7- Cares for
you and others?.considerate,
prompt,
respects, adds to the relationship, open to intimacy
or an oppressive,
dominating
type.(how
to spot them); or an egomaniac
into debt and
phony
personality presentations for the sake of an impressive lifestyle,
a perfect example of 'loving
the world'? Tries to give you a perfect happy day or negotiates the
day from a selfish point of view? Is he or she learning from the wisdom
of those
who have walked life's pathways earlier?
Does the person who is a
potential for a mate comprehend how to get the things such as money that
he or she will want? Without
money one's life doesn't go far, nor does it if money is from ill-gotten
gains. Does he or she understand the
Creator's part in all this?.Matthew
6:33.
That difference is dichotomization.
The ability to separate what is needed from what one may desire, can help
contribute towards a stable lifestyle. To adhere
to such values requires self-control.
Einstein
understood the difference. Does your potential mate?
Ladies, seek for a man like
Eady had.
8- Trustworthy, open,
honest, dependable, well liked by others and confident, yet vulnerable?.Has
integrity.(or
a worthless dud, see under #15); stands
the test.(approved
by others you trust).of
others whom you know love you, like mom and dad? Is a polite
person? Known him or her long enough? How long is that? Do you know him
or her well enough to be sure positive qualities will remain.consistent.or
is the person a phony
presenting some initial
acts? Is she or he confident.yet.vulnerable,
that is, is strong enought to allow others to see his heart or a weak kneeded
wussy
that seems to be hiding what he or she really is?
9- Appreciative and happy.thankful,
happy with you and his/herself; willing to give all to do whatever it may
take to make the relationship continually special; also, if you don't feel
this way toward the other, don't proceed?
10- Voice and speech.pleasant
and warm, upbeat yet controlled, or 'draggy', incoherent;
speaks of the good in others or gossips;
would rather say something lighthearted or nasty?
11-.Open
minded.and
a seeker, anxious to learn that which
will improve things? What does he or she want? If a family is important
to you, is it also to him or her? Wants you for a sex ride and yet wants
to continue to live his or her own life as he or she sees fit? Wants to
'settle down' or play his or her life away for a while?
Does the person who is your
present object of attention have flexibility, creativity and wonder for
life or have they lost it somewhere along the way, now being
stuck in negativity? Is he or she attached to outcomes that never seem
to come around? Then, they are far from a connection with their
soul. Being flexible in life is letting go of concerns over outcomes,
knowing that the soul is always working out what is best. This is faith.
12- Cleanliness of person/living
environment.neat,
classy,
disheveled,
crummy?
13- Background.upbringing:
loving
parents, to each other and him/her, present state of parents?; still
happily together? This is one of the more important considerations, perhaps
the most important consideration? And what's the family like? And does
he the person you are considering have positive feelings about both the
good and bad circumstances of his past. Is he or she capable of deep feelings
or happy mostly by satisfying superficial and temporary present interests.
If he or she
came from good parents, they too will make a good parent.
14- Common interests.what
brings you together; able to communicate?
or is a self-involved me first, me only, unless I want something from you,
type of person?
15- Is he or she a true
spiritual person.called
a Christian.(Acts
11:26).in
the Holy Bible, although as
Emmanuel said:.Matthew
7:20?
Are they on the ever learning
path of spirituality, learning about their
egos and learning about
higher consciousness or have they found it all? If they think they
have found it all, run!
Consider, does the other
person make you feel put upon.(imposed
upon, overburdened by).and
annoyed?
If they tend to
rouse
your anger, they are not helping you spiritually and there is no soul closeness.
The door to the realm
of spirit is closing. You won't be happy with this person for any length
of time. If each of you cannot surrender to the path of peace that brought
you together in the first place; if each of you cannot leave off trying
to be right, then, what are you doing together, apart from doing some jiggery-pokery?
Bickering
is another major roadblock to intimacy,
one that engages in blaming
the other person. Of course, this leads to mutual
blame and destroys peace of mind and eventually
will destroy the relationship. How?
Looking for solutions to
resolve such situations takes you out of the bickering mode.
Pointless bickering creates a rocky relationship. Does it really matter
who said what and when? Isn't it more important to figure out where you
now are and move forward? But it does take two. If you both meditate,
your souls will get closer.
Are they hot, lukewarm or
pseudo?.2Corinthians
6:14,15 "Be you not unequally yoked together with unbelievers. For
what fellowship has righteousness.(and
what
does that mean?).with
unrighteousness? And what communion has light with darkness? And what concord
has Christ with Belial.(or,
those which can be influenced by the
dark side)? Or what part has he
that believes with an infidel.(an
unbeliever, a non-spiritually minded person; one not called
by God yet)?" Colossians
1:13 "Who has delivered us from the power of darkness and has translated
us into the kingdom of his dear Son." Ephesians
5:11 "And have no fellowship with the unfruitful works of darkness,
but rather reprove them.".or,
more accurately:.'Avoid
the dark side; the side that is unprofitable spiritually
and be convicted of those works; that is, see the results and decide.(as
the
previous verse in this chapter advises).not
to be a part of those works.'
It is the Holy Nature of
God that is working on one's heart.(John
16:8), reproving
or convicting
the conscience
to seek answers that can only be found when one is on a spiritual pathway,
getting closer to God.
Use the baseball rule, three
strikes and you're out! Because a relationship should grow and because
you do not want to end up in an
'empty box', use the baseball rule.when
getting to know someone.and
interested enough to rate them.
If they do what you consider
to be a.major.negative
regarding the relationship, that is strike one. Strike two comes along?
Time to do some.very.serious
thinking. If strike three occurs, well, are you going to hang in for 'strike
four', perhaps 5 and 6 and 7, while your time gets wasted with these negative
happenings? If you do, expect them continuously. Will you hang in there
while more strikes occur, during which time you have perhaps missed meeting
someone else more suitable for you? Surely, you are not that dumb!.Romans
13:10 "Love works no ill to his neighbour..."
Amos
3:3 "Can two walk together, except they be agreed?"
So, if you are getting 'ill'
from this person, do you think they will ever love you? Nope! Not at all.
Better to row the boat of life by yourself than have to drag dead weight
along in it.
What is his or her attitude
toward good things and noble principles? Or is he or she a dishonest one
who violates the sense of right and wrong to gain selfish advantage.(like,
"how can I use what he/she likes to get what I want").
Is he or she one who manipulates and lies to deceive. If he or she highly
regards good, he or she will highly regard good in you:.Matthew
12:35. If not, kiss 'em goodbye!
One who does not regard
good, enough to put some in him or herself and try
to convey it to others, is virtually
worthless, consumed by selfishness,
of no real value and locked into
the low consciousness ego
level. Some are so selfish they can't even give any time to just listen
to another. They are unable to even do that. Even
a little good in them toward others would make a difference for both
them and others. Instead the extreme selfish ones have allowed themselves
the path of resistance to good, which has taken them into a personality
of worthlessness because it refuses to help others, a personality that
the
dark side is pleased with. What real value do they then have. Is
all hope for them gone? Nope!
Such are they who fail to
realize their spiritual
importance and fail to understand how
much the Creator loves them. Without them realizing this, they will
have no power to do anything of value in life:.John
15:5.
One seeking the approbation
of men is not a true spiritual person of love:.John
5:44.
Look
to see if another has faith. One can tell if a spiritual person.really.believes
in a life beyond by how they live today.
More
on being unequally yoked. Has he or she talked to God about his/her
death? Makes for an interesting more serious conversation topic, especially
if something has welled up in the mind
from the Creator as an answer if one or both of you had done this.
