New creation:
Think about your potential partner. Will he or she make you feel wanted
and is concerned about the new creation.(*).that
you are becoming together or, are they more interested in you fitting in
with him or her? The adapting part comes from the one willing to be this
way.(Colossians
3:1-19 and Ephesians 5:22,24).and
hopefully that's the both of you:.Ephesians
5:21.
"Loving relationships are,
by definition, based on mutual interest in one another's
soul. Selfish relationships cannot produce that loving feeling. In
eternity, beyond space and time, moments never pass."....Unknown..
"For one moment our lives
met, our souls touched."....Oscar
Wilde.
If each sincerely and deeply
loves what the other is, deep in there, the relationship will be successful:.1Peter
4:8 "And above all things have fervent charity.(love).among
yourselves, for charity covers the multitude of sins."
Love is letting go of some
things for the sake of the relationship; such
as, the exciting dating life. Is the other willing to give up what's
needed to produce this new creation? Do you both realize that sex is only
a part of a fulfilling relationship? Or does one or both of you feel that
sex is still the 'summa
cum laude' of a relationship?
Many are just plain unappreciative
and fail to express thankfulness. Being downright selfish, they are completely
run by their extremely low consciousness ego
level. They are 'heavy' and burdened, lacking the lightness of joy.
Appreciation
of others increases their value. It's a spiritual quality, a quality
of the
Soul, that enables even yourself to see them in a better light.
Questions along the line
of "Tell me more about how you see things.(whatever
thing you think may be in his or her mind).and
"What do you think should be done" and the like.(make
up your own), help communicate what
is really in the heart, yours and the other. This helps repair the connection
with the soul that the ego is always breaking.."Every
unselfish act allows more love to come into the world."....Deepak
Chopra
Intelligence: Seek for a person
with a mind as intelligent and understanding of the ways of Creator-God
as you may be:.Amos
3:3; Proverbs 1:15-22; 21:19;
Titus
2:2-8; 1Peter 3:1-7. Seek for
one with a deep heart, one who feels good things deeply. Ask yourself if
you both believe that you can be happy together. What good is a relationship
if two do not sincerely agree on specific living ways? It is then a breeding
ground for conflict.
Can your viewpoints combine?
The combined judgments of male and female are important to a happy family.
Avoids: Avoid the potential
partner who wants to run their life as they only see fit. Find a partner
who is concerned about your spiritual well being as well as his/her own.
Never 'pick' on your mate
or berate anyone.
Respect
all. In some relationships, verbal murder reigns. Criticism
kills and with anger, criticism is never given out for another's good.
It's an excuse used to cover ignorance of an individual who doesn't know
how to use the laws of the multiverse to positively affect good.
Criticism never inspires.
Criticism creates doubts and insecurities when it is received. What good
does that do for anyone? Telling someone that he or she is wrong for having
certain feelings is nearsightedness, that is, not seeing that everyone
is so different and not appreciating the uniqueness
of every individual you may meet because of the lives they have lived so
far. The Creator does not want clones.
God is not trying to reduce each person's individuality.
A man loves a dog because
it's the only thing around the house that doesn't find fault with him!
Ha ha!
Guys:
Avoid 'picky' girls who often make you think there is something wrong with
what you may be doing, when it is only personal expression on insignificant
things of little or no consequence:.Proverbs
17:14.
Be wary of others whose esteem
is low. Therein emotional suicide reigns. Some girls like to play. Be wary
of those who play with your emotions, turning you off and then on. If they
turn you off, be off and don't come back! Do not get involved unless you
can have fun with her:.Ecclesiastes
9:9.
Avoid a potential partner
who may like you one day and cannot stand you another. They are just plain
nuts! Observe if she normally exists in an accept or resist phase. A woman's
esteem is determined by, what else?, her feelings! A man who breeds good
feelings in his woman is in for a treat.
Women like men's voices.
Does your voice guys, speak sincerity from your heart?
Think carefully about diehard
feminists. Many of them have not dealt with earlier hurts and are on
the pathway of men hating.
It is the height of idiocy
and inflexibility to stalk someone who's turned you off and wants rid of
you. One such as this is so down on their self and unbelieving of any ability
to adapt to someone else.
Another consideration is
to ask yourself if you feel trapped around the person. Does he/she expand
your horizons and 'free your soul' or constrict
you emotionally?
Outlooks: What does he or
she think of others? Does he/she engage in character assassinations? Look
for a mate who possesses a balanced approach to living and one who sees
hope in life. The greater the imbalance, the greater is the potential for
a disastrous relationship. Better to be in a staid
relationship and work at spicing it up than to live in an 'exciting' one
which is imbalanced.
Those who feel that they
deserve love will make themselves as lovable as they possibly can. We must
make ourselves as lovable as we can think off. Use your imagination. Ask
questions of yourself as to what would cause the other to respond positively
towards you. A woman should take pains to be sweet, kind, affectionate
and responsive. A man should work at being loving affectionate and at showing
care and consideration. Many women think that it's a man's responsibility
to love them as they are. Wrong baby!
Also, A guy who sees sex
as the highest criterion
is blind!
We all need to be loved.
It is cruelty to withhold and/or reject love. Emmanuel had a need to be
loved:.John
21:16,17. A meaningful relationship is one that confers meaning and
value on the sexual. One either values a sexual relationship because another's
uniqueness is precious or one values a relationship for selfish reasons.
The value another places upon us plays a large part in keeping a relationship
together. A relationship becomes stronger, the more value each is to the
other.
Goeth:."A
heart that loves one person can hurt no one":.Romans
13:10. "Look for a person whose heart
is eager to discover the design for goodness in others."
