We have all seen
photogenically
perfect faces and personalities that become ugly the more one is around
them. Conversely,
a homely person
can become stunning in attractiveness as they allow themselves.(by
a decision to become that way).to
be motivated by beautiful thoughts.(Philippians
4:8), thereby increasing the love
that may be in them. Love radiates the true soul of a person. When you
love someone you crave to touch them.
"Good looks have little
to do with one's body and everything to do with one's mind."....more
from Mike Dooley, star in the movie The
Secret.
This spirit area, the
Soul, is where the real attractiveness
of a person resides and is cultivated
and where it will be recognized
by that special other; more.
Over months and years the
outer features begin to mimic
the beauty inside, that is, unless one is obstinate,
angry,
resentful,
etc., then they are on the road to ugliness.(Psalms
39:11).that
will
show up increasingly in physical appearance as the months and years
roll on by.
"Beauty is love at the heart
of creation."....Deepak
Chopra. When you feel and see beauty, you know it
is truth. Where do you find beauty? In a child's
smile, children playing,
laughing,
singing, studying, talking, in sunsets/sunrises, vistas
of water.(such
as 1, 2,
3),
a pretty woman dressed attractively.(Proverbs
30:18,19), a friendly park with
happy trees, a well
prepared and attractively presented meal, the design of an exciting
car, the graceful lines of an animal.(such
as you see near the end of this fine
movie), the presentation
of flowers growing in a garden, the
world from space at night, the patterns
of creation? Add some things to your mind that you find beautiful.
All people do not see the
same things in another, so not to worry about your looks. A few be repulsed
by you. That's good. You don't want to be around them anyway. Others will
see you as pleasing and yet others as immensely attractive. The ones in
sync with what you are at heart, the ones you too are attracted
to, as friends or as desiring more and perhaps into a special deeper relationship
where both of you can ride the crest
of the waves, are the ones to chum
with.
Many people can't see beyond
themselves far enough to notice any beauty anywhere. Dried up souls stumble
across beauty, but the moment dwindles
all too quickly for them and they quickly run back to their
normal mindset before being affected to produce good:.Luke
11:24.
Attraction is generated by
a positive response to what we experience. Attraction comes from kindness.
Seek the hidden qualities. Why?
This involves qualities of the soul if it is to be true attractiveness.
If you are out to find the hidden
jewel, the soul in a person, you will see them as they really are and
not be blinded by some concocted
image you have developed that you want someone to fit into. That's not
to say you shouldn't be intelligently selective.
How
to be intelligently selective.
Love
connects
us to others because we are all in the same sea of spirit which we
classify
as God. Love is a spiritual quality.
Can any of us ever really turn away forever in our hearts from real true
love? Once you have loved someone, you always will, even if they have hurt
you. You may not want to be around them, but love is always alive, deep
in there somewhere. The
deep
unity of real love is never ending. Love and its
many sides are so beautiful,
as beautiful as the unending joy from all a flower
does to a person.
Because love
begets more love, a great attractiveness, to the right person, begins
to accompany them. A 'physical'.(all
is really spirit, energy).thing
you can do now to improve looks, attitude,
brain power, etc.
Most, living from the
ego level and what else
have they ever known?, look for and believe that they too should have labels
such as type of cool clothes, friends another may have, job, vehicle and
so on. Those who see no deeper than this will never have a decent
relationship because they are looking for fulfilment of an image they have
been conditioned to think they should have. They are too occupied.with
externals. Their world is defined by a fixed set of brands including such
as name, age, status, wealth attributes,
height, color, family, location, house type, movies watched, books read,
gadgets used, travel destinations, etc.
These label the individual
but tells nothing of one's innate
character, tells nothing of the reality
that is the person, the invisible.soul.which
cannot be labeled because it is connected to the.Soul,
the all of everything that is and becomes.
You are a body embedded
in the spirit. That is the real you! Labels put on to us by schools,
government, friends and family members distract
from the true reality and condition us to accept ourselves as the labels
being the reality. Your name isolates you from others and is the main cause
of our belief in separateness. No
wonder the soul of each of us is hidden. Hey! Keep me hidden. They're nuts
out there! Ha ha!
Labels hide the true dynamic
self that exists beyond the physical. These define
the man or woman by
rigid
conditioning and outdated thinking.
Just as you want others to
see the real you and not the labels, so should you be with others.
Learn to look beyond the masks of individuality.
Problem is
we buy into the judgments we make on the spur of the moment and most of
these are off the separating kind, that is, we make a decision to remain
separate from and never get to know the soul of another. Even more dangerous
is an emotional decision to jump in right away, "this is the one, this
is the one".
To keep yourself in a depth
of spiritual love, keep focused upon the kindness
that God has toward you:.Jude
1:21. You bring forth character magnetism when you thoroughly believe
what.God
really does now think about you.
Some women seem to compensate
for what they feel they may be lacking and become gaudy
in appearance, showing instead, lack of taste:.1Timothy
2:9. Excessive jewelry and makeup, loud clothes and always wanting
to be out and about and with 'with it' behavior, are unappealing to one
of quality:.Proverbs
7:11.
The reason women are more
concerned about attractiveness than intelligence is because they know the
average man can see better than he can think! And ladies, don't go for
'sham' poo. Get real poo! and look for a man with the kindness and sincerity
of a dog, the virility
of a horse and the intelligence of a dolphin.
And don't yourself use 'sham'
poo by acting in a manner that you think a man will be sure to respond
to. Instead be your real self, and if he doesn't respond, you now have
to decide to either let it go and continue being what you feel are the
ways that are most comfortable to you or if you feel uncomfortable over
the results your getting, decide to become a better person and begin immediately
acting out of your image of how you now have decided to become. Soon, this
new way will be inherent
to you, the new you and keep open minded about constant change over the
things you feel are not right about you. Above all, don't allow the negatives
of yourself to become entrenced into your character through stubbornness
and bitterness.
A lesson
in the story of Jacob that can keep familiarity from eroding a relationship.
Men and women still have
difficulty getting along. Understanding is needed.
You can't love another until
you know how much you are loved by him and vice
versa. Thus, the importance of openness and honesty. Apart from that,
it's often mostly infatuation.(attractiveness
to an image one has in their minds of how they think the other person
is or can become),.unless.there
appears such an immediate strong bond.(very
rare and very special).and
all that forth comes in the next weeks and months corroborates
the initial
feelings with.no
downside, not the slightest doubt. But that is extremely rare. It is
well worth waiting for.
When God gives you the
right one, you'll know it! The question is, Do you have perhaps the
months and even years of patience to wait for that, while you continue
to improve along the way? Is it better to wait 20 years for the right one
or to jump quickly and live maybe 10, 20 or more years in hell,
in and out of relationships, some perhaps much worse than the last?
To be real meaningful love,
the other has to accept your love, love in return and find within you a
meaning so deep, so never ending, so special, that you both know it is
not only 'beyond you both', but put together by God. But most can't wait
and, being hasty, look elsewhere, settling for less. Mostly, love at first
sight deserves a second look and a third and a forth. Use
the rate-a-mate.(or,
a potential one).often!
It will give you some guidance along the way.
Guys: Many women would rather
mend your ways than your socks! Many women choose men as they would an
old house, with an eye toward remodeling! Most women only want one thing
from a man, everything! Don't take a woman to church. They learn how to
preach sermons to you at home and usually end it with taking up a collection!
Seek for a women with some
of these finer qualities:.Proverbs
6:25. And look for a woman with a brain towards being helpful and thoughtful
of another's need:.Genesis
24:14. And trust that the Creator will guide you to one who trusts
in divine providence as Rebekah,
one who has good qualities.
'Rebekah' in Old Testament comes from original Hebrew spelling; 'Rebecca'
in New Testament, from the original Greek spelling; both referring to the
same individual.
A woman who is capable of
making a house a home will never be left alone! A man's club is a place
for those who have no home and a refuge for many that do!
A ten year study in the
U.S.A. revealed that first, most women want control. In fact the
article, in a respected large newspaper had said "Inside every woman is
a screaming #^#*#, just waiting to gain control." Second was money.
Then came all the rest that women want; handsome guy, cool, a little rough,
kind, patient, fun loving, lighthearted, healthy, show me the world and
'worship me I'm woman', etc., etc.
Some girls think there's
one thing better than marrying a millionaire, divorcing him.(Proverbs
6:24,26).or,
worse yet, being a quick self made widow. Hey! It takes real faith to eat
some of the things those with attitudes prepare. Food prepared without
love is upsetting to those eating it. Food eaten in anger is food sickening
to the one eating it.
Remember guys; it's less
expensive to borrow money than be forced to share it in a divorce! Ha!
ha! And guys: Some girls think it's easy to get money. They treat you as
if you were the government and they a foreign country. A study of economics
has shown that the best time to sell something is when a girl has control
over a guy's money. Women may like their friends, but competition risks
loss of profit! Ask her if she has ever opted freely out of her wallet
to help another apart from her own family. Same applies to guys.
Women become committed to
a man for many reasons other than love. And that's fine, as love can grow.
But you should be aware of the reasons. It'll take time, circumstances
and insight for you to really get to know a potential mate. You
can Ask Suby!
