Relationships With Children
(How To Be
Sure Your Children Are Blessed)
Colossians
3:21 "Fathers, provoke not your children
to anger, lest they be discouraged."
Proverbs
20:7 "The just man walks in his integrity;
his children are blessed after him.(by
his example)."
A Question on Relationships
With Children
What
causes one to become a pedophile?
Sometimes a reprimand
is only a grouch in disguise; however, remember that those whose lives
you have touched and those whom have touched yours are a part of you, even
if the encounters were less than what one would have wished. It's the content
of the encounter that is more important than its immediate form.
Many people are simply just
unskilled in how to say
things and especially so when it comes to children.
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Relationships With Others
"Everyone else is just another
version of the self. This is because through
mirror of relationships we discover ourselves."....Deepak
Chopra.
"Some cause happiness wherever
they go; others, whenever they go."....Oscar
Wilde. Proverbs
25:17 "Withdraw your foot from your neighbour's house, lest he be weary
of you and so hate you."
Being involved with others
is important for furthering your social abilities and for theirs too:.Titus
1:8 "But a lover of hospitality, a lover of good men, sober, just,
holy, temperate.".Be
excited about others doing their best and express this to them because
it's encouraging
to them and supports them in their good ideas.
With anyone of any age, always
ask yourself if you can gain anything from the
conversational engagement, which of course is the first thing two people
engage in when getting to know each other.
In relations with others,
be alert to their stance,
their beliefs. Some people espouse.mistaken.beliefs.
And some are dissimulators.
How can you know these types of people:.Psalms
21:8.
The only place one ever
really meets another is at a place of love in the heart. This is where
rapport
begins. In life we seek this in all we meet, even risking again and again
for it after being bitten
a few times. And what if you just can't get along with others or another?
Or, maybe they just don't like you and for some unknown reason, you are
avoided by them? What to do.
Are your actions worthy of
eliciting
praise from others? Are you a comfort to others, a help to them? When you
leave them, do you think they appreciated your little visit?.Proverbs
25:17. Are you one of the reasons others believe love
exists in the world? Do you add to high
standards or are you an ethical.vacillator?
Do others have low or high expectations of you? Do you let others down
or lift them up? How?.Philippians
2:3. And do you see
God in others, that is, aware of the possibity of their soul connection
with God?
What higher
consciousness thoughts are you aware of and how does one develop them,
becoming a better individual in the process?...
A first sign of suicide
is withdrawal from involvement with others; even withdrawal
from
what the self once was, the individual becomes 'strange', different
sort
of, unusual in a retrogressive
way and enters a new world of the mind's own making, a new world with a
big door keeping others out, yet allowing negatives in to rule him or her.
It's an evil. Guess who is behind it:.Revelation
12:9. See the true story movie Into
The Wild.(library
and/or search Intenet).for
not only spectacular scenery, but a heart tugger
as well, many of us can relate to.
Even behind a smile can be
such sadness:.Proverbs
14:13.
If you sense
this in another, be as kind as you can and when you get home and before
bedtime, have a short talk with the Infinite, which is the same as simply
asking yourself about your concerns about the individual, because the Creator
is
in you:.John
17:26. See what the Infinite does and/or brings to your mind.(*).
The real gentleman or lady
is one who is courteous
and
affable
without trying to sell you something!
A gentle individual is not
occupied with the self.
Consideration is the mark
of a gentleman, but there are hundreds of ways not to be!
Each time you gain an advantage
at another's expense, you ensure your own future loss, someway,
somehow.
Because some things may appear
not as they seem, they should be left unseen. Don't be a digger. Be a friend.
It is important to be doing
things with others:.1John
1:7; 2Corinthians 8:4; Acts
2:42. Do things people like. Avoid doing what they do not like. As
much as possible try to live peaceably with all:.Romans
12:18.
Doing things with others
is part of life and provides opportunity to learn to get along considering
how different we all are.
Relations with others can
be trying at times. But, avoid those who are of
angry nature:.Proverbs
22:24,25 "Make no friendship.(original
is 'feed', 'shepherd', 'companion', 'entreat',
'eat', 'pasture', 'tend'; in other words, 'don't waste your time trying
to be of help to him or her).with
an angry.(original
is 'to be displeased', 'breathing hard'; hot and determined in his
ego ways).man
and with a furious
man do not go.(don't
hang around with such types, it'll do you no good),
Lest you learn his ways and get a snare to your soul."
Relationships are important.
A study done between two towns close together, both eating much the same
food and seeing their same doctors; one town, Roseto, Pennsylvania; the
other, Bangor.
Roseto had a much
lower incidence of heart disease according to Dr. Jeffrey Milliken, Chief
of Cardiothoracic Surgery at HCI. The difference was that Roseto was a
tight knit Italian immigrant
community with strong family and community relationships. The spiritual
heart does affect the physical heart. Having loving relationships
are most important. You know the old saying: Whatever's eating you mentally,
will soon eat you physically! And that's because of the blood having been
poisoned. How?
The heart is not a pump.
It's a series of valves which open and close from the alterations of pressure
of the gel we call
blood,
moving through them.
The Creator can give
you favor in another's eyes. If He is not, then there is something
there for you to learn to improve and that always involves
the
art of love. We all are here to learn from being around all kinds of
people, from difficult to docile.
Learn what?
Without the right character
you may be inept
in handling the power you will have as a resurrected being.(1Corinthians
2:9), a member of the God
family. The main thing that's going to get you an either 30,
60 or 100 fold reward has to do with what you do here with what you
know to do and in this, He is purging you to bring forth even more fruit:.John
15:2 ".....every branch that bears fruit, he purges.(original
is 'cleanse').it,
that it may bring forth more fruit." Ephesians
2:10 "For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Emmanuel unto good
works, which God has before ordained
that we should walk in them.".That
is why life here is not easy for
any of us, but possible. We all strongly seek comfort and security,
not realizing that His nature in us is our comfort:.2Corinthians
1:4..And
this is our security.
There is a key to maintaining
a loving relationship: Jacob, who
was Abraham's grandson by Isaac.
The name Jacob is also a synonym
for the name he was later given.(Genesis
32:28), which name was Israel.
The name Jacob is often used in the
Bible for the nation of Israel,
that is, the descendants
of him having grown into a whole nation, expanded to now be a
spiritual nation.
The nation Israel had split
into two nations, the other nation being Judah.
Jacob (who was renamed Israel) had a trying
life.
He was hated by his brother Esau,
for awhile:.Genesis
27:41.
Esau's bloodline carried
on to today, causing major problems in the world we know. This was all
of God, for the great good reasons God has. Learn about
it.
Jacob's mother, Rebekah.(husband,
Isaac), spurred
Jacob to leave home for his safety:.Genesis
27:42-45.
Jacob was a loving man. He
generally
cared for his obstreperous
brother and wanted to share the wealth he had accumulated
since leaving home, so he sent word to his brother Esau:.Genesis
32:3-5.
The.very.interesting
aside
story of what happened to Jacob between leaving home and before sending
for Esau his brother, is here.
So what happened when Jacob
and Esau finally did meet, long after Esau sold his birthright for a bowl
of red lentils, because he was hungry and loved red lentils?
The messengers Jacob sent
returned to him and told him his brother was coming with four hundred men.
All the thoughts about the hate Esau had for Jacob must have been ringing
through Jacob's mind again:.Genesis
32:6-8. Jacob was very concerned, remembering how he had to leave home
for fear of his life:.Genesis
32:9,11.
Jacob and Esau's mom Rebekah.(Genesis
27:5-17).was
the reason for
the hate of Esau toward his brother Jacob. So, she wasn't the best
of moms. But behind the scenes it was God working it all out for reasons
that carry on down to us today. The story:.Genesis
chapter 27. And its outcome.
Jacob was so upset that his
brother and four hundred men were coming to see him, that he even had a
present arranged for his brother Esau when he was to come:.Genesis
32:13. Jacob was anxious to show his kindness and love that he had
for Esau and just wanted his brother Esau to
love him at this time in his life:.Genesis
32:14-20. He was also scared as his brother became powerful and had
many warriors with him. Jacob himself was always totally forgiving
of any wrongs done to him, such as when he was tricked
by his uncle Laban.
Earlier Jacob was out to
trick his brother Esau with the help of his mom. And all this was in God's
plans for the future peoples that came out of Esau and Jacob.
So the time comes when Esau
meets Jacob..Jacob
in humility and some fear, no doubt, bows to the ground when he sees Esau:.Genesis
33:1-3. But Esau was different now. He wasn't out to harm his brother
as before:.Genesis
33:4-7.
Esau
had become somewhat
like Jacob during the interim:.Genesis
33:9-11. Lesson being, the good effect you wanted for others may
take a long time to be seen.(*),
but it will have a good effect. Why
it
may?
Will it be the same today
with the line
of Esau causing so many heartaches for those having the same attitude
and good bloodline as ancient Jacob? Many think so, because if it's of
God, it'll have a good outcome, even though it is wrenchingly
difficult at times.
Jacob was the type of individual
to go to great lengths to ensure a harmonious relationship and had great
respect even for this brother of his:.Genesis
33:8. Jacob was generous:.Genesis
33:11. Jacob was a true gentleman.
A gentleman test! But when he wants something
he can be devious, as he was with the bowl of lentils to get the birthright
from his brother Esau. He probably was like this because of God urging
him and his mother too. God was working out some plan here, unseen to all
at the time. Men may have plots but God always has a plan.
Think of the ways God is.not.working
in.your.life.
In your quiet time, think about this. Some will answer with, 'My son died,
so God didn't heal him. Others, My life and relationships all went to hell,
where was God? And many similar stories.
So, God left you when you
needed his help the most, right? Why, when God says this?.Hebrews
13:5 "...I will never leave you, nor forsake you.".Could
it be this?.Jeremiah
6:10.
And the key to it all. Look
beyond the physical. Look deeply into others, but don't probe
with questions. Jacob had looked beyond what his brother had caused, what
with him.(Jacob).having
to leave home and had to also look beyond all the hate Esau had for him
and
saw only God in him:.Genesis
33:10. This made the difference in the relationship:.Deuteronomy
23:7 "You shall not abhor
an Edomite, for he is your brother. You shall not abhor an Egyptian, because
you were a stranger in his land."
Try to see the value in
others that the Creator sees; that each individual is valuable enough for
God to have come here in the flesh to die for, in order to enable them
to aspire toward
a wonderful future. With this attitude
you won't exclude yourself from regular
fellowship to socialize.
This long standing attitude
of love and concern for Esau was obviously blessed by God as Esau had changed
from hate to love for Jacob. God
can cause hearts to change:.Proverbs
16:7.
