
heat of anger and you'll find that out),
inadequate, depressed and sad. These negative feelings dispose
them to circumstances
aligned with those feelings; the law of attraction at work. People cannot
see the way out because they are in darkness and their ego keeps the door
closed and thus, the light out. What's the solution?.Romans
7:25. The solution is always a spiritual solution. The solution
will never be found at the same level that created the problems.
When good things are important
enough to remember with feeling, they will come into one's life. Feelings
based on love are outgoing, thereby creating a conduit
for expressions of benefit, benefit to you, benefit to others and thus,
a being aligned with the universal energy which is.only
love.
Emotions are thoughts that
have moved you mentally into greater thought, into greater
information. The motions of love are to give, help and share.
Once in harmony
with universal purpose of love, manifestation
of desire occurs. Feelings based on selfishness stifle
the person creating stuck energy.
One's thoughts become
real
when they are important to each person. We are always choosing what is
important to us. We are always reaping
what has been sown, but because we are
asleep spiritually when at the ego level, we wonder why all these things
are happening to us that we don't like.
Expressions of importance
are initiated
by word, movement, impression, voice inflection,
overall attitude, circumstance,
etc., the many and varied exchanges with others we have during the course
of our daily lives.."We
feel the emotion because the word.became
flesh."....Deepak
Chopra. We are always feeling, even when our conscious minds are asleep.
Feeling is aliveness. Feeling
is a thing of being alive. People on the pathway of death have little feeling,
lack light and sparkle, lack vibrancy, lack interest, lack hope, have dulled
senses and lack the things that the pathway of light and life would illuminate
for them. They are stuck on a negative pathway as a result of listening
to their ego.(what
choice did they have?,.none:.1Corinthians
15:21).and
allowing it to shut the door on light.
How
you feel creates your life. That's why positive minded persons have
better and healthier
lives. Become sensitive to the invisible
laws and they will protect you and keep you healthy.(how
it works), because by following them,
they will ensure that the connection
between the soul and the body are not slipping away.
Emotion
follows thought.
Are your emotions mature
or childish? Mature ones are those that you take responsibility for. Immature
emotions are those you feel others have caused in you, the way of the victim,
the way of those feeling abandoned, the way of the angry, the way of the
blamer, the way of the loser. When you can't talk about your feelings,
when you break down in tears for no reason you can put your finger on,
when you don't like a person for really no particular
reason, all these are irrational.reasonings
and show they come from your dark side, from your shadows. Dissipate
them. How?
Emotions are not usually
created when distanced from people and situations. It's the exposure to
information derived
from interaction with others that produces either good or bad emotions.
Check what emotion is arising
within you from time to time, to see if things are true. If you were called
an idiot, you know that's not true. If you were called or treated as if
you were stupid, you know that isn't true either. Ask youself in these
situations what's true of you. Don't allow others to make
your personality. Be on the qui
vive regarding allowing any thoughts to become emotionalized.
On the incoming side, the
impressions we receive and accept become part of our emotional makeup.
Joy
is an exciting emotion expressing happiness. Anger
is an emotion which express and excites displeasure.
One should be alert to their
feelings as he or she goes through life, for from these come what one's
future months and years on Earth will be like. Wrong emotions.(those
which do you and others no good).take
you on a long circuitous
route through life. Anger is one of the wrong emotions. Resentment is another.
Resentment is anger over a past happening.
We are here to learn and
learn we will. The Infinite who loves each of us, will make sure our life
ends up with good attitudes, that is, if we are not obstinate.
"Our feelings require an
outlet; they are oxygenated in speech. The price of retention is expression.
We must give them out if we would keep them in. We must lose them if we
would find them. Apply the policy of silence to the acquisition
of a truth and a truth that is never proclaimed
is never really known. Truth reserves her rarest beauties for the moment
when she is being shared. If we retain her we only see her partially;
if we give her away we see her 'in new lights'. In the moment of communication
she reveals an unsuspected wealth. The teacher gains more knowledge while
he is giving away what he knows."....Jowett
Matthew
10:39 "He that finds his life shall lose it and he that loses his life
for my sake finds it.".All
life speaks the message to us to 'get out there and do something good'.
Following your feelings may
involve getting information on that which you are contemplating
doing. Do not haphazardly
just 'jump into the fire'.
Once the excitement of dating
is attached to the day to day reality of living together, the maturity
or lack of it comes forth. Both must possess the maturity to stick
with the value in the relationship and be determined to be committed to
the relationship in order for it to progress. This requires patience,
dedication and givingness.
You've heard it before:
A 9 year old boy or girl can be more mature than a 40-60 year old.
How
can you tell? Can the person remain happy when he or she doesn't get their
way? Or does this trigger a mood change?
Mature individuals look to
be loving in all they do, as compared to immature
people who are always on the alert for personal advantage due to ego
pumping and its subsequent
expression. They have no
idea why it is they are the way they are. To become mature one needs
to listen to the light.
An immature person takes actions in life without much concern, if any,
for consequences
of those actions. They have not learned the 'reap
what you sow' invisible law of the universe.
Maturity occurs when a person
stops doing things just to be noticed and to become great, mostly thinking
of impressing some other and just wants to be
as real as possible, just wants to 'be'. Maturity is being sincere
and not playing games, not being
something that you are not. Avoiding phoniness
is one way. Another is being transparent
and this is virtually
impossible if one must keep something hidden that reflects upon him.
Young girls often miss looking
for a guy whose main quality is kindness, because they don't yet have the
knowledge of what they should be looking for. Young guys want a popular
girl who is equal to their level of intelligence. It's an ego
thing and that's where they may be in their life at the moment.
We all need more vision,
wisdom,
dedication and so on. From this comes maturity.
Maturity is still being happy
when you do not get your way. Mature emotions are you admitting you got
angry. Maturing is looking at one's
darker side.
Spirituality
is the road to maturity. Maturity is being grounded.(something
that serves as a foundation or means of attachment for something).
Grounded is knowing where you are going in life and that includes comprehending
the truth about death. Discuss death with someone
or learn about it.
And should you live together
first before a total commitment? Psychology Today Magazine, March/April
2000 said in effect, that it makes absolutely no difference as to making
a better relationship than if you had not.
Many however, lack desire
enough to gain and implement capabilities that are necessary to ensure
long standing love. Because of this, relationships often remain subject
to the vicissitudes
of living. They often become 'go nowhere' scenes.
Consequently, many give up
on one and seek another. They think the grass is greener on the other side
of the fence. And where is that going to leave
you?.Proverbs
6:24-29; Proverbs 26:12;.Proverbs
29:18 "Where there is no vision,
the people perish....."
If you find a man
who is willing and able to continually provide a home and relationship
for you, you should 'move heaven and Earth' to keep him. If a man finds
a lady who is willing to be a lifetime partner, he should likewise move
heaven and Earth to provide, love her faithfully and 'go the distance'
with her.
The pleasures of sex
wear thin,
When the heart is weary
within.
When the pleasures of
sex wear thin,
And the heart is weary
within,
The sex we have for pleasure,
We'll find unable to
keep us together.
