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First, the prize!

But stay away! Don't, don't, don't, don't, don't date until it's time for a mate. Why?

Ecclesiastes 7:26 "And I find more bitter than death the woman whose heart is snares and nets and her hands as bands. Whoso pleases God shall escape from her, but the sinner.(those still at the low consciousness level).shall be taken by her.(because they don't know any better)." Ecclesiastes 9:9 "Live joyfully with the wife whom you love all the days of the life of your vanity, which he has given you under the sun, all the days of your vanity, for that is your portion in this life and in your labour which you take under the sun."

-APPROACHES:.if you do know how to meet and attract women, you're going to have an inner confidence and 'cool' that other people can sense instantly.
Did you have to look at her for awhile? Consider in your mind whether or not you should feel attracted to her, then make a decision to feel it. If you're in a bar or club setting, try asking a woman or a group of women their opinin on something: "Hey, my friends and I were talking and we need a female perspective... What do you ladies think about this new trend of women being proud of paying their own way and buying their own things?"

If you're out in a public place, at a store where a woman is working or some other high-traffic place, you might try something like this. After chatting about whatever business you're doing there comment "Hey, are you single?" "Are you single?" is abrupt and most women have to do a double take to think for a moment. If she pauses, I say, "I'll take that as a yes...", which is pretty funny and usually gets a laugh. Say "It was nice talking to you. I'm going to get back to my friends... (or shopping, or whatever)" and as you turn away, turn back and say "Do you have email...?"; Wow! Another, walk up to her but keep your eyes not on her, but on the guy over there. What's up with those flip-flops? (or shirt, or tie, or whatever he has going on), still be looking at the guy...shaking your head a little...almost like you can't believe what you're seeing. At this point the woman will say something like, Excuse me? What did you say--...but you'll still be looking at the other guy. So here's what she'll do next: She'll follow your gaze to him. Now, if you're totally spot-on in picking out a genuinely cluelessly dork, here's what the woman will do next: She'll laugh. But why? And the bigger question. Why is this important to your success approaching women? It comes down to a simple, fail-proof math equation: Making a woman laugh = breaking the ice. What I'm saying is, it's basically scientific: Making a woman laugh releases certain chemicals in her brain......which then create certain feelings in her...which then lead to irresistible openness to being approached. Got that? It's why I just can't say it enough: Any time that you can make a woman laugh, do it! It instantly paves the way to success with her.

More on the details of how and why it works right here, It immediately proves you're not a 'wuss'. And like I always say...being a wuss is the fastest way to fail with women. When you show, in a humorous way, that you recognize another guy's cluelessness, it instantly pre-qualifies you to a woman. It tells her that you are not clueless and that you're worth spending time to get to know. These are both huge in determining how a woman will react to you when you approach. But fair warning: Before you try this one, make sure that you do have a clue when it comes to how you dress and your personal hygiene. Otherwise, the women will just look at you and laugh at you. So shower. Use deodorant. Make sure you're wearing neat, clean clothes with subdued style and colors - always a safe bet.

Walk up to the woman you'd like to meet and point this situation out to her. Just that simple. Say to her: "Wow. Look what's happening over there." Again, this one comes down to human nature... women can't get enough of watching guys trying to be smooth and make their move with other women. Don't believe it? So...find a guy who's in the process of hitting on a girl and you're set. Point it out, then share one of my favorite observations: Know why they call it 'hitting' on a woman? Because it's usually so painful for her. Right? This will pull a woman into the conversation with you for 2 reasons. Women are naturally intrigued by the moment of connection, especially when the scene is playing out live and in-person in front of them. If a woman's intelligent, she'll immediately laugh at the cocky and funny nature of your pointing this out to her...She'll realize the irony and confidence of your commenting on something that you're actually doing yourself at the same moment...approaching women!

Walk up to a woman and simply say "Did you hear what happened today?" Say this to any woman and it's guaranteed you'll have her full attention. Why? Again, proven science is behind this one...the fact that all human beings are hard-wired for news and gossip. Do a little homework before you go out. Check a news website and memorize the weirdest, funniest story you can find. You'll show her you're a man who's up on things and that's a great way to create attraction in women who value intelligence. (side note: Whereas men often see beautiful women as trophies, women often feel the same way about intelligent men). If you have a link to the story, you can offer to Email it to her. Now you'll have her Email.

Let's say you try one of these ice-breakers and the woman tells you "You're a funny guy, but you don't have a chance with me". Here's how to handle it: Immediately turn to a buddy you're with and tell him: "Okay, dude. You lost the bet. Pay up." Believe me...just uttering those words will snap a woman's attention to you. Continue to tell your friend "I told you she would totally blow it...that she was one of 'those' women. I could tell." Now you'll have her hook, line and sinker. Why? Because you've just set off about dozen alarms in her. She's now thinking to herself 'Wait a minute... what kind of bet was this about me?...What did I 'blow'?...What am I missing out on?' And most intriguing of all to her...'What kind of woman does he think I am?' At this point, she'll either try to prove you wrong about her by doing all the things that a successful approach would have caused her to do in the first place! or she won't do anything at all. If she does try to prove you wrong, excellent! You're back on track. If she doesn't, no big deal, just move on. Your only goal right now is to start making a woman feel interest in you the moment you open your mouth.

Instead of getting to the building where you work in the morning and saying nothing to anyone, get on the elevator and start saying "Good Morning!" to everyone. Instead of waiting for people to talk to you first, you say hello to them first. You have to look deep into your life and look at the things that have not been working. To get what you've never had, you have to do what you've never done.

Another one "Look, just because you're being sweet to me doesn't mean I'm going to sleep with you. What? You thought I was THAT easy? Come on! How can you possibly get any work done when you're flirting with me all the time? I know I'm a stud and all but if you lose your job, don't think I'm going to support you!"

After seeing a woman: "I know we had fun, but please don't become a stalker and call me 50 times a day or else I'll have the cops pay you a visit with a restraining order in hand!"

If a woman hints at sex or sometimes I'll bring it up: "I don't know if I could have sex with you...what if you could only last 2 minutes? I don't know if you can even kiss...I tell you what, I'll think about it" Then I kiss her.

Cocky+funny for a common situation - Her: "How are you?" Me: "Well, I've been told I'm pretty damn good!" with a 'wink'.

If a woman walks past me: Me: "What are you doing", or where are you going?" Her: "I'm going to such and such or I'm doing such and such". Me: "You're a lousy liar......It's really ok to admit you were just trying to get a look at me...and as long as you're not a stalker, I may give you a chance!".

If she makes fun of herself : Her: "I'm such a retard" or "My hair looks awful" or "My lipstick doesn't look good does it?" Me: "Well, I didn't want to say anything!" lol "But I think those guys over there were thinking 'What's her problem? She's so clueless!" or Her: "My hair looks bad doesn't it?" (or any other line where she makes fun of herself) Me: "You can say that again!" (with a playful tone). With this type of communication, they react so differently! This keeps you out of the 'lets just be friends' category.

Sometimes when I throw outa cocky+funny response, they will say "Oh whatever!" or roll their eyes or say you're mean, get mad, or something like that and walk away. This happens not often but on rare occasions. These women are probably uptight anyways and not worth getting to know. When they say "whatever" or "You're so mean" and they're laughing or smiling and they still keep talking to me, then I know it's working. Also, when you say something like: "...Oh quit lying, you were just walking near me because you want me" and they say "No, I don't want you" or "No I wasn't, I was just doing _ _ _ _ _" in a semi-serious tone, how do you respond to that to keep the cocky+funny going? In other words, what do you do when they act as if they are not picking you up? Have you seen animals 'play-fighting'. It's common among young animals in particular. You have to be a little 'overly suspicious' with your tone. You have to act just a little too serious and offended. The fact that you're turning the tables around, having fun and acting like you're something special sends the message that you're totally cool, calm and comfortable in your own skin... and, in fact, you're so comfortable that you're going to go immediately to 'play' mode. "OK, well I'm not going to give you my number, but you can write down your Email for me and maybe I'll get back to you sometime..." etc. It even makes taking things to the next level easy and charming, because you're 'resisting forward'.

The waitress: She walked over and said something like "Hi, can I get you something to drink?" etc. I pretended not to notice her and kept talking to my friend. Then, as she finished asking the question, I turned to her with a surprised and 'fake offended' look on my face and said "Oh, that's OK, I was just talking" (as if she had interrupted me). She opened her mouth with the "Oh, no you didn't! I can't believe you just said that" look. I shook my head at her. Then my friend looked at her and said "Wow, you're very forward. Next thing she's going to be asking for your phone number." I shook my head at her again and rolled my eyes. We gave her the drink order and she went away. She came back a few minutes later to tell me that my drink was going to be delayed, because they were making some kind of change in the kitchen. Of course, I threw up my hands in despair, rolled my eyes at her and shook my head (as if she was disappointing me horribly). She laughed and said "Hey, you'd better watch out, I might have to ask you for your phone number"

Realize that some people don't have a sense of humor. We humans always want the approval of the person who doesn't want to give it to us. Remember, some people actually enjoy making other people feel bad. Some women actually enjoy rejecting men. It gives them a feeling of power. There are many women who will spend all week shopping, two hours putting on their clothing and makeup and doing their hair, just to go out and get attention from men... so they can reject those men and complain to their friends about what 'losers' and 'pigs' men are and how they hate it when men look at them like a 'piece of meat'.

Part of growing up, becoming a real man and getting this area of your life handled, is realizing that not all women are nice people and not letting those that aren't nice affect you. You can reach a point in your life where your attitude should become "I do not give anyone permission to take my joy, happiness and good mood away from me." Learn the skill of keeping your power and joy for yourself and never giving it to someone you don't even know.

Christmas: go out, walk around with a stocking and have little things inside the stocking. Little candy canes, gobstoppers, little trinkets and walk up to women all the time and go "Listen, I'm one of Santa's great helpers. And I was wondering, were you naughty or nice this year?" The woman answers "Nice..." Then you look at her and go "Well, why were you so nice?" That gives her a chance to emotionally connect with you right there. Now if she says "Naughty" then you can say "Well tell me what made you so naughty this time of year!"

When he is introduced to a woman for the first time, he will just shake her hand and say "Hi" and then go back to whatever he is doing. Strangely, women that are around him always want to chat with this 'jerk'.

How to make a woman want you more by saying "No" at a crucial point where most guys say "Yes please!" Your approach must have an opening, middle and an end. Most guys die after the opening. From the moment you meet her, you must have fun together and she must be challenged, this is critical, most are too insecure to challenge her, make her qualify herself to you, ask her "So help me out here, what makes you so much more interesting and attractive than all these other women?" or use the ice cream test, where you walk up to her with a serious look on you face and ask her "Listen I have to know something, what's your favorite ice cream? When she answers, roll your eyes and moan "Ouch! Sorry, if you had said chocolate mint I would have let you have my number. Of course if you had said neopolitan I would have just walked away, so you still have a chance with me."

Women love fun conversations like this as it shows a guy with confidence who can take control of the situation. It's a challenge to stay in control and to keep challenging the woman which keeps the woman interested far into the future.

Women don't feel attraction for 'nice guys'; women never go to the next level with guys who are nice; the top 3 characteristics women have said they are looking for is Mysterious, Adventurous, Unpredictable, a 'bad boy' doesn't act like he cares at all what a woman thinks of him and this drives some women nuts, a 'bad boy' is always teasing a woman, messing with her without hurting her feelings, a 'bad boy' doesn't return her phone calls when she thinks he will and he doesn't always call when he says he will (the suspense is a killer, makes them obsess about a guy; a 'bad boy' isn't always available to hang out when and where she wants him to; a 'bad boy' makes it very hard to tell if he likes a woman or not; a 'bad boy' says and does things she doesn't expect; to give off the 'bad boy' aura as soon as possible, approach her with the assumption that something is wrong with her, something that's going to annoy the hell out of you, bother you and maybe screw up chances with you, so as you approach her look for something small she does wrong like fumbling a word, not making eye contact, nervously twirling her hair and point it out to her right away, shake your head in an overly dramatic way fake annoyed way "Wow, I can see this relationship just isn't going to work out by the way you are 'doing whatever she's doing', or go "What did I tell you about this kind of behavior?" In other words do something that sends her the opposite of the wussy signal of 'I'll do anything for you, I'm so into you'. Women don't want insipid 'wussies'. Communicate that you are the kind of man that can make fun of her without giving a damn what she thinks of you; she'll place you into that slightly dangerous, awesomely unpredictable bad boy category and you'll have her attention. So, care less how things turn out.

The first thing women do is to see if they can intimidate and control. The second thing is they write you off if they can do the first thing. You can broadcast that confident in control signal by telling her that you're doing something interesting later and that she can feel free to come along if she wants. This way you are not asking her out which is the fastest way to lose control.

Dating: Never start asking her to make suggestions about a date. Telling a woman that you 'like her' is a pathway to hell. It is one of the worst things you can do. If you want a woman to know that you like her, the best way is to have her figure it out by the fact that you guys are getting physically involved. Telling her is bad because it takes the magic, the suspense, the mystery out of the situation. It pops the balloon. It kills the chemistry.

Keep a date light and fun. Do not get too formal or guarded. Remember this which is another common dating mistake, don't over dress and don't buy her a gift on the first date. The main reason girls agree to go on first date is because she thinks that she will be having fun with you. It is not about the things you are inviting her out to do, but it is all about how much fun she thinks she will have when she is out with you. Ever noticed that most men when asking a girl out for the first time tend to be very serious? No wonder they get rejected. Where is the fun for being serious? It is as simple as that! Let her know exactly where you want to go, what time you want to pick her up and what you want her to wear. Be doing things that other guys wouldn't offer, like a glass of wine in some tower restaurant bar, a bike ride expedition, or a sunrise outing to play Frisbee in the park. Always come off as in demand.

Turn to your buddy right in the middle of a conversation with her and talk to him. Never introduce yourself until a woman asks for your name first. Tell her that you don't like being treated like a sex object, that you had better not try the 'buy me a drink' trick just to get a date. The things that don't make sense are the things that work. When a person is in a public area it is only natural for her to look around observing what is going on. So when you notice an attractive girl you are interested in, wait until she looks at your direction and sees you. The moment when this happens, just gaze into her eyes and hold the gaze. At this juncture, you have 2 choices to make. You either hold the eye contact until she looks away or hold the eye contact and flirt with her by flashing an over exaggerated face that will make her smile or even laugh. Think of Jim Carrey. Most people display a serious demeanor when they are in a public setting. So you can set yourself apart from the dull faces everywhere by displaying a funny attitude when the woman sees you. Women use eye contact to show their interest in guys and so if the girl laughs, smiles, or displays any sign of interest because of your facial gymnastics, then she have already given you the 'come over approach me signal' which is your unwritten invitation to walk over and start a conversation.

Common techniques in flirting this way is to give the woman a slightly childish look or you can stick out your tongue, put on a pouty look, a naughty wink, or display a demure and mock embarrassed expression. You may also want to try giving her a fake angry look and then quickly break into a smile or tilt your head like the 'what's up' expression or send a cute quick wave. A simple smile and a friendly attitude can be the best opener you will ever need. When using this, approach women technique, don't be surprised if she looks away from you at first. This is because making first contact with a total stranger can be rather uncomfortable for many people, so try this approach a few times and you will notice that most of the time, the girls will look away and then after a few seconds, she will turn to look at you again. When she looks at you again, it is time to up the ante by smiling, nodding your head at her, raising your glass to toast her or simply walk over and start a conversation! The more playful you are, the more open she will be to you. If a woman makes eye contact 3 times in a row it means she wants you to approach her and start a conversation. Don't do anything to kill the magic, the suspense, the mystery and the sexual tension out of the situation. Approach right away.

Women want a man of action. If you connect with someone you want to see them again. Women go on energy of the man. Never whine or complain or about being single, or her age? Unless it's how you ask it. Ask it with a bit of suspiciousness. Have a grin like George Clooney.

The power of walkaway. Have fun with her. Energy bars she's buying if you see her doing so. Hey! That's not a good brand. Grab it, explain why it's so, then walk away. Leave 'em wanting more of the fun they had. Turn around and say "Hey! I want you to text me after you eat it. Just text Good or bad".

Walk differently toward her, like you are on a stage, slow. Don't be as the others walking around quickly in a daze. Don't let things take you off you course. Men who can hold a women's gaze for about 5 or 6 seconds and then when you smile you are judged to be strong in character and this triggers off "Hi, I realize that you are probably shy because you get no attention from men...so I thought I'd come over here and give you some attention". It's obvious that you are not being serious. The difference between play fighting and play wrestling and the real – you just know. If you know how to communicate the right way, women will respond to you from the beginning with a high level of sexual interest and attraction. Have a combination of arrogance and humor. If she says have a good day, say "don't tell me what to do, I don't even know you and you're ordering me around". Laughter has a function. You act like you got a criminal record.

"Would you consider me rude if I was to get ahead of you in line?" If yes, then get in front of her and say "at least I got some consideration from you". "Are you in this line for a beverage or to give consideration?" "For a beverage". "Me too!" "Are you in a considerate mood?" "Good, then consider buying me a coffee". She sayus "What'll I get if I buy you a coffee?" "It's not what you get if you buy, it's what you get if you don't." "And what's that?" "You'll have to not buy me a coffee to find out." (what she gets is to keep the money she would have spent to buy you a coffee). If she says "not for you I'm not", say, "I'm glad you told me that, what days are you unselfish?"

Share food and cut the bigger piece for yourself. Kiss your own hand. "You're so nice for a short girl". Turn a compliment around. "You sure dress nice for someone who likes styles of the 50's". Lean in to her and speak into her ear, then lean back, say something back to her that she said to you, "so what you saying is...". Don't say cheesy things to her.

Everything in life is about the subconscious. Women are fluent in the language of sexual communication. Flirting creates attraction. Flirting is picking out an object she is attached to and asking about it. Have a good time with 'em. "Can I check your oil for you? The best openers are the ones that get the moment done. Effective attraction is projecting confidence and indifference both in your voice tone and body language. As you do it a 'secret language' that men and women use to communicate on a 'sexual level', a language unseen at the surface emerges. You have to spark and amplify the attraction. Talk to some girls so you can get attention of other girls. Have fun with them. Note how she stands. Her: "I have a good job and I make good money". Me: "Nice. I like that in a woman. Want to get married? We could leave for Vegas right now and be married in about 4 or 5 hours. I need a woman with money." Her: "OK, that sounds like a plan" Me: "But wait a minute... do you think you can support the both of us on your income? I really want to be a stay at home husband... you know, keep an eye on the TV and such." Her: "Oh, no... I won't support you." Me: "Well, then I'm breaking up with you. It's over between us. I was going to marry you, then divorce you a week later and take half your money." Her: "You can't break up with me! I'm not even your girlfriend." Me: "That's all the more reason." I'm taking a normal conversation topic (her job and income) and redirecting the conversation in a flirtatious, cocky and funny way to create a fun mood and sexual tension (by suggesting marriage, divorce and breaking up over her not supporting me, etc.). Try it on a waitress or two. When you ask for something and she says "I'm sorry, we don't have that" just say "OK, this relationship isn't working out... I'm going to have to break up with you." In fact, you can say this in just about any situation with any woman where she's saying something that you don't like and it's funny.

There are a lot of ways you can flirt and a lot of ways you can be cocky and funny that don't require words. If a woman looks at you and raises one eyebrow, look back at her and do the same... only exaggerate it. If a woman puts her hand on your arm, look down at it, then look up at her in a surprised way, then raise your eyebrows as if you just had a major 'ah ha!' realization... then start smiling and nodding your head as if you just realized that she wants you. This is a powerful combination because it's funny and it exaggerates the meaning in her touching you. There are a million ways to flirt like this, but the point that I'm trying to make is that you need to start doing it right from the beginning of your interactions with women. The righteous (when you know you're right and that's when you have the other's overall best interest at heart) are bold as a lion and sees no boundaries between you and others. Everything around you exists because of your interaction with it as quantum physics has shown. When you stop interacting, it withers away. Never have a passionless approach to life.

Pick up line: A one word pick up line that can be followed by almost anything – After I've talked to a woman for about 3 or 4 minutes, I'll often say something like "Well, it was nice meeting you. I'm going to get back to my friends." They usually don't know what to do, as they're used to guys clinging to them. Most of the time, they say "It was nice meeting you too." Then, just as I'm turning to walk away and we kind of disconnect, I turn back and say "Hey! Do you have Email?" The "Hey!" is a bit surprising and "Do you have email" is non-threatening. In fact, I'm technically asking her if she has email, not if she'll give it to me. If she says "yes" I take out a pen and paper and say "Great, write it down for me" and I have her write it down. This is great, as I just treat the 'yes' that they give me as a yes to get it from them as well. And they've almost all gone along with it so far. Then as she's in the middle of writing, I say "Write your number down there too". Most women will give out an Email address without thinking about it, because they know that they can choose later to just not answer. If you communicate that you're a 'low status guy' and most guys do, you will blow it big time. Learn by paying attention to high status people. No one cares whether or not you figure this stuff out with women and no one cares whether or not you're successful with women...other than you. If you do these things, you'll begin to reprogram yourself and change your negative programming into positive programming and success. The more you improve, the more you'll want to improve and the easier it will become. If you want to make friends with a cat, the best tactic is to ignore it. Same goes when you date younger women. Like I just mentioned, younger women have often just escaped from controlling parents, structured lives and zero freedom. So don't chase. Let her live her life. Make yourself more scarce, you'll have her pursuing you. As a rule of thumb, don't see her more than once a week and don't talk to her more than once or twice a week unless you want her to start becoming very attached to you.

Humans don't understand the message that we're communicating to each other; we think that because we want to communicate a message, that others are going to naturally understand what it is we are trying to say; don't do things to let a woman know how you feel, it's an instant 'yuk' reaction in her that kills attraction and creates negative tension in the relationship and this is repulsive to women and repels them. Never do something that confesses you have created a turning point in the relationship. I personally believe that TELLING a woman that you 'like her' is one of the WORST things you can do. TELLING her is bad because it takes the magic, the suspense, the mystery and the tension out of the situation. Another thought: When you're with an inexperienced woman, it's sometimes a good idea to 'dial down' the ball-busting and the cocky and funny a bit. You've got to use some wisdom here. Be nice to her with your behavior. Tell her that she walks slower than your grandmother, then open all doors for her. Tell her she's too uptight (if she is) and that she needs to settle down because it's annoying and then rub her shoulders. Attractive women know they can have anything they want so don't give it to them. Remember be counterintuitive. When you say 'I like you' - in her head the woman hears "He is admitting to me that he likes me, which gives me all the power, which, for some strange reason, makes me not like him as much anymore". The power shifted from you to her. You felt it and she felt it. At the same moment you were realizing that you just did something wrong, she was realizing that she owned you. Respect is therefore gone. You're outta there baby! Try again with another.

One of the best things you can do is learn to pause before you respond to anything if she says something that indicates that she's not happy with you or your behavior, pause, don't respond. Stay still. Keep the mouth shut and the brain operating. If you have to, run everything through your mental 'Wussy Analyzer'. Decide if the response you're going to give her is to get her approval and if it is, stop. Do not be out to get her approval! Don't do things that hand over the power in the relationship. Don't let the things a woman says shake you emotionally and intimidate (lose self confidence) you. If you want to 'tell' a woman that you 'like her' the best way to do it is to advance physically. In other words, take things to the next level. Do something, don't say something. Words are to be used when actions don't work better. Do not 'tell her how you feel'. How you feel they already know anyhow. Don't do what makes sense to you. Watch her signals and don't get heavier than her. When two people meet it's not the surface communication, it's on the primal level, the subconscious level. It's your beliefs that hold you back and reflect back to you through the interaction with her. Don't be another link in the sausage chain of life.

Women love the fact that you're paying attention to them in a way that's interesting, entertaining, funny and unpredictable. Women want you to be the man you are naturally. Avoid being a squishy pussyfoot looking for approval.

"Well, are you straight? Well, I just couldn't be sure. You seemed a little bit not normal. Once you get her on the defensive, in a fun way, keep going "Ok, that's good, but can you cook?" 

Women feel attraction to men who make them feel; not logical conversation about work, family, school, jobs, politics, religion, weather, anything that has to do with math, science or technical stuff. Engage in an emotional conversation like "Ok, tell me something, why is it that all women say that they want sweet nice guys, but they all date sexy, selfish bad boys?" and then make fun of any answer she gives. That's an emotional conversation.

Women have an amazing 'he doesn't get it' radar system. Be real. Be natural, no canned approaches. Try saying "I just couldn't help noticing you... (pause)... staring at me..." That's funny. Or say "Do you always maintain such strong eye contact? or only with guys like me that you can't help it with?" Understand what is going on... and then knowing exactly what to do in each situation.

Meet someone in a fast paced environment: "This sure is a fast paced place, do you like it? What do you do?" "What, couldn't you get a real job?"

Give her the gift of missing you. Stay busy. "What am I going to get paid for babysitting tonight?" or even better say "Did this stuff work on your dad? Why didn't he spank you more?" Nothing better than hitting the nail right on the head, if you catch my meaning. Don't be a wussy. Make sure you're funny while you're not being a wussy. "Listen here, I called you so I could hear you complain and I'll laugh."

Lose the need to have every woman like you. Next time a woman complains about herself or tries to get attention, just make it far worse than she ever thought it could be. If she says "My hair makes me look soooo ugly" just reply "You know, I wasn't going to say anything, but... ..."

Remember cocky and funny. I asked her "Do you actually come here often because this place sucks!" She was just like "Oh my God, this place does not suck! My friend works here!". Then I said "Yeah, well my friend used to work here and I don't blame her for quitting". We chatted for a bit and I made fun of her big ass and called her a j-lo wanna-be. Here is where it got really good. When my roommate and I decided it was time to get the hell out of there, I asked her for her Email. When she said she didn't have one, I asked if she ever used electricity and bam! I get a huge laugh! So I told her to give me her number and as she wrote it down I drilled her by asking if this is a number that she will actually answer. She writes 'maybe' under the number. As soon as I saw that I was like uhm, you know what, a 'maybe' to her, I said "You can have this back, I don't need it. It was nice meeting you, bye." My roommate and I leave. The story doesn't end there! Two weeks later, I get a call at work and it's her! The piece of paper that she wrote her phone number down was the back of my business card!  Nice! We've gone out a few times since then and the difference that makes the difference is indifference (not mattering one way or the other; having no marked feeling for or against; having no particular interest in or concern for). What I'm doing is not only looking for key words to latch onto, but I'm also looking for ways  to spin them to make fun, tease and subtly suggest various kinds of 'racy' topics. To tease, be strong. Challenge her. Be adventurous. Connect with her as just as another person. If she is interested in you and the conversation you are having, she will stand there and listen to everything you have to say. When she's not into you, her eyes will start darting across the room, hoping for her friend or some other more interesting guy to come rescue her. Claim their own space and walk over with confidence and start great conversations with women everywhere they go. When I go out, I talk to girls everywhere.

Quick, 30-second conversations. Use the 5 w's
David: "Why do you need a mocha chino today?"
woman: "It just reminds me of this trip I took."
David: "Really, when did you go on that trip?"
woman: "Years ago I went on a trip with a really good friend of mine and we had 
an awesome time."
David: "Where did you go?"
woman: "We took a summer road trip up the coast."
David: "That sounds really fun! How long have you two been friends?"
woman: "She and I have been friends since grade school."
David: "When is the last time you talked to her? What did you guys used to like to do together?"
woman: "I haven't talked to her in a couple years since she started having kids. 
We used to take a trip together every year to a different place."

If there's no chemistry, if she doesn't want to talk to me, I move on. I don't stand around in a shitty conversation, struggling to make things happen and wait to be 
blocked out by some guy she likes better than me. When I'm having a conversation with a woman, I'm not just listening for any key word... I'm listening 
for a particular kind of key word or words. I'm always on the alert for any words 
or phrases that can be twisted, turned around, misinterpreted and misconstrued 
(taken differently) in one of a few particular ways...namely in a way that says she's stupid, ditzy, sexually crazed or acting suspicious. "That's an unusual looking dress you're wearing. Was that made out of a shower curtain?" She says "You are mean! No, I bought this from the Old Navy store." Key words: old navy. "Oh, so you're in the navy, huh?" "No silly. You know, the big store over at the mall." key word: mall. "Oh, so you like going to the mall and buying strange looking dresses do you? do your girlfriends buy them also?" "My girlfriends are neat dressers and my dress is very popular I'll have you know!" key phrases: "girlfriends are neat dressers" and "dress is popular". "Well, if your girlfriends are neat dressers in a popular dress like you're wearing then I'm going into the shower curtain clothing business..." she says "No, I bought this from the old navy store..." instead of just keying into 'navy' and saying "Oh, so you're in the navy, huh?", why not take it to the next step and actually make fun of her. "Oh, so is this what guys used to wear in the navy a long time ago... in the old navy?" She said "Well, i'm getting tired. I think it's time for me to go home." "Go home?! I just 
met you. I'm not going home with you!" she said "No, I mean I'm going home. I'm
tired." Guy shoots back "Maybe you don't hear me. I'm not going home with you, so don't even ask anymore." She said "No, that's not what I'm saying..." He replied "And besides, I'm sure my place is nicer than yours... so if anything, you're coming home with me." This went on and on for about an hour or so. And you guessed it, 
she went home with me.

His friend was talking to a girl at a club and she was talking about what kinds of things she enjoyed doing with her spare time. She said "I like to go clubbing..." He came back with "Oh, like baby seals?" lol Now, that might not get a girl to come home with you, but it's damn funny. Love it. This technique is great for keeping a conversation fresh, fun, unpredictable and funny if you know how to do it just right. 

While being videotaped we had to get the person talking and keep them talking for 30 minutes. One important note: if a person brings up something personal or whatever, they wouldn't have mentioned it if they didn't want to talk about it. These are great to key in on. My subject mentioned she was going through a divorce and her ex-husband was a total jerk. Jerks are like junk food to a woman, 'nice guys, wussies' are like health food. I keyed in on this and it's amazing what a total stranger will tell you once you build a littlerapport.

1) You start a conversation with however you want then mentally note key words or phrases from what the person says. 2) You repeat them in what you 
say, then listen for new key words in their next response. 3) You add a little 
something new into the conversation repeating their words you're using as key 
words or phrases. This tells them you're listening, even though you're turning 
things around to be cocky and funny in this situation. Now you're busting on her as well and it's funny. 

"You're cute but is it the gardener who cut your hair? A woman wants a connection – always!; Hey! Your fly is open. "Wow, your shoes are cute. did you buy them new?" "Your hair is pretty. Did your mom do it for you?" "Nice car if 
you're homeless." "Is your car insurance too high? "How's your day going?" "It's ok." "Why just ok? "Like your bracelet!" "Yeah got that in Italy." "Wow. What's your favorite place there?" Keep her lips moving. "You like Indian food?"

Figure out what's going on inside her head. No right thing to say. Trust yourself. Wrong thing to say is to say nothing. Be good at improve. A fun game to play when out with your friends that practically forces you to meet every woman in the place without fear of getting rejected. "Hey! These good looking guys at the table over there bet that you would easily come over and meet them." It's a great line to say when a woman rejects you that 9 times out of 10 gets her laughing and interested in you. "Let me show you the woman who rejected me months ago who's here (pick a fat one), see, she felt so bad after, she's been eating comfort food ever since just trying to get over me and now she gets nobody." "Is it women's intuition that keeps bringing them the same losers time after time? When it comes to making decisions about what to do in your dating life, who do you trust, your mom or your frumpy friends? Friends are meant to agree with you, so you stay locked in ignominy (don't change).

From Leil Lowndes book: Don't disconnect if you want to meet a great woman. Women need leadership in a man, that's number 1. Use your eyes to manipulate -  instantly connect with anyone.

After she speaks continue gazing into and around her eyes. Playing hard to get means emotionally unavailable. If she returns your calls days later and then asks you what your weekend idea is, she is playing games. Look for reciprocal interest. Always be indifferent. If they say "I love you sooooo much" say "I know, you should, I don't blame you. Well, I would if I were you."

Cocky and funny: "You aren't a brat (a spoiled ill mannered child) are you. I can see in you're eyes and smile you're a brat." Or, "You aren't one of those bratty girls are you?" She "What if I want to be?" "Then I'd have to spank you, nah, you might like it too much if I did." If yes, "Hmmm! I usually don't have sex on the first date." Treat them like your bratty little sister. Men have to do something to 
keep a women's attention. Back off from sex when she's warming up to it. Know there is much more to life than that, but know also, most women think that men lacking depth of character want just sex and then they're gone, because both men and women of low consciousness are not really ready for a long term relationship.

On being yourself; if you not getting any mate in the first place, how is acting more like you are going to change things? Being yourself, your real self, is more important than being positive in some acting image you think would be better.

All desire though, is desire to fully 'be'. So, be yourself, your best self and you'll be able to see if the other you are attracted to is also that way. Don't be a phoney jerk! Don't feel any pressure to be some way you may think the other would be more acceptable of you. That's weakness. 

"Be yourself. Everybody else is already taken."....Oscar Wilde.

People lose desire for each other because they are no longer emotionally connecting. They are losing the oneness they once had or wanted to have.

Really great sex involves both the anticipation of what's happening in the moment and what's going to happen next. You don't want the same sex forever or the same type of relationship forever. Both need to take efforts to continually be progressing. Why? We need to improve in all areas all the time if we all want to experience a deeper connection, be more erotic and more passionate than before. Nothing in life should ever be the same. Life is about getting to new levels with your partner. Never expect anything back from anyone, like they owe you something. What's your value to another? Not what can they do for you, but what can you do for them.

Be creative: Create sensuality and passion in every aspect of the relationship. Sufficient eye contact creates fire. As you enjoy her face your pupils dilate and this makes you more attractive. Instantly like others.

Lesson: Always have a better answer when they try to take control.

Avoid being a wussy. Wussys share feelings and tell her how they feel about her. Wussys are needy, seeking approval and they act submissive and justify and explain themselves. Wussy behavior involves thinking that you're not worth her time. A wussy can't maintain eye contact. A wussy has slumped, submissive posture and fidgets nervously. A wussy gives away his power and looks for attention and approval from others. In that moment when he loses his balance, she instantly and unconsciously has that gut-level 'wuss' response and the door slams shut. Do you talk with power in your voice? Do you have direct eye contact? Forget techniques of idiots and live from your heart.

Note the emotion on a woman's face. Are they confused? Go up and say "Why are you so confused today". Here you lock into what's presently in her mind. Again. women are attracted to strong powerful confident men. Be a strong man with eye contact. Don't look around. Smile if it's appropriate to what she says. Humor can 
create an emotional bond.

Develop ideas for sparking and building attraction; you have to tease her and make her laugh. If she compliments you, don't react like a jackass wussy dork who has just seen his first rainbow. 

Don't let her know how you exactly feel. Be a sexy, arrogant, funny, wildcard 
personality. "High heels? What's the deal? are you four feet tall without those? Oh, I'm sorry, on second thought you must be four foot three" She says "You're funny." You "Yeah, I know."

If she says "Don't try to use compliments to make me like you. It won't work. Buy 
me something. I prefer gifts and money." Look down at her hand on your arm, lean back slightly, turn your head and put your eyebrows together as if to say just 
what do you think you're doing touching me? Turns up the tension. Mental 
anticipation is the key to getting women turned on. Start and then stop at every 
base and don't touch her 'r' rated areas. A man's sexual confidence must bring 
out the sex desire in women. Women are more attracted and sexually aroused
initially and 'turned on' when they interact with a man that has certain qualities and personality traits. I have a girlfriend who is a perfect 10, but she has the worst luck with men. Know why? They are too nice to her!!!!!!!! I was sitting out by the pool with her this past weekend and listening to her talk about the latest guy she's dating. He's cute, attentive, sweet, thoughtful, generous, funny and a tiger in bed!! but, she told me that he isn't the 'one'. I asked her why and this is 
exactly what she said "He's too agreeable. Everything I say is ok with him. Anything I want to do, go or think is ok with him. I'm getting bored. He doesn't have enough personality for me. He's always smiling and my thirteen year old daughter even says he's a wuss for being so nice all the time. I want a man who's a challenge."

Don't get serious too quickly. Many, if not most, of the really attractive women that you see out on the town are really out to get attention. In other words, they're not looking to meet a 'good' guy. They're not looking to find someone who will treat them well. They're not looking for 'love'. They're looking to fill an empty part of their self-image. This is how the ordinary consciousness level presents itself in actions in such women who have not taken the next step in consciousness. In other ways, a woman's ego is similar to a man's ego.

Attention makes many women feel good. Some women actually enjoy getting attention from guys, then acting like they don't like it. Hey, I never said women made sense, but again, do men? Women seem mainly attracted to guys who are unpredictable, uncontrollable, challenging, dominant, often like in a James Bond movie. The key to making women feel attraction to you is to be interesting, to be unpredictable, to be fun and challenging.

Attraction: A woman doesn't have to like you to feel attraction for you. the 
attraction happens on its own, regardless of other things happening at the same time. The reality of women being attracted to the inner man is even more true than even I thought. Learn how attraction works for women. Learn what to do up front to give her those emotional/physical feelings inside. There are several 
techniques that you can use to make sure you create attraction with that woman you feel may be the special one. I'm not talking about manipulating her or lying to her, but learning a different way of expressing yourself through words, body language and attitude that will make her begin to think you just may be the man of her dreams and keep you out the the mundane 'best friend' status. 

We all have limiting beliefs about women and they too, about men. You don't need to have money or looks, etc., in order to be attractive if you are a man or a woman. Why? The link is about how an unattractive person can become attractive.

Conversation: How to start a conversation with a woman.

The man must lead the conversation and take it where he may want it to go. Watch for signs of interest, is her face flat, eyes looking elsewhere. This equals that your subject is not interesting. Does she look away = bored. It's crucial that your conversation be exciting and entertaining right out of the gate. In other 
words avoid routine conversation at all costs. You have to be constantly increasing her impression regarding you - 'come over later and see me, I'm busy now', or she'll move on to the next guy, having discounted you. Learn good conversation methods.

When walking over to meet a woman you may be attracted to, be thinking 
of the funniest moment of your life. That will put a smile on your face as you say 
to her "What are you shy or something?" When she acts all confused and says "No, why?" you answer "Because I've been sitting at the next table for at least a 
half hour and you haven't come over to say hi to me!"

After you've opened up the conversation this way, immediately begin to take control of the situation. Ramp up her interest and intrigue by 'shifting the power' from her to you. How? Tell her you want to set her up on a date. Pick out some funny looking goofily dressed guy for her around where you are "I think this guy would be interesting date."

Take women out to do regular things with you. Go to the grocery store. Maybe out to buy a book. Maybe to the mall to pick things up.

Women hate dealing with followers. Wussies are quickly discarded. Leading 
creates attraction. Woman asks am I cute, well, those two matching pimples on your forehead do draw attention you your face and don't get mad cause I'm cuter than you." Play with her to spark that initial emotional good fun tension and chemistry. 

Women can smell a victim attitude a 100 miles away and it's not attractive. Challenge her on issues. Use the start and stop technique. Get her intently involved in the beginning of a relationship and back off. Don't be so analytical in having to know everything before you do anything.

Conversation is the key, sharpen it up by talking to whomever you come across; women tend to love conversations about drama, conflict, romance, famous peoples lives. Play amateur psychologist to the stars, talk about how someone famous is doing something really stupid, then psychoanalyze them. Famous people seem to love to do crazy things, like cheat on their partners and say I didn't do it. Analyze what's going on with a group or a couple perhaps on their first date. Discuss their body language. Talk about the problems others are having when it comes to love and romance with your ridiculous theories about what's going on. Is it true women who gain weight are actually lesbians? Make sure it's all funny! Avoid negative topics and also chess, computers, comic books, Star Wars, wrestling. Don't talk about things that make you look like a loser or a wussbag.

Love, real love, is not created in the brain. The brain is a processor of information from one's connection with the Soul of all and this is where your memories are residing at. All energy is stored before materialization in what we call the Soul. For example, dinner last night, what was it? Your first girlfriend's kiss. What was it like? Before asking those questions, information was only virtual (existing or resulting in essence or effect though not in actual fact, form, or name, only in potential; like electricity, it has potential and when used, you have tapped its potential) until we summoned it.

Your body believes what your mind tells it (see Bruce Lipton's informational video).

Test your connection with the Soul. Imagine a lemon you are biting into and your saliva runs. Another test is, the more negativity you see the greater is the separation from the source of all that is, the Soul. One's taste buds change every 6 weeks, but you still remember what a strawberry shortcake tastes like. Stomach cells change every 3 days, but you still remember what hot and cold feels like in your tummy. Skin changes every 3 weeks, but new skin still has the same scars. All these because memory outlives the death of the molecules on which they ride.

By learning about your body, you'll have more confidence and this spills over into even your dating.

Where does attention come from? Be quiet and see where attention drifts to in your body. Ask yourself why it would drift there. In doing so, you are summoning information from the Soul and your personal pattern in it.

More good topics for conversing when dating: Why do many people love Calgary? Do you think elected leaders are a result of collective consciousness? What are your favorits movies? Mama Mia, Wyatt Earp, bank job movies like The Italian Job. What foods? Colors? (describe color yellow); favorite places, books, tastes, scents; current eventss (Are the oil sands boom or blight? What do you most dislike; wish for mostly. What about the new light bulbs? Death? Burning water? Favorite fabrics (hemp, wool, cotton, synthetic blends).

Is is this the age of knowledge or wisdom (ask her what is wisdom)? You can ask What is the highlight of your day? or Tell me a story? Here you find out if she can use her imagination or if she's ditzy. How do you find peace in your daily 
life? Let's play definitions. What is hostility? Remembered pain accompanied with the desire to get even. Fear is anticipation of pain in the future. Guilt is self-directed pain when you blame yourself. Depression is depletion of energy due to the other definitions. What causes victim mentality? Harboring resentment. What are the levels of existence? What is religion? Trying to figure out the spirit with the ego mind. What feelings do you have that you desire to yet experience.

Childlike? Be a child again, ice cream cones, playing games with clouds. Committed to someone means to have enough love and understanding to let the other person be who he or she wants to be. Is love a feeling? Love isn't a feeling, it's a state of being. Do you feel that with me you are part of something much bigger than ourselves?

Does she suppose.irrationally? Is she airy-fairy or lives with a good sense of reality? Talk about interesting things, hidden dimensions to our existence. How does a spider know when to stop making its web and run the final thread to its lair? Talk about word meanings, chrysalis, reductionism. When is one spiritual? You are spiritual when you stop pretending that God is anywhere but in you. Why does air sustain all life? How can we expand our lives?."It's in raising our awareness that we expand our lives."....Bob Proctor. 

What do you know about the 100th monkey? When about a hundred monkeys on an island learned something, monkeys on an island.completely separated.picked up the same habit; showing that underneath the atom, all is consciousness and connected. That's the lesson of the 100th monkey. 

Talk about that people say there's a reason for everything that's happening, but when asked about what that reason could be, they often come up short. Does this mean life is determined and if so, to what extent? 

Have you heard about heliotherapy? It's using full spectrum light to treat physical and mental problems. You know, SAD (Seasonal Affected Disorder) where lack of the Sun causes issues of not feeling optimum physically and emotionally. Where does reality begin and end? Without a time measurement apparatus such as clocks, would we have time? And just what is time other than a concept, a psychological event we have invented in order to explain our experience of change.

What do we think we are? We have enclosed ourselves in a prison of space, time and causation, squeezed ourselves into the volume of a body and the span of a lifetime, when in fact we are limitless, unbounded. Did the universe have a beginning? What do you think about evolution? The ability to read never 
disappeared, never adapted out. Why?

Why do people restrain their passions, their hopes, their dreams? People restrain their passions because they feel life will be made safer. They don't have the willingness to look deep inside them. Iimagine a baby. It doesn't fear walking, looking stupid, falling. What do you think caused this type of programming in us? What do you think about what Nietzsche said? Experience in life is as a result of one's reservations."Although we live under the assumption that we think, it's more likely that we are being thought."....Nietzsche.

Where does reality start and end?; Ask yourself what's the best thing to talk with her about? And then just go and talk with her. Become a good conversationalist which is an interesting conversationalist. Observe what women are doing around 
you and  observe what women are doing in general.

What type of emotion does she have on her face? Women are looking for simplicity. Talk to a women based on what's happening inside her mind and then listen, because all she then says is the key to further conversation. Remember women are attracted to strong, confident, men, not wussies. Look directly at her and smile as much as you can. Face her directly and use eye contact. Avoid approach anxiety. Instead, have confidence. Be in a nickname 
relationship right from the beginning. Give her a nice nickname and let her give you one. In this dissertation you are learning to avoid the typical mistakes that most guys make that kill attraction.

Leave people nourished by your conversation. Become friends with everyone, everywhere, so you can go back again and they'll come to you. Women are always attracted to the guy who talks first. Most guys walk up to a woman as some sort of wounded animal.

Have the attitude that if she doesn't go out with you don't care. You care about the higher things of life, far above rejection. Approach women as though that's a part of you that they must know. If they're not open to it, move on. You attract what it is you are, not what you want. You're really not self-validated if you don't forget a woman's rejection 30 seconds later.

Observe and talk about what's going on in the moment. If you know you doing all right then know you'll meet the attraction that matters. Have the power to approach any women as a master conversationalist. This is confidence. You can trust you're a gift to women because you're out not to do selfishness in any way; just to get to know them.; 

Keeping the focus of the conversation on her, keeps you in mystery. Answer only 
what she asks. Too much information smothers the budding relationship. Let them find out about your assets on their own. The more time she spends thinking about you the more attracted she becomes. If you tell her all about you, she'll think she knows you and won't spend much time thinking any more about you.

Other topics for conversation: Where is love generated in a person? Is existence the infinite unbounded consciousness? What do you think about the body's ability to do so many things at once? War - the 'us' vs. 'them' philosophy; making the enemy less than human is an age old tactic; they are evil we are good; they believe in a false God is a way of bolstering the side of good by assuming that God likes war enough to choose sides, the propaganda is, he chooses the side that truly knows him over the side that knows him falsely; unlike violence the way of peace does not need God to justify it, as peace is good for all. 'They deserve what they get, they hate us' is projection; 'we have to defeat them or they will destroy us', this turns them into aggressors.

The secret of communion is contact of one's soul connection with another's soul connection. Here is where lovers take from each other what they did not possess alone, that is, if your communion is deep enough. Communion is not communication; it's connecting with the soul of another (no superiority, no inferiority). Communion is the basis of trust. Communion builds comfortableness. 

Demonizing of others produces an enemy consciousness. We all are trapped in separation and need to get out. We cling to our false identity because we want to fit in. When you have opinions, ask yourself if is this the real me? Communion is interfered with by projection. The ego wants to shatter this temporary state of 'we' by battling for boundaries and likes convincing another of one's worth, often using self-praise through telling of accomplishments to maintain dominance and control:.1Peter 3:15 "...be ready always to give an answer to every man that asks you..." 1Peter 3:4 "But let it be the hidden man of the heart, in that which is not corruptible, even the ornament of a meek and quiet spirit..."See Humility.

If ego wins then fear has projected itself from the past into the present through memory and all the old boundaries are put back into place. This slays soul to soul connection. 

Why don't we have 3/4 of a vote if we only agree with 75% of a candidate's stand? Are the gifts of Americanization good for all just because they appear to be good for America? Why didn't human nature revolt against humanity's descent into brutality but decided to adapt instead? What do you think about the alienation mode many people operate from where they can sip orange juice while looking at a bombed out building just having killed hundreds of people? Why has science failed to give us the utopia they predicted in the 50's we would have in the 80's and 90's? What precedes birth or follows after death? Has in the light of today's modern prevailing views of human nature (Jung, Freud {we get our violence from the unconscious, from the shadow we all carry}, Kant) rendered religion irrelevant? Do you think the real power in life is people's hopes, aspirations as supported by love coming from their spirit? Is it true that the safest country is the one with no army and no weapons; What is true hope? What creative ideas do you have. What is the energy holding universal patterns in form? Do you think people are that serious about achieving world peace?

Differences between words: What do you think is the difference between the words possible and probable? (possible is 'capable of occurring' and probable 'likely to occur'). Why is the temperature in the universe the same everywhere. How do you know who your are? (you know who you are by what you think). Do you think that the mind extends beyond the brain. Is time a container of memory? and where does a memory go when we are not using it? How would you define now? Why does gravity act as though something is accelerating? How did fish get into high mountain lakes before we had stocking programs? Why should we know God? What does your life mean to you? Does the you within you wish you well? What spins the Earth, the galaxies, the planets? Why does the electron spin, the planets, the galaxies? What keeps them in perpetual motion and where is the energy that keeps them moving? Do you think we need globalization? Why do flowers bloom? Why do we choose to hate and kill instead of love and laugh? Why is there hate anyhow? 

These and more qustions you can think of should provide an interesting time on dates and provide for thought-provoking initial dating exchanges.

Most women have something about them that will disqualify them from being good 'potential mates' for you. If you think about how rare it is that you actually meet a girl that is compatible with you, you won't have that 'I'm desperate' vibe going on. Instead of asking a woman out, do this. When you call to ask a girl out on the phone, tell her that you're doing something else, but that she should feel free to join you. "Hey, I'm going to go down to Starbucks to get a cup of tea. You should join me." If she hems and haws or hesitates, say: "You're missing out..."

When you give a woman too much attention, you are communicating that you're obsessed. In other words, you're almost the opposite of a challenge. Women are into guys who are interesting, mysterious (simultaneously arousing wonder and inquisitiveness and eluding explanation or comprehension), that are challenging, that is, guys who trigger attraction in them, not affection. Going with your emotions and giving her too much attention isn't always as good as it seems. Here's what's probably going on in her mind: "He's always there whenever I want to talk." "He's such a sweet, nice, caring guy." "Maybe if I keep talking to him, I'll feel something..." "but for some reason...  I just don't feel it for him and I can't make myself feel it." " I don't want to hurt him, so I'd better be nice to him." She probably feels a lot of guilt because maybe she is thinking that she 'led you on'.

Here's something for you to think about; getting kills wanting. If someone gets something or even knows that they have it whenever they want it, that thing becomes much less interesting to them. As a rule, we humans desire things that aren't easy to get. If you smother her with too much attention, she's going to run from you and go find a challenging guy. Attention from a man can be like a drug for a woman... even if she isn't attracted to him. A woman will often allow a guy that is in love with her to pour his heart out, confess his feelings and demonstrate his devotion... even though she has zero intention of feeling the same way herself.

Women feel attraction for 'men'. On the other hand, they feel affection for 'nice guys' that wind up becoming just 'friends'. With women their feelings come from their unconscious conditioning, then those feelings become the basis for her  thoughts, decisions and actions. It's not the dinners, the flowers, the calling her often that triggers emotional and physical feelings inside her, that tell her that this is the guy.

Guys; don't use props to let a woman know you are interested in her. Women love to let a guy chase them and catch them. They are coy. Women want a guy who 
lights them up, interesting guy. You can't convince a woman to feel attraction for you. Instead, create tension, stop doing something she likes, give her time to miss you; one's emotional side is responsible for processing experiences and feelings such as the excitement of a new relationship, another's smile, etc.

Attraction: women aren't attracted to guys they perceive as 'average'. Women 
don't say 'oh, he's a kind, honest, loyal type of guy from a good family and that 
turns me on'. Nope. Women say things like 'he's sexy...there's chemistry between us. I really feel something for him' If a woman feels a strong attraction for you, then the rest of the equation isn't as important. If she feels it, she'll go out of her way to find good reasons to be with you, even if you're not her 'physical type'. Women are attracted to things like attitude, confidence, body language, humor, etc. than looks or money. Make the whole of a woman's attraction be about who you are and how you act, instead of what you look like, or how much you get paid. Attraction for women is a process, not a sudden event. There's a huge difference between what women say they want in a man and what makes women feel attraction. Attraction is created by using conversation as a tool. Dating is not about 'selling yourself'. It's about getting to know someone.

Life is about being intrigued (to arouse interest and curiosity about), not being sold. People want to do business with those who intrigue them, just present the best version of yourself based on who you are and your confidence. Key is to bring out your core personality, not change into a phony. Realize too, that not everyone is looking for the same type of person. Be who you are, not who you think you should be at different times. That's phoniness. There is a huge target of people that are attracted to you.

Secret excuses can wire themselves into our minds so deeply that we don't even realize the effects that they're having. If you believe that women won't feel attracted to you because you're, say, overweight, then you won't even try to meet women. You'll just assume that it's no use. This leads to even worse problems, like fear of going out, fear of talking to people, etc. You need to identify your own 'secret excuse' and you need to look around to find examples of men who have overcome the very same obstacle and who have gone on to succeed with women. This will provide you with some real-life evidence that what you're dealing with is not final and irreversible. You need to get an education about women and what makes them feel the emotion of attraction for men. It really amazes me that you can walk into a bookstore and find a thousand books on computers, but few, if any, books on attraction.

What causes women to feel an instant sexual attraction for a man? Walk, talk, behave and communicate so you increase the attraction that women feel for you. Communicate with a woman in ways that makes her feel a powerful physical and emotional response that she can't control.

To know if she's ready to be kissed, I'll reach over and touch her hair while we're talking and make a comment about it. I'll say "Your hair looks so soft" and just touch the tips of it. Is she now responding positively? If she is smiling and drawing closer as you touch her hair instead of a tensing pulling away, then it's a sure sign that she's feeling it. If she's smiling at me, relaxing her face and her body, leaning into me instead of pulling away, then here's what I'll do next. I'll reach back over and start stroking her hair some more. but this time, I'll glance down at her lips and back up to her eyes a couple of times, reinforcing in her that there's a connection happening between us. I'll continue touching her hair, letting my lips get closer to hers, but not touching. Basically, just amplifying that first spark of attraction I now know for sure she's feeling; that irresistible, unstoppable emotion called attraction. This kind of 'testing' is extremely stimulating to women and escalates the sexual tension almost to the point that they'll be in actual pain 
if you leave them hanging. Basically, I'm just amplifying that first spark of attraction that I now know for sure she's feeling; that irresistible, unstoppable emotion called attraction. But listen... if she does pull away at this point... or shows any sign that she's not into it... that's when I know to stop and move on. And you should, too. This isn't about forcing anyone to do anything. By using this test I can find out for sure if a woman wants to take things to the next level... all in a way that's completely innocent and non-threatening. And I can tell you, this is a powerful thing. Its affect on women is unbelievable. I always know within the first 5 minutes if a woman's ready to be kissed, so I don't waste hours and days trying to figure out if she likes me.

Attraction is an emotional and physical response and you can't 'convince' a woman to feel it with logic, gifts and niceness. You have to do things like create tension. Stop doing something that she likes. Give her time to miss you. Feel valued for what you are not what you do.

Why women behave the way they do: How women test men and how to 'pass' every test, to how to walk, talk, behave and communicate, so you increase the 
attraction that women feel for you.

Communicate with a woman in ways that make her feel a powerful physical and emotional response that she can't control. Sparks fly and the man and woman 'get together'. Once that happens, things again go one of two ways.

Sometimes a man understands he can't let himself become a wussy who follows a woman around, constantly 'shares how he feels' and becomes a boring sardine, that is, once she's had one sardine, the rest in the can are just not as appetizing. Those of low value ordinary consciousness methods resort to wussy 
methods of relating because they feel of no value.

A full potential man stays in control and keeps challenging the woman and keeps the woman interested far into the future. But most of the time the man begins to act more and more predictable. He starts to share 'how he feels' (isn't that soooooo nice he thinks - NO!) too often. It's wussy tactic number one in chasing a woman away. Number 2 is he becomes more and more submissive, turning himself into a 'suck up', which will surely turn the interaction with her into a muck up and soon the woman loses all those feelings that used to create attraction and then soon she's gone. Why? Because most men have no clue about one simple fact. Attraction is totally different for women than it is for men and I mean very different.

Generally speaking, the way for a man to create attraction is to understand that for women, attraction is a process, not a sudden event. When a guy finds a girl interesting, he usually turns into a ball of nervous, weak mush. Be strong. Tease her. Challenge her. Be adventurous. This gets her off that pedestal of indifference and connects you with her as just another person. If she thinks she's cool, make fun of her. If she's smart, argue with her a little. If she's doing something, tell her that you could do it better. All of this is your signal to her that you're not a 'wussy one' but rather are of strong character and the game is on. One of my 
favorite concepts is 'never let the line go slack'. Just because she starts doing 
things that hint she's interested, doesn't mean that it's time for you to stop. 
Quite the opposite, actually. Turn up the volume. It's working, so do more.

The word 'tease' has a couple of meanings. One of the meanings is doing things that are slightly annoying to get a response from someone. The other meaning is subtly different and has to do with drawing out a response you want by doing certain things that indirectly trigger it. You need to do both.

The kiss test. If you're about to kiss her, wait until your lips are so close that you can almost feel her... and then stop. Pull away and smile. If you want to know how she feels about you, say "you love me" in a condescending tone of voice and see how she responds. If she says "no I don't!" in an exaggerated, mocking way, then she probably does love you.

Being predictable is boring and is a cardinal sin. Women lean toward men who make decisions and take the lead. Women don't want men they can control, so don't be one.

Men, in effect, say "Hi, I want your approval and attention. I'm willing to let 
you be the one who's in control... and let you call the shots... and do anything to 
please you – sick!... if you'll give me your attention and approval". but the problem is that women don't want you to give up your status and 'manliness'. 
Women aren't attracted to men who act weak and tentative. Women secretly hate it when a guy does something to demonstrate that he'll give away his power in return for approval. Never give away your power.

3 things women hate about men are 1) giving up your status in exchange for her attention and approval. 2) Being needy, clingy ('clingy' is codependency, 'clingy' is a man allowing his feelings to be misread, 'clingy' is allowing oneself to be overridden, 'clingy' is looking to others for pleasure and happiness. Clingy and jealousy go hand in hand. Insecurity.abounds when one person 'clings' to another person psychologically. The person who is being 'clinged' to resents and rejects the needy, clingy emotional parasite. 3) Not understanding attraction; this is a biggie. Women can instantly feel it when they're with a guy who 'gets it' and with a guy who doesn't, they feel revulsion. Attraction isn't a choice. When a woman feels attraction itis an emotional and physical response... and you can't 'convince' a woman to feel it, so, be a wuss is a waste of time and effort.

Attraction is the result of a woman meeting a man who understands how attraction works... and who knows what to do in each specific situation to progress to the next level. The problem with attraction and with success with women in general is that the things you need to do to be successful are not obvious. You have to do things like create tension... stop doing something that she likes... give her time to miss you... etc. and an even worse example is a guy who is so emotionally insecure that he actually asks a woman to tell him that he's nice, fun, interesting, etc. "Do you think I'm interesting?" "Do you think we could ever have a relationship? Am I your type?" Women hate this stuff. It makes them shiver with the heebie-jeebies. It makes them want to run away. Women know very quickly if they're talking to a guy who understands himself and women... and who enjoys creating and building sexual tension. Women know if a guy can speak the secret language of 'sexual communication'. 

Again, attraction isn't a choice. Attraction is an emotional and physical response... and you can't 'convince' a woman to feel it with logic, gifts and niceness. The 
problem with attraction and with success with women in general is that the 
things you need to do to be successful are not obvious. They're 'counter 
intuitive' in many cases. In other words, they're the opposite of what you'd
think would make sense. You have to do things like create tension... stop 
doing something that she likes... give her time to miss you... etc.

Deny allowing yourself ways that communicate 'I depend on you'; by body language or otherwise. It's deadly. Practice independence. Enjoy yourself.

One's body language should show you are in control, dominant, that's 'dominant', not 'domineering'. Communicate independence with your body language and reflect consciousness before going along with others, that is, think on the spot before saying and/or deciding to do something. Stop caring whether or not any one particular person is interested in you.

A 100% foolproof formula you need to tell if she's interested in you. When you engage her... she engages you back. Let's say I walk into a restaurant and the hostess asks me how many are in my party. I engage her with "Well, there are three of us. I guess there will be four if you join us... " If she smiles and laughs at my joke, she's engaged me back. Those are signs she's interested and I know it's game on. If she starts playing along by smiling and moving away from me playfully, she's engaged me back. Let's say I'm talking to a woman that I met at the magazine rack and I ask her "What's with that huge purse of yours? you got a dog in there or something?" Let's say I'm standing somewhere, say, at a bar and the woman next to me bumps into my arm. I engage her by turning and saying "Hey, watch it, ok? keep some space here, I need at least a foot of room... " in a serious tone of voice. If she starts playing along by smiling and moving away from me playfully, she's engaged me back. Those are signs she's interested. Watch for similar responses.

How to tell whether or not she felt the same way. Sometimes she would say things like "You are so important to me" and "I'm glad that you're in my life"... but 
nothing ever progressed past the 'friendship' stage. Insofar as I was able to 
determine, I was getting the green light all night. At a movie, I slipped my arm
around her and she leaned in, resting her head on my shoulder. Later, we were at 
a club for a band and when we were ready to leave, she reached across the 
table and held my hand for a while. On the way back to the car, it was pretty 
chilly and when she complained about the chill, I stepped over and hugged her. 
She responded by stepping into it. She pressed her face hard into my shoulder 
and stepped into full 'body to body' contact - hip to hip, shoulder to shoulder and 
everything in between. When we got back to her place, I moved to kiss her and 
she shied away such that it would have been extremely awkward for me to 
actually do so. She specifically said that she thought the relationship could've 
evolved into something romantic, but that it hasn't and she wasn't sure why. At 
this moment, she says she doesn't believe it will. You can't convince her to feel 
it by chasing her around and telling her how you 'feel' about her. You are totally missing what's going on if you're like this! This woman actually likes you and you're screwing it all up by acting like a needy wuss bag! At the very beginning of your Email, you said something that basically telegraphed exactly what was going on here...you said "...I think I've met the one" but I'm having trouble making her realize this. I've been pursuing her for about five months - you're having trouble making her realize this??? You've been pursuing her??? Do you assume that at some point within the next five months that she's going to wake up one day and feel a powerful attraction for you because you like to chase her around and tell her how you feel about her? Don't be a submissive, needy, clingy wuss and share how you feel too often or give up your power. Look, man... the reason why she's telling you that she "doesn't know why it hasn't evolved into something romantic" is that she doesn't feel it. She doesn't feel attraction for you and you can't convince her to feel it by chasing her around and telling her how you 'feel' about her. Attraction, as I always say, isn't a choice. You're acting like most guys who think things like: 'If she only knew how I felt about her, she'd feel the same way' and 'if I keep pursuing her, she'll eventually see how much I love her' etc. Well guess what? Ain't gonna happen!!! What you need to do is a get a world-class education on how attraction works for a woman. It's all the self and your life's programming. If you're not happy with yourself and are enjoying yourself, don't expect her to find you happy and enjoyable. 

Never confess your love before you create attraction. Pace yourself. If a woman isn't attracted to a man, all of his attempts to confess his love, convince her to like him and court her, backfire, no matter how nice a letter or gift(s) you give her and tell her how much you love her.

Few guys have the balls to react like this: If she plays 'fake mad' from something you've said, turn it up some more. This shows you have the power and its guaranteed to spark attraction. Don't be hesitant in making fun of some of her idiot mindsets. Call her on everything she said or does that's 'immature'. Take advantage of every opportunity to be cocky and funny to keep things interesting and challenging.

Trying to get girls to lead and tell you what they want you to do is just a horrible 
idea. You lead! You decide where you're going. You make the rules. Amplify 
attraction by creating an environment for her that's totally different from one 
she can get anywhere else.

Chemistry: When a woman uses the word 'chemistry', she's actually talking about attraction. She's talking about perceiving a guy as 'naturally compatible' with her because emotional and physical sparks fly when she meets or is around him. This is clean excitement. For a woman, chemistry is either there or it isn't. If a woman knows she has you right from the beginning, she won't be interested for long, but if you keep the mystery and anticipation up, she feels more attraction because you're challenging and unpredictable in non threatening ways - and that will cause her to think about you all the time. Being a clean fun, positive, interesting individual sets up the atmosphere for attraction. Just learn to 'be'. 'Be' authentic, natural, be genuine. Be the real deal you are as the individual you are.

Avoid approval seeking body language, hoping the 'right one' will see she is needed by you? That's disastrous! Do you stand like a wimp? Then you'll look like a wimp and a wussy alert will be triggered in her and she's gone! How's your posture? Is you conversation like apples of gold in pictures of silver?.Proverbs 25:11 "A word fitly.(original is 'like a wheel', which goes around and brings back what you placed on it; reap what you have sown).spoken is like apples of gold in pictures of silver."

What makes a woman want to be with you? Do you like to be with you? Communicate all the right things with yourself to clean your personality up. 

Girls instinctively like such as being independent, indifferent, confidence, cocky and funny. The formula is: start with an arrogant thought, then add humor. For example, if you're standing in line waiting for coffee and notice an attractive 
woman behind the counter "Hey, since you like me and this line is always long, 
how about if I just walk to the front from now on and you give me free coffee?"

Never call or write a woman immediately. If you call up two days later and say 
"Hey, what's up? I'm busy tonight, but let's do something on Friday. Here's my 
number, call me... I gotta go... " That's a great way to build sexual tension. By the second day here, day two, she's beginning to wonder if and when you're going to call. Waiting builds tension. Or are you going to just be another one of the dozens and hundreds and thousands of guys that just stand there staring... or give away their power in hopes that this 'Goddess' (as though there were none others) will see fit to bless you with even a pinch of her attention? 

Women are more like volume knobs that need to be turned up gradually. Every 
time you make progress in a romantic way with a woman, stop. Then reel it 
back in. For instance, if you have been talking to her and you start holding 
hands... after a few minutes, take your hand back. Move away from her for a 
little while. If you wind up kissing later, stop kissing her and lean back again. Get
it? Approach the whole topic with the attitude of 'I'm open to whatever great 
opportunities present themselves', but I'm not desperate. When you're with a woman you've just met, don't put the pressure on. Let it go. Lean back. Be cool. Think apart from your emotions. Does her presence show she's open? A genuinely confident man will share his opinions without being argumentative and enjoys intelligent discussions and is always open to new ideas. Women like talk, talk. If you can't intelligently talk with her, learn how to converse.

Being genuinely confident is thought to be perhaps the most attractive attribute a man can have in attracting women. An example of a small gesture that shows 
affection would be something like, you wanted to go to take her to a sports game, but she wanted to watch a movie, so you compromised and take her to the movie instead. After the movie, you take her home and let her know that you are going to the sports game now and she will really appreciate that. However, do not compromis too much too often. As is conversation, it is a give and take matter and she will know it and cherish it. Any pains you take to show true affection will be rewarded and she will feel special and appreciated.

Commitment: If the topic comes up say "Well, I'm single now and if I meet a 
woman that I really like, then we'll see what happens". A lot of relationship 
problems are the result of people who don't know each other; getting involved too deeply and too quickly. If you really like her, call her a couple of times a week 
and see her every week or two for a few months. Get to know her better. Then ask some questions of yourself about it all. If you want to see other women, go for it. Do what feels right to you. It's your time here. Make the most of it by making the best of it, not the worst of it, that is, doing selfish things you will later regret, regret that is, if you are of improving character. The evil don't give a s*^*

And remember, don't turn into a wussy if you get into a relationship. If you do you'll be closing the door on yourself. You'll either find yourself being dumped or wake up one day with a ring through your nose and a leash around your neck, taking second or third place to her cat and dog... and having an unhappy woman in your life as well.

Woman's basic program: That's my story and I'm sticking to it. Women have a basic program when it comes to men that are potential romantic interests. It says 'if he chases me, run', 'if he doesn't chase me, chase him'. If you go out with a woman and she has a great time with you, then you don't call for a couple of days or maybe you call once for 3 minutes to tell her that you're busy and make plans for a few days later, she will be thinking about you all the time. Women will act much more 'real' if you don't put any pressure on the situation. When you start getting your hopes and expectations up, you get attached to them. Then you run the risk of holding on too tight to a fantasy. It's deadly! Don't ever put anything before your growing in character and personality. Meditation takes you higher.

Competition: You many not realze it, but there is no competition existing but in your mind. You are unique.

When going out on a date, know that men will hit on an attracive girl as soon as they get a chance. 'If I turn my back for second, some guy will try to make eye 
contact or say something to her.' I don't blame the guys because she is very hot, but how do I deal with this in a way that shows I am 100% confident? 

When you are insecure, you're always wondering if some other guy is going to come along and steal your girl. Other guys may start hitting on her right in front of you and this triggers even more insecurity and then the real problem – jealousy. The fix is to have fun with it. Wait until a guy is finished trying to pick her girl and then get her to share the details so you can laugh. Lightheartedness gives you such an advantage. If she feels a powerful emotional attraction for you, then nothing else matters. I see this dude with the ugliest sweater ever created, point it out to her and I asked her if she thought he had skinned his couch to make that thing. She loved it! 

Most guys start talking to a woman and keep talking to her, trying to get a 'normal' conversation going, trying to 'buy her a drink', etc. The idea of walking up to a woman, saying "Hi" and then walking away is great (only if you're reasonably sure that you're going to see her again... like in a typical common meeting place scenario). You tease her mind by doing something unexpected... you said hi, then  walked away. This leaves her to wonder things like: 'why did he leave?', 'maybe he thought I was attractive, but then when I opened my mouth he didn't like my personality'. 'Why didn't he offer to buy me a drink or come on to me like other guys?', etc. etc. etc. It shows that you have self-control, that you have things to do, that you could take her or leave her; that you are secure in your own right.

Confidence: Most of us guys let our initial emotional reactions and our 
imaginations keep us from taking action. The answer is break the habit of making 
yourself feel bad and afraid and learn the habit of making yourself feel good
and optimistic. Action steps: #1. Take some time to vividly imagine the best 
possible outcome of walking up and talking to a woman that you find attractive. 
Every time you see a woman that you'd like to meet, just do this. Try it for a few 
days. Then realize that this best outcome is far more likely than your worst 
idea of what could happen. Read that again. Your best outcome is far more 
likely than your worst. #2. Make a realistic list of the worst things that could
happen, then decide exactly what you'd do if any of them actually did happen. This is programming yourself for success. You'll realize that you can deal with them and live through it. #3. Realize that not taking the risk to meet a woman is actually a bigger risk in the long run of your overall life. If you risk not meeting her, you'll never know what might have happened and if you let it become a habit, it will keep you from realizing all your dreams in life.

Dress: Why so many attractive women try so hard to look even hotter and 
dress even sexier when they go out? She wants to maximize her strengths to 
attract the best men. A woman wants to get the best man in the room, but 
the best man also has options; lots of women to choose from. So she feels like 
she needs to 'fix herself up' to have the best chance of getting that guy. In 
order to minimize their competition, they fix themselves up and emphasize 
their good points to the max. Once you spark chemistry, that sexual tension that keeps things interesting, you need to keep it up. Just because she starts doing things that hint she's interested, doesn't mean that it's time for you to stop. Quite the opposite, actually. Turn up the volume. It's working, so do more. At the very core of human psychology and behavior are the concepts of attention and approval. If a woman is getting a lot of attention, it keeps her feeling ok" She knows she is accepted by the group, that she's going to stay healthy and have a good chance of mating with a top male. It's important you don't communicate to her that you are overwhelmed by her beauty or chasing her, or too weak to express yourself well. Don't show her approval too quickly (maybe even show her some disapproval) and you've created a powerful interest inside of her. Why?
because every guy that comes within ten feet of a hot woman can't stop looking 
at her. He makes it clear he would be willing to do anything for her. So imagine what happens when she meets a guy that isn't like all these other guys at all. He acts like he's not impressed with her beauty. He even busts her image a little. She can't tell if he likes her or not and her systems are scrambled. She feels challenged. Then, for some reason she can't explain, she starts to feel a gut level attraction to him. In other words, it's like she's under a magic spell. She switches from being pursued to the one doing the pursuing! 

The purpose of dating principles is to become a better man. 

If you call her and she doesn't return the call, when you see her or again talk with her "You didn't phone back? It's obvious you didn't have enough money to pay your phone bill and when you tried to call me back you found your phone was disconnected, but that's nothing to be ashamed of cause I'll take pity on you and buy you a box of Kraft dinner while your so broke and hungry. Don't be predictable when it comes to attraction. Find some way to stop being boring. If things do get bad break up first and get outta there. 

Mistakes most guys make: They do one of the following: 1) Give attractive women a lot of compliments immediately. 2) Kiss up to attractive women. 3) Try to get attractive women to like them by buying them gifts, dinners and flowers. Never at first and until you're into a deepening high quality relationship, give her anything but yourself. 4) Chase after attractive women and let it be known that the woman is 'a prize worth pursuing' right from the beginning. 5) Hand over all of their power and status to attractive women by a) Making out with her somewhere other than at your house (or her house). b) Apologizing for making out with her. Like, why would you apologize for making out with a woman? When you said "I'm sorry" what she heard from you was "Uh oh, he just screwed up and he'll say something quick to fix this by putting aside his wants and desires and say whatever he thinks I want to hear in hopes I'll like him and give him some attention and approval the poor fool needs". At the same moment you were realizing that you just did something wrong, she was realizing that she owned you. Unfortunately, she probably also felt a little bit of disappointment in you, because you were apologizing for something just to get her approval... and women don't want to own men. c) Asking her if you should call her, or if she should call you. d) Showing cleverness and intelligence by showing off intellect. Some idiot guys will even start arguments about anything and always take the opposing view on almost every topic that is discussed. One guy did this with women all the time. You know what? This is the real jerk and women hated it. They scramble away every time he appeared. His insecurity was so strong, that he resorted to arguing to get attention.

Other destructive attitudes: The guy tries to find something he can do 
for her, but when the woman does not return his affection, he will be upset and 
feel that he was being taken advantage of. This behavior of course repels all the 
women he approachs.

What to do: 1) Stop calling her all the time (if you do) and stop 
spending so much time with her. 2) Start dating other women immediately and
make sure she knows about it. 3) Stop being all lovey with her and don't tell her
how you 'feel about her'. Just stop it! 4) Accept that you will probably be only in 'friend status' with her forever and start acting that way. 5) Don't try to kiss her or be physical with her at all until you understand what you're doing. Know what you want. Note that in a conversation if she's not reciprocating then it's boring, not fun. Who wants to be around someone and not enjoy them? No one, right?

Ask yourself is she turning you on? What does your heart want? Kiddy sex? or an ongoing deepening and hopefully lasting relationship? Anything other than that and you don't see that you are really wasting your life's time. Don't try to get her to love you by figuring out stupid ways that come to you from the mass mind consciousess. They end in disaster.

Emotional connection: If 6 mths into the relationship there's still nothing for you that's growing and decent, know then what took you so long to see that there was no emotional connection? Were you deceived by your own selfish hope? Are you a 'woman worshipper' no matter how you may be treated? Women are 
about emotional connections and strong feelings. When you connect emotionally with such a women, it's an experience that gets better as the relationship moves along. This all starts from the moment you say hello. To emotionally connect with a woman you have to listen. Open doors for her if you respect here. Put your hand on her back as if guiding her through the door. Thank her at the end of the evening for a great conversation; maybe a quick kiss, then walk away. You want to create and continue emotion in her. Be a gentleman, a well-mannered and considerate man with high standards of proper behavior. You want this to last don't you? Learn to grow out of the 'one tonight and one tomorrow night' thinking most guys and some girls have. Believe she's having a great time with you. Let, dont't force, her to get to the place where she's thinking about you when you're not there. Being a man is claiming her from the beginning in your mind and carrying on with that mindset to deepen the relationship. If it won't deepen, learn about the 'empty box. If you can't maintain connection with her emotions, what can you do but work on yourself? Women know exactly when you are thinking with 
your dick. If she is thinking similarly - run! If both of you are at this low level, then go on, waste more precious time of your lives. You are both playing into the dark side influenced low consciousness and you know where that leads once you make a decision having a tendency to lean toward that side:.Isaiah 54:16 "...I have created the waster to destroy."

Be sensitive enough to see where she is with you emotionally. Be gentle. Build up. Never be destructive. Invest yourself and not 'things' into what you have with the woman you care for and leave out expecting anything.

When a guy does especially nice things for women he likes, he is attempting to manipulate her. Right? Women can sense this manipulative behavior and they take it as license to take advantage of the perks without giving anything in return. Women don't want men who have to buy their attention and approval. In essence this is 'telling her' that you like her and, simultaneously conveying a message that you really want to tell her. They're both bad... but for different reasons. Telling her is bad because it takes the magic, the suspense, the mystery out of the situation. And attempting to impress her by conveying subtle messages this way, is just, oh so childish that an 8 year old girl can see through the camouflage. They both pop the balloon and kill chemistry.

One big mistake is that you think you need to impress her; so, you don't have a high opinion of her. It's you, not her that thinks this way. You think she expects to be impressed by you - childish wussy behavior. Avoid it. The more often you say no to women the more you earn her respect. For a quick list of the exact steps, just go here: doubleyourdates.com/support/whitelist/ and if you ever want a quick answer to any questions or problems, go here doubleyourdating.com/contact.html

Begin to meet more women immediately just to practice what you've learned to know. Your own guidance will take you even further once you begin to apply what you've learned. 

One of the best things I've learned is that if you lean back when you're out on a date with a girl and don't try to 'make moves on her' early on, you'll do much better later.

What women consider annoying behavior: Calling her too often. Telling 
her that you have 'feelings' for her too early. Giving away your power to her and 
making her the boss. Always asking a woman what she wants instead of leading. 
Acting submissive and weak. Accepting her demands, bossy-ness and 
manipulative requests. Being her doormat and putting your own needs aside.

Instead, become a strong guy who could also act sensitive on occasion.

Top ten reasons why men fail with women and how to make sure you avoid every one of these deadly common mistakes: #1: Being too much of a 'nice' guy, which isn't at all nice. Have you ever noticed that the really attractive women never seem to be attracted to 'nicey nice' guys? What's going on here? Women don't base their choices of men on how 'nice' a guy is. They choose the men they 
do because they feel a powerful gut level attraction for them. Being nice 
doesn't make a woman feel that powerful attraction. Being nice doesn't make 
a woman choose you. Accept this fact and begin to act on it.

Mistake #2: Trying to 'convince' her to like you; if she's just not interested, don't try to 'convince' the woman to feel differently. You will never change how a 
woman 'feels' when it comes to attraction! You cannot convince a 
woman to feel differently about you with 'logic and reasoning'. If a woman doesn't 'feel it' for you, how in the world do you expect to change that feeling by being 
'reasonable' with her?

Mistake #3: Looking to her for approval or permission in your desire to please women, which we mistakenly think will make them like us. Guys ignorant of women's ways are always doing things to get a woman's 'approval' or 'permission'. This is wussy behavior. Nothing wrong with doing things to help her some way. It's why you are doing them that can be deadly. Women see this. Most guys don't. Women are never attracted to the types of men who kiss up to them...ever! Don't get me wrong here. You don't have to treat women badly for them to like you, but if you think that treating a woman well means 'always getting her approval and permission for things', think again. Don't look at women for their approval. Women actually get annoyed at men who seek their approval. 

Mistake #4: Trying to 'buy' her affection with food and gifts. How many times have you taken a woman out to a nice dinner, bought her gifts and flowers and  had her reject you for someone who didn't treat her even half as well as you did? When you do these things, you send a clear message: 'I don't think you'll like me for who  I am, so I'm going to try to buy your attention and affection'. Your good intentions usually come across to women as over-compensation for insecurity and weak attempts at manipulation. That's right, women see this as manipulation.

Mistake #5: Sharing 'how you feel' too early in the relationship with her is another huge and unfortunate mistake that most men make with women too early on. Most men don't realize this, but attractive women are being approached in one way or another all the time by men. An attractive woman is often approached several times a day. Attractive women have usually dated a lot of men. They have experience. They know what to expect and one thing that turns an attractive women off and sends her running away faster than just about anything, is a guy who starts saying 'you know, I really, really like you' after one or two dates. This signals to the woman that you're just like all the other guys who fall for her too fast... and can't control themselves. Don't do it. Lean back in life. Relax. There's a much better way.

Mistake #6: Not 'getting' how attraction works. Women are very different from men when it comes to attraction. Men excuse their failure. Most guys who aren't succeeding with women carry around a 'secret excuse' for why they're not succeeding... a secret excuse for failure. Secret excuses can wire themselves into our minds so deeply that we don't even realize the effects that they're having. You need to accept this fact and deal with it. Do women feel sexual attraction 
to men based mostly on looks? or is something else going on? Women usually 
have their 'attraction mechanisms' triggered by things other than looks. Have 
you ever noticed that you see a lot more average and unattractive men with 
beautiful women than the other way around? Women are more attracted to 
certain qualities in men... and they're more attracted to the way a man makes 
them feel than they are to looks alone. If you know how to use your body 
language and communication correctly, you can make women feel the same kind 
of powerful sexual attraction to you that you feel when you see a beautiful  woman. You have to learn how to do this

Mistake #7: Thinking that it takes money and looks. Sure, there are some women who are only interested in these things and others mildly caring about them, but most women are far more interested in a man's personality than his wallet or his looks. There are personality traits that attract women like a magnet and if you learn what they are and how to use them, you then have knowledge going for you that you didn't have before. If you know how to use your body language and communication correctly, you can make women feel a powerful sexual attraction to you.

Mistake #8: Giving away all of your power to women. It's a mistake to look to a woman for approval or permission. Don't give away your power to women. Said 
differently; guys try to get women to like them by doing whatever the woman 
wants. Women are never attracted to men that they can walk all over. Women 
aren't attracted to wussies!

Mistake #9: Not knowing exactly what to do in each type of situation with women. A woman always knows what the regular ordinary guy is thinking. Women are approximately ten times better than men at reading body language. That's ten times! For example, if you're out on a date with a woman and you want to kiss her, she knows it. And if you don't know exactly what to do and exactly how to kiss her and you just sit there looking at her and getting nervous, she won't help! And this goes for all aspects of women and dating. Approaching a woman, getting her number, asking her out, kissing her, getting physical, everything. If you don't know what to do in each situation, you will probably screw it up and lose everything. It is vitally important that you know exactly how to go from one step to the next with a woman, from the first meeting all the way eventually to the bedroom.

Mistake #10: Not getting help. This is the biggest mistake of all. This is the mistake that keeps most men from ever having the kind of success with women that they truly want. We don't like to ask for help. Get knowledge (doubleyourdates.com/advancedseries/) enough so that your know that anytime, anywhere, you can go out and meet attractive women.

Make sure that your conversation creates attraction. Learn conversation techinques. I noticed these two beautiful girls walking around and they would constantly look over towards me. As I wandered around the store more I noticed that they seemed to always show up wherever I was, so I stopped them and asked the girl that I was more attracted to "excuse me but I'm going to have to ask you to stop stalking me". She looked at her friend like 'what is this boy talking about' and then she asked me for my name. I immediately answered "do you really think I'm just going to give my name out to a stalker?" Once again she looked like she couldn't believe I was talking to her this way. We talked about five more minutes and then I told her I had to go. She asked me if I wanted her number so we could continue the conversation. I pretended to think about it and then told her "I'm sorry but I'm just going to be way too busy to find time to call you. So if you promise to stop stalking me I'll give you my number and you can try and catch me when I have a few minutes of free time to talk." She eagerly took my number and when I got home about an hour later she had already left a message on my machine to see if I could go out with her this weekend!

Get both girls phone numbers, call and ask them both out for tea and see which one you like. One girl, a pretty waitress has never acted like she even notices me until one time and then she kept looking at me, over and over again, despite the fact that I did nothing different. Finally I gave her the 'wrinkled brow' suspicious look and she got all self-conscious, said "what?" and I came right back with "if you're gonna be that forward and flirty with me you could've at least done your hair up a little better" and then it was on!

I met some friends for happy hour and a very hot chick was sitting at a table holding some guy's hand. Every other guy in the place was staring at her and she was so hot that I even overheard some of the waitresses trashing her. The thing is, I walked in with a confident gait and a wrinkled brow. She stared me down the whole way in. Then she would not stop looking over at me while she was holding this dude's hand. He was obviously a wussy since he saw what was going on and did nothing (I guess he's the guy she uses for free dinners while she's crusin' for real men). At one point she even took the long way to the bathroom to walk by me and flirt, but with the wussy watching there was no opportunity to get info from her.

Simply having the knowledge applyied to yourself opens doors for you without trying. Once you see things differently, you begin to behave differently as well and it will happen automatically.

Women can pick up on subtle body language that most men don't even know exists. When you start 'mentally rehearsing' some of the things you learn, you will automatically act differently when you're in future situations with women.

I walked over to a girl and said "Hi" and then said "I didn't expect to see a beautiful young woman here". She said "aww that's so sweet" (read 'you wussy') but then I did something that has been working really well for me, I busted on her. I said "maybe I still will" (read 'maybe I still will find a beautiful young woman here') and a big smile. She was wearing this rather large skirt with ruffles, so I said "Wow...  I didn't know the parachute look was still in" while obviously staring at it. Another slap on my arm, this time laughing. Later she asked if I got my hair cut (I hadn't). She said "whatever, it's really attractive". There is this coffee shop in the store, so we had stimulating conversation over coffee. A little while went by and she asked me to go to her car with her so she could show me a new piece of art.

Giving a woman a compliment, then putting a backhanded twist on it:
   "Wow, your shoes are cute. Did you buy them new?"
   "Your hair is pretty. Did your mom do it for you?"
   "Nice car if you're homeless."
   "You're very articulate. Did you have trouble pronouncing words?"
Pick up any modern men's magazine and you'll get a bunch of good ideas for this 
type of thing.

Guys screw up first dates when they are always agreeing with her no matter how 
unreasonable she may be and not saying 'no' to anything she wants. For example, she says, "I think I'm ready for another drink". "Yeah, when you're up there, get me one too."

Women are usually casual and laid-back when they're first meeting a guy. Guys tend to act like every girl is a potential 'long-termer', thus creating much tension and pressure. Women feel uncomfortable because the man is acting uncomfortable. Fix it by realizing every woman has something that's going to annoy you, bother you or screw up her chances with me; fact is that most women are not compatible 'long termers' with most men.

Paying: Most women expect a man to pay for a date. I've had this conversation with many, many women and when I challenge them and explain that it sets up an imbalance when a man starts paying for things in the beginning. Most women start saying things like "I don't like cheap men", "A gentleman will always pay for a lady", "I don't want a guy who can't afford to take me out." These show you what kind of women they are. Run! 

Any woman with any guy; well, it all started with attraction. And that's what you should focus on... creating attraction. Spend time with women that you would like to have as friends. "If nothing else you sound like you would make a nice friend".

What to do: Take a moment to think of 10 things you could do with a woman that cost little or no money but that include possibilities of all kinds of interesting conversation, adventure and excitement. Then do some of those things - without advertising the fact you're not paying for dates. Void all things that scream "I'm willing to spend money to get your attention!!!" Try a walk in the park. Go to an art show. Go window shopping in an interesting part of town. Take her to a party that friends are throwing. Do something that has interesting conversation and excitement built into it. Don't set up the idea that you're paying for her attention by paying for dates. Just don't do it, because it works against everything about what it takes to get women in the first place......and that is sparking and building attraction.

Never put too much importance on a single girl. You find this out for yourself if you're nervous in phoning to ask her out on a date. If you found a girl that's one 
in a million, it makes sense to put a lot of importance on your relationship with 
her. But if you don't know a girl very well, or haven't even dated her yet, then 
you're setting yourself up for major disappointment by putting too much 
importance on her when you ask her out on the phone. You think you need to 
impress her. This is a huge issue. Most men 'subconsciously' behave and 
communicate like they're trying to impress the ultimate woman of their dreams 
when they're really just asking a girl out on the phone. That's all you are doing at this point, just asking her out. Have you ever thought for a moment how a woman sees a guy who's trying too hard to impress her? She thinks there's something wrong; that this guy must have something to hide, or that he's way too insecure. In other words, her radar system screams 'wussy!' Never get attached and hold on tight to a fantasy, some idea in your head of just how you see it all working out for you. She's in this too, right? Expecting it not to work out with this girl and just going out for coffee will keep you relaxed. Why would you want to be with someone you have to drag to you anyhow? Stop trying so hard when it comes to picking up women. If you do this you'll automatically set yourself apart from 99% of other guys. You'll start doing the things that naturally impress her. You'll begin to spark attraction in her without doing all that hard work that actually leads nowhere. This turns the whole game on its head. You'll start by pretending that you're the one trying to resist her advances. You'll start making fun of her for trying to "put the moves on you". She senses what you are doing and that you have the confidence to do it and this puts her immediately into play mode. Turn the table this way, so you can see both sides of it, so you have more information on really what kind of person she may be.

The golden rule: Stop caring what women think of you. Your energy makes a 
huge impact. If you walk over and immediately act nervous and stilted when trying to pick up women... because you're scared of rejection... women will shut down and act cold. If you act like you're having a good time and come across like a confident man, women will be far more likely to be friendly and open. It's crucial that your conversation be exciting and entertaining right out of the gate. In other words...avoid routine conversation. Master the skill of conversation with any woman, anywhere and you'll never shy down from any of them. 

When you're trying techniques out, it's important that you come across as cool and funny, not cynical and arrogant.

Rejection: There's a huge difference between actual rejection and the fear of rejection. so, stop worrying; worst case she'll just walk away; it's the imaginary fear that's the killer, deal with that; and, a woman walking away or saying she has a boyfriend, or no thank you, is not rejection; some guys think it's appropriate to walk up to a woman, put his arm around her and say, "hey baby, you look hot tonight". Some guys don't see anything wrong with following a woman around all night, staring at her constantly, then walking over with a nervous, sweaty-palmed, 'stalkerish' look and saying "You remind me of my sister". These are stupid ideas. They invite rejection. Have wisdom if you should walk up or not. Don't creep her out with weak and slumped posture and not looking her in the eyes. When you start talking to a woman, she'll let you know within a very short time if she's receptive to talking to you. She's either going to engage you - keep talking to you in an open, comfortable way - or she won't. She's either going to act like things are cool, or she's going to act like they're not. And that's why you need to pay close attention. The fact is, most guys cause rejection themselves by not reading the signs and signals a woman puts out.

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Tension.is good if it's the feeling you get when you're in the presence of someone you're already attracted to. It's about not knowing what's going to happen, but being on the edge of your seat wanting for it. Don't be nervous as nervousness equals bad chemistry. When two people are in rapport, they eventually match emotional states of each other. In the metaphysical world, this good vibration is called the law of attraction. Nothing can be, without the desire to be. All things are because of the desire to be. Desire dominates all thinking. Desire dominates all matter. 

Tests: If you steadily hold her gaze till she looks away, then you have passed 
the initial scrutiny. Women constantly use different kinds of communication to feel out the situation. A very important thing that women notice about a man's body 
language immediately is the eye contact which women use to test men, men who 
can hold a women's gaze for about 5 or 6 seconds and then smile are judged to 
be strong in character.

Women: Women gain satisfaction from being pleasured. Many things are pleasurable to them. A good time and conversation at dinner; a happy time out just walking and talking; a good word from her friends and family about you, etc., basically positive experiences together that keep the both of you lifted up in spirits. This goes a long way in gaining a woman's trust. Relate to her interesting times you had growing up. They especially want to hear what you gained from those times. Also, learn to be great storyteller.

Women are run by the emotional side of their brain. Women are hard wired to follow their emotional thoughts and feelings. That's why so many women fall for the same type of guys. Women are far more subtle than men. Their logical brains are telling them that an ordinary guy relationship will be a disaster for them, that a 'nice guy' relationship would be better for them and they are usually right, but  they can't seem to take action based on info from the logical side of the brain and so time and time again they get disappointed, but do they learn? 

You must be pleasing to the eyes. Women, when considering a man do want intelligence, cleanness of dress, confidence, excitement, etc., the good things, but somehow they think that can come from a 'bad boy' type of guy. Go figure! Welcome to the sorely disappointing road. One's happiness should not be dependent upon externals. Happiness needs to be in you to expect it and it will come into your physical life as well. Wait for it!

Women seem to always act like they're not quite sure and they never send consistent signals. Just because she's doing something that says 'I like you', don't assume that is what she is meaning. Women always think that they are in 
control of a situation even when they aren't. They constantly use different 
kinds of communication to feel out the situation. Women don't use the word 'nice' 
to describe someone they have feeling for. 

Does her face bloom with delight around you. Women reject men because of lack of opportunity for getting closer together and if no rapport is developing along the way. Difference in rank in life, lack of certainty due to the man traveling as on his job, thinking the man is too devoted to his friends, thinking the man may be attached to another, the apprehension that he is not earnest (deep sincerity or seriousness), bashfulness, awkwardness on account of him being too clever, despair at her own imperfections, the fear he has too high a regard for morality (no fun); all these contribute to a woman's decision to keep going in the relationship or not. A real woman represents softness, tenderness and nurturing. Teach yourself to be these things that you see in her.

Women don't generally take what you say at face value. They want to know what everything really means. Women like to get deep right away. Women like to say one thing, but when the time comes around to actually act, they do something totally different. Women tend to say what they think when they're asked a question, but they tend to act on their emotions when an actual situation presents itself. You set a date for coffee one day and the next she finds a reason to not come. It probably had something to do with her not feeling the same way anymore. When a woman says one thing, then does another, she sees that as being perfectly ok, because she's 'just following her feelings'. She's just not anchored in her personality yet.

Things like money and fame trigger emotions inside of women not far enough along yet on the road to higher consciousness. If you ask a woman what she's looking 
for, she'll say "I'm looking for a nice, honest guy who is successful and cute". No 
they are not!

The 'relationship trigger' inside of a woman is tied to the amount of time you spend with her and/or talking to her on the phone and in person. Women like the phone as they can easily hang up anytime. Women are hardwired it seems to always test men more than you could possibly imagine. They just can't 
help it. Many women play mind games because of a specific emotional reaction 
they are trying to create in you or even in themselves. That's why so many 
women fall for the same guys time and time again.

Complimenting a woman thinking they will feel attracted to you if you give 
her compliments is an error. Attractive women get compliments in various forms all the time. In fact, they're so used to getting compliments, that's what they expect! When she gets what she needed from you, woman worship, she's done 
with you. Avoid being mentally slotted into the 'average' and 'like all the other 
guys' category. I have started conversations by giving a woman a compliment, 
but I never let it become part of the actual conversation. If anything, I begin 
teasing and making fun of her looks as soon as possible if she's really hot-looking and I never give the compliment in a way that says 'I'm intimidated because you're obviously very powerful and desirable'. Tease and bust on her a bit. This effectively scrambles her whole program and causes her to lose her composure. It takes her off guard and shakes her out of her world so you can actually have a conversation. Women like compliments that they have to work for a lot more than the ones that just come to them.

Beauty and power: When you start talking to a woman who has obviously spent many hours preparing herself, putting on makeup, choosing just the right outfit, doing her hair and most importantly practicing that certain 'attitude' of aloofness that creates the air of untouchable beauty, you can feel it. Something is very different. She knows it and you know it and she wants you to know it. Beauty gives women power. It gives women power because it causes men to 'give away' their power. Make fun of them! If a woman says" I'm a model", say "Oh, like a 
parts model or something? What, do you have sexy toes? If she says "I'm an 
actress", say 'nice, so what you're telling me is that you're a waitress, but you do some extra work on the side?' Joking around, busting on them and teasing instantly communicates that you're not going to give them any special treatment for their 'beauty job' and that, if anything, you see their job as an 'average' thing to be doing.

What does a woman who has it all want? She wants to be challenged. Here's a great mindset to take with a woman who seems to be a little too used to the good life. Just say "You know what? you'rea spoiled brat". That should get her attention. Then follow up with "It's too bad you're not more of a normal, nice girl". The protests should be starting by this point..."But  I am a nice girl..." "Suuuure you are". The message is 'just because you're spoiled and snotty, don't think you're going to get special treatment from me. In fact, it's a problem'. This creates a huge challenge (which attractive women love) and sets you apart from all the other 'boring' guys she's been out with lately. Will some women stick their noses up in the air and laugh at you? Sure, it will happen once in awhile. To 
that unusually beautiful woman, most men seem the same. To her, men all blur 
together into a big mass of compliments, offers for dates and attention. A type 
of guy that really makes her stop, do a double take and pay attention is someone who tactfully is not moved by her attitude.

Women love teasing when it's done in the right way. Some people think of teasing as 'making fun of;, but I'm talking about the type of teasing where you give someone a little bit of what they are like. Now, there's a very important factor that you must understand about this ...all of it can only be used if you've already communicated to a woman that you're a man, the kind of guy who understands the language of attraction. You cannot do any of this if you're speaking the language of a wussy.

Do you to think men understand what women need?" Ask for her opinion "Hey, I'd like to get your opinion on something. What do you think of this? What's a woman's perspective on this? Gimmee a female opinion, I need a woman's opinion on this and or hey, never mind." It's engaging. "Hey, what are you doing?" Ask with a little suspect. She's touching everything in a store "What are you doing touching everything"? Ask women how they felt about their summer vacation. Remember, compliment her only once; not "I like your skirt" but "today in that skirt you are the most attractive woman in the room" and never say it again.

Watch for signals: Is she giving signals she likes you. If she closes herself off, she doesn't like you.

If you care about yourself, others will care about you. If you can't take care of yourself (clean, etc.) how can you take care for others? Remember again, be confident to be attractive.

Understanding women: How women 'know' when they want to 'be intimate' 
with a man and even more importantly, understanding how women 'know' when 
they don't want to 'be intimate' with a man. The thing that tells a woman 
whether the guy she's with is 'friend' material or 'lover' material is how she feels. 
It's a combination of emotional feelings and physical feelings. It is not logic. She might use logic to 'rationalize' her decision... or she might use logic to sound 
like she has a good reason for either 'being with' or 'not being with' a particular 
guy, but don't let that distract you. Logic isn't important at all in this context. A 
woman feels something emotionally and/or physically, then she uses those 
feelings as the basis for her 'decisions' and actions with a particular guy.

If she feels that 'ewwww yuck!' feeling, then her 'logical' conclusion will probably not be that she wants to date the guy in question. If she feels that 'it's gettin' hot in here' feeling, then her 'logical' conclusion will probably be that this guy is 
interesting and attractive and a good 'choice' to date. At this point she'll take 
action on her feelings and thought. Women are experts at recognizing men who 'don't get it' and if you don't get it, plus you're trying to compensate for the fact that you don't get it, then you're really screwed. I know what it's like to try over and over to let a particular woman know that I'm interested... only to have her not respond with a romantic attitude. You must be 'locked into' what's going on in her mind. If she senses that your not, it tips a woman off instantly that you're not hip to what's going on with her and she feels you're not really interested. This kills your chances with her. 

If you've been dating a woman exclusively for six months and her birthday comes, buy her a gift and tell her that you like spending time with her, if you do. If not, then why celebrate her birthday and why are you still around her six months later? If you've known a woman for six days and you try this kind of thing, you're going 
to shoot yourself in the foot.

Attractive women watch men try to win them over all day long. They know when a guy doesn't 'get it'... and they're annoyed when a guy who doesn't 'get it' just keeps trying and trying and trying. With every try, he's showing his lack of 'getting it'.

Men do all kinds of subtle and not-so-subtle little things when they're feeling nervous... and these things work fast to scare off women. Younger women are even more likely to be driven away by 'weirdness'. They're much more into how things 'appear' to others... their friends, family, etc. The older man advantage is stability, confidence, control. 

Letting women get away with bad or boorish behavior is another example of a typical wussy. So stop pandering up to her!

One of my favorite cocky and funny sayings is "Being like that, you're screwing up your chances with me". That usually gets things going.

Let's say I'm walking down the street with a girl to have a cup of tea. Let's 
assume that she and I just met the night before. I got her number and now we're walking to a place for tea. On the way, she trips over the doorway or later, spills her tea. I might look at her, shake my head in an 'overly dramatic fake annoyed' way and say "This relationship just isn't going to work" or "What did I tell you about this kind of behavior?"

In other words, I'm communicating the very opposite of "You're a potential long-termer to me. I'm saying 'I'm so comfortable around you that I can even make fun of you without caring what you think of me'. So, you have tea, conversation (learn the kinds), spending no longer than a couple of hours together (Proverbs 25:17) enjoying yourself and generally demonstrating that you could care less how things turn out. No pressure is your aim.

When you are acting dependant, you look to others for their approval,. You ask 
what they think before you make a decision and you tend to depend on what 
others feel and think of you. Don't be this way. When you are independent, you do the things you want to do because they are right to you, but you are always open-minded to change. Don't stifled yourself by rigidity and don't anchor yourself to negative dark side ways. You don't ask others what they think, but instead you decide yourself acting accordingly and yet be open to modify actions by their reactions. Do treat your date with respect and not as if she is an invalid and bankrupt. Leave her some self esteem, man. Don't get her crying. Keep her lighthearted by being entertaining and funny. If she is the girl you are really interested to know on a personal level, keep the date light and fun. Do not get too formal or guarded.

Remember this which is another common dating mistake - don't over dress and don't buy her a gift or a big dinner, just a coffee on the first date. Be sure you are the one to end the date. This creates intrigue. "Ok, I think we had better be going." Don't be a wussy-ass scared to cut short any opportunity to talk to a woman. Tell her "I had a great time, but have to get up early in the morning..." If she doesn't seem to want to let the evening end, say "You're kind of forward 
aren't you?" again, in a lighthearted manner. This kind of teasing is extremely stimulating to a woman.

Spontaneity is one of the most desirable traits girls look for in a guy. Taking her to a nice restaurant may be sweet but she might be just as easily interested if you take her wine tasting or to a football game, if you know she is a football fan. The idea here is to be creative when planning your first date and other dates too. 

Most regular guys are too pleasing and suck up to woman. This is definitely what wussies do! Yikes, this is a great turn off to girls.

Women like gentlemanly men who can protect their women. Gentlemen walk on the curbside, open doors for them, pull chairs out, etc. Masculine men give ladies a wonderful sense of security and therefore girls are attracted to them.

All you need to do is to portray that you can give your woman warmth and security, able to bring home the bacon and are respected socially which is enough to turn any woman on.

An example as to how you can show a masculine trait is to become a decision 
maker. Don't ask women out for dates by asking what they want to do or like. 
Take the lead and decide where you want to go and simply invite her along. 
Sometimes you don't even need to tell her your plans. Be a little mysterious and she will be excited and turn on with you. Show women that you are in charge and she will let you take charge. Show women that you are only out to please her and she will label you as a wimp and that is not being very masculine.

Women also need social proof to confirm that you are a well liked leader and are 
well respected by your peers. If others can respect you, then you are certainly 
respectable to her.

Another thing that you should know is to make yourself appealing to her emotion, 
not her logic. Women want men to make them feel good and comfortable. Her 
primitive instinct is that she will spend the rest of her life with this man and if the 
man cannot make her feel good and secured, then the rest of her life will be a 
miserable one.

So make women laugh frequently because laughter makes people produce more 
endorphin which is a feel good hormone. When you are able to communicate on an emotional level with girls, you will definitely be much more successful with them.

Dress differently from most other men so that you stand out from the crowd for 
women to take notice of you. Your dress sense need not be outrageous. Simply 
dressing nicely with a good fashion sense and being clean cut will do the trick.

Once she trusts you, asking her to come to your home to watch a good movie she hasn't seen is a decent offer. It can take a few moments or even several hours for a woman to feel comfortable enough with you at your home, so you must have some patience here.