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-What about staying single to serve God?

1Corinthians 7:7. Paul was advising that for the present distress.(there was persecution upon what was called the church at this time), as he mentions in verses 26,27, that it would be easier at this time not to complicate your life by involvement with another.

Some humans can easily get by being single. Others need the opposite sex in their life:.1Corinthians 7:1-8

-How can one get rid of an unforgiving attitude?

Going back in time with our memories enables us to revisit past errors and this allows us to easily forgive ourself and others because we see that, in reality, there is no limitation in space or time, everything is always present at the spirit/energy level, so you can spiral back in your memory and dissipate negatives you have caused.

There really are no 'others', that is, underneath it all. The other is nothing more than our real self at a different level. By getting to know others we learn more about ourselves.

But should we be asking for forgiveness from God? No. Why? We should be asking forgiveness from others for ourselves if we have wronged them in any way.

Forgiveness involves not holding anything against another even though you still may have the memory of the hurt. Forgiveness involves seeing the God in everyone you meet and know, because at the core, that's what we all are.

How to know if you have forgiven another.or yourself? When you forgive you 'give for', you replace what causes or has caused offense with that which produces its opposite; that is, the bad things of character that caused and are causing issues, you replace with the things of higher consciousness. In this way you can heal the past and get younger. In doing this you slay the old self which was primarily.ego based, becoming a better refreshed person in the process. The Bible calls this repentance.(what is that?).and being reborn. Forgive all those who have made negatives in your memory.

Forgive yourself for allowing yourself to be taken down so deeply by resentments over the past and worries about what the future might hold. Forgive yourself for allowing these negative things to submerge who you really are, the you that is not available with negatives holding sway over your life keeping you hidden from others. Forgiving is seeing the true heart of a person.(including oneself), the soul and looking beyond any current presentation of a person that is offensive. 

The soul is saturated with love. If you don't feel saturated with love, you need to get energy flowing from your soul to refresh you:.Acts 3:19-21. When this occurs, even if someone does something that is offensive, you don't change your opinion of the other because you realize that the 'other' is also you.(how is this?):.Psalms 119:165. That is, we are all one. One in love. One, when of the Creator.(this means being of the same outlook:.Philippians 2:2,5), for the Creator is only love.(1John 4:8,16), the deeper one looks into it.(*). This is a consciousness of an underlying unity. Then is is impossible to hurt or be hurt:.Romans 13:10.

Consider any invectives encountered opportunities to rise above the normal consciousness reaction and into higher consciousness.

A necessary forgiveness from feeling offended would only happen if oneself feels unforgiven. He then needs to enter into forgiveness, simply by desire, belief and acceptance, because the forgiveness work has already been done:.Hebrews 4:3; Matthew 7:7

Once that has been done there is nothing to forgive in anyone, now or later, because, you are in a state of forgiveness and as such can't even see anything that might be offensive to you. When you are total love, you only want to see love and you find it in everyone because you have found it within you and you are one with everything:.1Thessalonians 5:15; 1Peter 3:10.

More on forgiveness.

Considering this from the ego level it looks nuts! But from the level of high consciousness there is only unity. We are here to change the way we look at others, the way we react to them, if negative, not here to change the way others are to us. We normally look at others from the ego's point of view and this is born of a belief in separateness. From the limited viewpoint of the ego we cannot understand that everything in the stillness, the gap, is in harmony with everything else. To comprehend it, please read this stunning true story.

An unforgiving attitude can come from being displeased with the way another may be and that's because, since we are all part of the same energy, one is displeased with himself.

How can a true spiritual person ever be in a state of having to forgive? Because of what Christ did for all, all in the mass mind of humanity is forgiven; all they need do is believe it. We are all in a state of forgiveness, so really there is nothing ever to forgive or get offended over in the first place. Because of Him all is forgiven.

Being in this state of forgiveness removes toxic memories from the mind. Deep seated fears, resentments, which are things in the past you had anger about, are as a result of ego conditioning over many years. If you still have any of these negatives, you're not in a state of forgiveness.

Forgiveness severs memories from your emotions so that they are no longer a regular occurrence and the emotions heal. On this, see Brandon Bays in the movie.What If The Movie.

These negative memories no longer have a comfortable place in the mind because even the hint of them closes the door to protect the real you that you have decided to allow your soul to unfold:.Ephesians 4:24; Colossians 3:10; 1John 2:8; Hebrews 10:20. Forgiveness is the essence of letting go. Let go of those things that restrict your soul's expression. Ask yourself if you are holding onto things that need forgiveness. Ask what those things are and how to eliminate them in your particular case.

Thoughts and memory reside where the Soul is, where there is no time, where there is no distance, where there just 'is'. That's why we are called human 'beings'; being in the present moment, not living from the hurts of the past and from any worries over the future:.Matthew 6:25-34.

Forgiveness removes toxic memories. Never forgive because 'you are supposed to'. That doesn't come from the heart. When you can treat another with an open mind, just as if you met the first time, then you know you have entered the state of love, of true forgiveness.

When you meet that individual again or any individual for that matter, are you feeling love.(kindness, a willingness to always compromise).or criticalness, resentment, revenge, retribution and wanting to hide feelings, a sense of avoidance, bitterness or a sense of warring? Are you allowing the memory of your reaction to the hurts they caused dominate your attention? The closer you get to someone the more of their flaws you will see, the more your tendencies will be irked by their behaviors. The way out? Look for opportunities to make a kind difference. It's an opening to solve an issue with spiritual consciousness and so you grow spiritually. 

We draw close to this Great Infinite Intelligence we commonly refer to as God, through the higher consciousness things. If you don't 'feel' like being forgiving, know that you won't feel that way until you become that way, because emotion follows thought. How to become that way.

But what is forgiveness? Studies of the original words denote 'to put away', 'to put far from you', 'leave', 'to refrain from exacting'.(a penalty for example), 'let go away', 'cancel', to pardon', 'to restore to a former condition or position'; basically to look upon another as though there never was anything wrong in the relationship in the first place. Forgiveness involves treating another just as though there never was anything wrong between you both in the first place; just as if you met the individual for the first time after having heard he or she was a fine individual.

But, sometimes the easiest way to forgive is to just put it in God's hands, forgetting the hurt to yourself and moving on in life as Paul did: 2Timothy 4:14,15.

Then what? Now that we're forgiven, do we change or stay the same and later again need forgiveness? Well, do we like standing still or growing in God.

Acknowledge to yourself, that you are an unforgiving person, if you indeed are and make a decision to be a different way.

Choose now to to forgive others and decide to be a comfort to people, instead of their judge:.Hebrews 12:14; Matthew 6:12. To judge others you have to see their negatives. That's why it's so refreshing to be in Christ, in that, in spite of our negatives, Emmanuel's sacrifice has made it possible to be established in a relationship directly with the Father, who does not see any fault in us at all.(see 'Judgment').. Ephesians 4:31,32

To know if you have arrived at forgiveness, notice if your feelings are no longer the same toward that person and if your concern for the other person is as great as for the needs of yourself. "Forgiveness is giving up all hope for a better past."....Jack Kornfield.

Emotion follows thoughts or decisions most of the time. Sometimes emotion comes first, like when you are suddenly frightened. 

When you decide differently, feelings follow. From these feelings one makes his or her life. You are always giving out what it is that you are and you always get back what you transmit. More 1) 2).

But if I forgive, then I may get taken advantage of again by the same person, some may ask.."As long as you do not forgive, who and whatever it is will occupy rent free space in your mind."....Isabelle Holland.

So, let yourself be taken advantage of! Do you trust the Creator for anything?.Matthew 5:39-48; Romans 8:28; *.

The Creator tells us to deal out forgiveness lavishly 70x7 to those having done us wrong. Why not? A quote from Bob Proctor's book:."Let us not look back in anger, nor forward in fear but around us in awareness."....Leland Val Van De Wall.

That is because God's in charge of all that's happening to you if you are a Christian or are on that road of spirituality leading you into deeper ways of loving.(one is). And if not, circumstances are still molding your life into lessons you'll need to learn for your eternal journey.

How forgiveness has power, but not power to change another. When you forgive someone and you might have to do that again if a similar situation arises when around them, know this, forgiveness has great power. Here's how it works!

True forgiveness is forgetting. But what if every time I'm around that individual, it all comes to mind again. Not to worry. Key is, do you want it forgotten?

God is aware of all occurring in your life, even if you're not a Christian.

Forgiveness is an attitude, not an action, although one's actions can show forgiveness. That is why we forgive without having been asked for forgiveness by anyone who may have offended us. When you have the joy of the Lord, forgiveness comes easy!.Luke 6:35 "But love you your enemies and do good and lend, hoping for nothing again and your reward is great and you then are the children of the Highest, for he.(the Creator).is kind unto the unthankful and to the evil.".Why?

One way to show forgiveness is to not ostracize those who have offended you. Another way is to show love to them, even if it is clumsy at first to show. Love is like any art. Perfection is a never ending process.

When should you forgive?.Mark 11:25,26 "And when you stand praying, forgive, if you have ought against any, that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses. But if you do not forgive, neither will your Father which is in heaven forgive your trespasses." Ephesians 4:32 "And be you kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ's sake has forgiven you."


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"My mother says to look for a man who is kind...a..a...
so I'll find someone who is kinda tall and kinda handsome.".Carolyn, AGE 8
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