The macho.hustler
guys can often have a hard time handling the stresses and responsibilities
of daily living. Ultra meekness in someone is better but can cloak.anger.
Moses was like this:.Numbers
12:3.
"You can only build as high
up as your foundation is deep."
The root meaning of meekness
is 'a good student', one willing to learn the
pathways of higher consciousness, one willing to face
his dark side and know its place in his purpose here and how the light
illuminates
it for view.
It doesn't mean what the
common influence of the word is, that of a weak-kneed character that allows
himself or herself to be abused, thinking he or she is gaining religious
'brownie' points.
Religion
has perpetuated
this concept
from lack of knowing of such things as 'turn the other cheek' and do whatever
any authority tells you to do:.Matthew
5:39-41. All this limited comprehension comes from the ego
level and not from the
soul level of higher consciousness.
Look for a man who is tolerant
and won't become nit picking and bitter towards you:.Colossians
3:19. Many individuals have not
been taught to relate to others in a loving manner. Look for a man
who does not have all his vision wrapped up in the relationship. Otherwise
he'll drive you nuts trying to get every detail in the relationship perfect
and may lack any forgiveness needed to make the relationship smoothly work.
Many women pass over.(because
they want the macho
'exciting' guy).the
fellow who is a volunteer to the handicapped, the guy who has developed
love for things other than himself.(albeit,
in some cases, only for his computer so far eh! Ha!),
the guy with a good upbringing.(the
most important consideration regarding consideration of another as
a life partner).who
may not necessarily want to be in the main stream of the dating scene.
Even to meet these guys is
difficult.(and
they are by far the majority).as
they are seldom in a bar, preferring instead to improve themselves and
enjoy life in a more peaceful, patient, meaningful and inteligent way.
They may or may not go to church. They will possess a good sense of humor,
be lovers of good things.(Titus
1:8).and
look at life from a positive point of view:.Philippians
4:8.
Perhaps you'll see them as
they shop for groceries and clothing, perhaps in church, maybe at work.
Ask God to guide you to him and look for unselfishness in him when you
meet him. Look at the actions and notice what
results another produces in you. Selfishness
is deadly to a relationship. See the 'rate-a-mate'.
Silly
women.gravitate
to
bad boys. They are immature,
having much to learn beyond things of the moment that attract them.
And deceitfulness is something
to watch for:.Jeremiah
3:20.(word
'treacherously'
here, can also be translated 'deceitfully'):.Malachi
2:14-16.
We can love anyone we decide
to. Decision is the key! But seek a man who makes you feel good about yourself;
sexy and confident. If he can't make you feel like this, why are you with
him?
Hey guys! Why let a woman
choose you? You should probably move on from a lot of those kind. Know
what you want.(talk
to older people {an older woman can be most helpful} who have been through
it).and
do the choosing yourself if that's how you feel inside. If you don't feel
that way, then wait.(wait
for what?). Be bold enough to introduce
yourself to a girl you are attracted to. If you're not, get some
knowledge on it. Know what you want in the way of character in her.
Drop 'em quick, if they are not the one. Concepts
of conversation to help
you.
If a woman is
hot
for God, she'll be sexy and if inclined toward you.(see
'commitment'),
hot for you if you are also.(Proverbs
31:10-31, verse 30 here about a woman who 'fears the Lord' means a
woman with whom a relationship with God is number 1 in her life;
Amos
3:3).hot
for God.
If you take attention, concern,
patience, kindness, gentleness and understanding into the relationship,
most women will respond with passion,
if
she has sufficiently overcome the hurts of her past.
One overcomes all negatives
by knowing they have the righteousness of
Emmanuel the Christ. Example.
If you treat her special,
she will stay with you. Some of the best advice I ever heard to maintain
a great relationship was to decide to spoil each other. That comes
from Jim Richards of Impact Ministries.(impactministries.com).
It has worked for him and his beautiful lady who has spoiled him for over
twenty years. Jim needs spoiling and hey, don't we all? The way a woman
likes to be treated is.often!
Hey! You are on a journey
through life; you might as well enjoy it as best you can!
Ladies, avoid the guy who
is violent and may not be gentle with you.(Malachi
2:14-16).or
children.
Some men and much more so than women, have a 'vandalism syndrome'; that
is, once a relationship is good, they find some reason or excuse, to wreck
it! Truly, the demons do have an 'in line'
to many. Watch for early frustrations in men and consider that these frustrations
some day may be directed towards you and/or various relationships.(children,
friends, etc.).and/or,
anything that seems permanently clean, good, wholesome and constructive.
Many women have been abused
by their male partners. Some
are so downhearted and confused they interpret a clinched fist as an
expression of love or exercise and hang in there for more 'I don't need
to go out and exercise. I can stay home and get it from fist dodging'.
When you are downhearted,
you are sapped. This is why it's important to find out what the person
is really like before you commit and it takes a good six months to get
a guiding glimse with some men or women.
Many guys are
predisposed
to anger and fits of rage:.Psalms
37:8;.Proverbs
15:18 "A wrathful man stirs up strife but he that is slow to anger
appeases
strife."
It takes time and circumstances
to find this out. Why respond to a man who treats you without gentleness
and dignity? Where do you think you will ever go in life with this kind
of person? Perhaps to the grave.
For men in the Calgary area
who want help to overcome a tendency to be abusive, contact Men's Domestic
Conflict Help Line at 403.266-4357. For women contact the Calgary Women's
Emergency Shelter at 403.232-8717.
Get the RCMP.(Royal
Canadian Mounted Police).video
entitled Violence Against Women; call 1.800.445-5144.
Some religions have taught
women to 'submit'. In Ephesians 5:21
and verse 33, Paul
tells us to be submitting.(original
is 'aligning with').to
each
other.
We can't belong.to
each other.(like
a possession that one has control over),
but if a relationship is improving as it goes along, it then has rapport
and in a rapport filled relationship, we belong.with
each other.(a
sharing).
And why? If you are both
seeking to grow spiritually.(1Thessalonians
4:1), you naturally would see which
of you at any time would be ahead in this area:.Ephesians
5:33.
