16-.Sincere.and.modest;
speaks, lives and acts from a good heart or plays
games and is headed for an accounting:.Matthew
12:34,36;.Matthew
12:37 "For by your words.(that
is why you need to know what you really are in Christ).you
are justified and by your words you are condemned." Numbers
14:22,23; does not have contingency
plans, but instead can be committed
to the relationship; any hidden agendas or alternate purposes.(2Corinthians
4:2); sneaky?
Too much
so-called
love today is little more than a manipulative game driven by sex desires
or worse....
True love has to do with
a stick-to-it decision, a decision to 'put yourself second' in order to
advance the unit:.Philippians
2:3 ".....in lowliness of mind let each esteem other better than themselves.".If
both do this, there is humility and sincerity
in the relationship. This is why the Great Infinite One inspired Paul to
say...
The concept of sacrificing
oneself to enable others you care about to progress in some way, is all
but gone from our increasingly selfishly concerned society:.2Timothy
3:1,2.
17- Disciplined and dignified;
thinks what is right, honorable and good; does same in words and actions;
prompt?
or wild and oblivious
to or contemptuous
of decency?
Is a human becoming or a
human being?
18- Ability to continuously
provide; ambitious to find work or fault?
Industrious?.Proverbs
6:6-11. In self denial.(just
about the only thing the poor can afford)?
Manages to keep his head above water only because wood floats?
Wants to provide?
Is serious about contributing to life and improving? Or is generally lazy?
19- Intelligent.or
has a head like an empty stomach which won't allow rest until 'something',.anything,
is put into it; or worse yet, has a head like a stomach full of junk food
and doesn't want to change his diet.
20- Interesting.has
broad interests or a dullard
with the attention span of a fly. Will the thing that commands the most
interest in the home be the mortgage?
21- Easy
to talk with and approachable
or the most prized possession is a chip on the shoulder indicating wood
higher up. Sociable or gets upset at those knowing more than he does and
doesn't realize that it's not their fault?
Takes the blame
to keep the peace.(Matthew
5:9).or
is defensive to the point of creating an upset?
22- Enthusiastic and
happy; inspiring?.or
morose,
cheerless, depressing and discouraging? It's important to talk,
talk, talk.
23- Emotionally stable.or
belongs in one. Not up and down, does not love you one day and avoid you
the next, depth of feeling, has compassion; has the ability to remain mentally
focused and
emotionally
stable in in
spite of.circumstances.dictating
the contrary?
Mature?
24-.Humble.or
self-centered,
ego
driven, stubborn, muleheaded,
arrogant,
rude.(rudeness
is exemplified
by those possessing a cheap imitation of power; those possessing true power
are usually humble, quiet, careful, help and avoid conflict
as advanced martial arts teaches
us).and
ostentatious;
thinks there is no satisfactory substitute for herself/himself; pats others
on the back or his/her self? Egotism
is the art of seeing things in yourself that others cannot see!
Does he or
she refuse.admitting
mistakes. We all make them, but refusal to apologize
does serious damage to any intimate
relationship. How can you be close to someone who cares infinitely
more about their own ego than they care about establishing.mutual.respect?
25- Handles frustrations/disappointments
well?.basically
contented, patient and peaceful or angry,
anxious, frustrated and seems to be always be making
judgments showing he or she doesn't believe in the oneness
of the universe, but rather believes in separation. He or she may not
be a runner up, but are they a runner down, taking frustrations out on
and/or blaming others unnecessarily so.
Is he or she offensive in
words and/or deeds?.James
3:2.
One question to ask your
prospective mate is "Is this the best time in your life?" If it isn't,
consider when will it be for him/her; when was it the best time? The person
is living in the past or won't be happy until the future dumps him something
he or she wants and then that will only satisfy for a short time and then
it again won't be the best time in life. You want somebody who is happy
just
because he or she is. When women are depressed,
they do something. They eat or go shopping or both! When men are depressed,
they are depressing to be around.
26- Quality of this person's
friends.according
to your standards, hopefully
very high?
27- Kind and attentive.to
needs
of others. Don't be like those who would treat you as perhaps they
do their commitment to spiritual
disciplines, that being neglected, even though it's always sorta there?.Genesis
34:3-31. Don't be one of the frozen
chosen.
Do they possess care
and concern for others? Do sad human circumstances move this individual
emotionally or can he or she view the pain, anguish and human suffering
with a dispassionate
interest? If so, you are involved with one that will lack being compassionate
when you may later become distressed
in life and your feelings are frazzled.
He or she will be unable to provide you with the attention, sympathy and
comfort you may need. Such insensitive individuals drag you down because
they know not how to relate to you in such a way as to
lift you up. Some of them are energy vampires. They enervate
you when around you.
28- Patient.creates
peace or engages in conflict?
29- Loving to what degree?.according
to your deepest feelings is it somewhere between 'I will love you if you
work at the relationship' and 'I will love you no matter what you're like'.
Remember the reason we want to live tomorrow is because we believe someone
loves us and because we believe that there is some good out there. To what
degree do you feel loved by this individual? A heart with the love of God
in it works no wrong to others:.Romans
13:10.
From
The School of Calvary
by Jowett:
"Love
without reverence
becomes a purely carnal
sentiment or personal view and resides in the channels of the flesh. Reverence
without love is like cold moonlight and will never enrich the heart with
the presence of gracious flowers. Love without reverence is a destructive
fever; reverence without love is a perpetual frost. True love kneels in
reverence; true reverence yearns in love. Each, I say, is essential to
the other and both are needful in the creation of worthy and wealthy life.
Now, where can love and reverence be best begotten? Where can we find the
atmosphere most fitted for their creation? Where can we learn to love and
revere in such a way that they shall become the spontaneous exercises of
the soul?"
30- Common sense thinker
or clueless.or
a nitwit or worse,
a nut case, as this guy was.(Samson's
dad Manaoh and his wrong concept of the true God:.Judges
13:22,23), who by the way, had
a good smart woman with him, thankfully?
Samson, the son, had a selfish
devious
woman who used him for her own gain, not caring that she led him to his
death:.Judges
16:4-31.
What spurs thought in the
person you are considering? What produces the person's emotions? Are they
consistent
or, hot and cold? Consistency comes with maturity
if one has been interested in learning about and from life.
Commonsense,
if applied, would prevent a great many divorces; but, on the other hand,
it would also prevent a great many commitments!
31- Potential as a dad
or mom.likes
kids:.Genesis
50:21. Smiles at kids
and likes to have them around?.Would
he/she be devoted to family, does things with kids, interested in bringing
them up to become the best possible? Or would they be a bad dad.1,2,3,4.
A good father
is a good giver. A good giver will make a good father. Givers are happy
people. A happy father is a good father.
32- Health status?.acceptable
to you?
