-What about staying
single to serve God?
1Corinthians
7:7. Paul was advising that for the present distress.(there
was persecution
upon what was called the church at this time),
as he mentions in verses 26,27,
that it would be easier at this time not to complicate your life by involvement
with another.
Some humans can easily get
by being single. Others need the opposite sex in their life:.1Corinthians
7:1-8
-How can one get rid of
an unforgiving attitude?
Going back in time with
our memories enables us to revisit past errors and this allows us to easily
forgive ourself and others because we see that, in
reality, there is no limitation in space or time, everything
is always present at the
spirit/energy level, so you can spiral
back in your memory and dissipate
negatives you have caused.
There really
are no 'others', that is, underneath
it all. The other is nothing more than our real
self at a different level. By getting to know others we learn more
about ourselves.
But should we be asking for
forgiveness from God? No. Why?
We should be asking forgiveness from others for ourselves if we have wronged
them in any way.
Forgiveness involves not
holding anything against another even though you still may have the memory
of the hurt. Forgiveness involves seeing the God in everyone you meet and
know, because at the core, that's what we
all
are.
How to know if you have forgiven
another.or
yourself? When you forgive you 'give for', you replace what causes
or has caused offense with that which produces its opposite; that is, the
bad things of character that caused and are causing issues, you replace
with the things
of higher consciousness. In this way you can heal the past and get
younger. In doing this you slay the old self which was primarily.ego
based, becoming a better refreshed individual in the process. The Bible
calls this repentance.(what
is that?).and
being reborn. Forgive
all
those who have made negatives in your
memory.
Forgive
yourself for allowing yourself to be taken down so deeply by resentments
over the past and worries
about what the future might hold. Live in joy in the present moment. Forgive
yourself for allowing negative things to submerge
who you really are, the you that is not available with negatives
holding sway over
your life keeping you hidden from others. Forgiving is seeing the true
heart of an individual.(including
oneself), the soul
and as best you cna looking beyond any current presentation of anyone that
is offensive. They just don't know who they really are because they have
allowed a vail to be placed over them:.2Corinthians
3:16.
The soul is saturated with
love. If you don't feel saturated with love, you need to get energy flowing
from your soul to refresh you:.Acts
3:19-21. When this occurs, even if someone does something that is offensive,
you don't change your opinion of the other because you realize that the
'other' is also you.(how
is this?):.Psalms
119:165. That is, we are all one. One in love. One, when of the Creator.(this
means being of the same outlook:.Philippians
2:2,5), for the Creator is only
love.(1John
4:8,16), the deeper one looks into
it.(*).
This is a consciousness of an underlying unity. Then is is impossible to
hurt or be hurt:.Romans
13:10.
Consider any invectives
encountered opportunities to rise above the normal consciousness reaction
and into higher consciousness.
A necessary forgiveness from
feeling offended would only happen if oneself feels unforgiven. He then
needs to enter into forgiveness, simply by desire, belief and acceptance,
because the forgiveness work has already been done:.Hebrews
4:3; Matthew 7:7.
Once that has been done there
is nothing to forgive in anyone,
now
or later, because, you are in a state of forgiveness and as such can't
even see anything that might be offensive to you. When you are total love,
you only want to see love and you find it in everyone because you have
found it within you and you are one with everything:.1Thessalonians
5:15; 1Peter 3:10.
More
on forgiveness.
Considering this from the
ego level it looks nuts! But from the level of high consciousness there
is only unity.
We are here to change the way we look at others, the way we
react to them, if negative, not here to change the way others are to us.
We normally look at others from the ego's point of view and this is born
of a belief in separateness. From
the limited viewpoint of the ego we cannot understand that everything in
the stillness, the gap, is in harmony
with everything else. To comprehend it, please read this
stunning true story.
An unforgiving attitude can
come from being displeased with the way another may be and that's because,
since we are all part of the same
energy, one is displeased with himself.
How can a true spiritual
person ever be in a state
of having to forgive? Because of what Christ did for all, all in the mass
mind of humanity is forgiven; all they need do is believe it. We are all
in a state of forgiveness, so really there is nothing ever to forgive or
get offended over in the first place. Because of Him all is forgiven.
Being in this state of forgiveness
removes toxic memories from the mind. Deep seated fears, resentments, which
are things in the past you had anger about, are as a result of ego conditioning
over many years. If you still have any of these negatives, you're not in
a state of forgiveness.
Forgiveness severs
memories from your emotions so that they are no longer a regular occurrence
and the emotions heal. On this, see Brandon Bays in the movie.What
If The Movie.
These negative memories no
longer have a comfortable place in the mind because even the hint of them
closes the door to protect the real you that you have decided to allow
your soul to unfold:.Ephesians
4:24; Colossians 3:10; 1John
2:8; Hebrews 10:20. Forgiveness
is the essence
of letting go. Let go of those things that restrict your soul's expression.
Ask yourself if you are holding onto things that need forgiveness. Ask
what those things are and how to eliminate them in your particular case.
Thoughts and memory
reside where the Soul is, where there is no time, where there is no
distance, where there just 'is'. That's why we are called human 'beings';
being in the present moment, not living from the hurts of the past and
from any worries over the future:.Matthew
6:25-34.
Forgiveness removes toxic
memories. Never forgive because 'you are supposed to'. That doesn't come
from the heart. When you can treat another with an open mind, just as if
you met the first time, then you know you have entered the state of love,
of true forgiveness.
When you meet that individual
again or any individual for that matter, are you feeling love.(kindness,
a willingness to always compromise).or
criticalness, resentment, revenge, retribution and wanting to hide feelings,
a sense of avoidance, bitterness or a sense of warring? Are you allowing
the memory of your reaction to the hurts they caused dominate
your attention? The closer you get to someone the more of their flaws
you will see, the more your tendencies
will be irked
by their behaviors. The way out? Look for opportunities to make a kind
difference. It's an opening to solve an issue with spiritual
consciousness and so you grow spiritually.
We draw close to this Great
Infinite Intelligence we commonly refer to as God, through the
higher consciousness things. If you don't 'feel' like being forgiving,
know that you won't feel that way until you become that way, because emotion
follows thought. How
to become that way.
But what is forgiveness?
Studies of the original words denote
'to put away', 'to put far from you', 'leave', 'to refrain from exacting'.(a
penalty for example), 'let go away',
'cancel', to pardon', 'to restore to a former condition or position'; basically
to look upon another as though there never was anything wrong in the relationship
in the first place. Forgiveness involves treating another just as though
there never was anything wrong between you both in the first place; just
as if you met the individual for the first time after having heard he or
she was a fine individual.
But, sometimes the easiest
way to forgive is to just put it in God's hands, forgetting the hurt to
yourself and moving on in life as Paul did: 2Timothy
4:14,15.
Then what? Now that we're
forgiven, do we change or stay the same and later again need forgiveness?
Well, do we like standing still or growing
in God.
Acknowledge to yourself,
that you are an unforgiving person, if you indeed are and
make
a decision to be a different way.
Choose now to to forgive
others and decide to be a comfort to people, instead of their judge:.Hebrews
12:14; Matthew 6:12. To judge
others you have to see their negatives. That's why it's so refreshing to
be in Christ, in that, in
spite of our negatives, Emmanuel's sacrifice has made it possible to
be established in a relationship directly with the Father, who does
not see any fault in us at all.(see
'Judgment')..
Ephesians
4:31,32
To know if you have arrived
at forgiveness,
notice if your feelings are no longer the same toward that person and if
your concern for the other person is as great as for the needs of yourself.
"Forgiveness
is giving up all hope for a better past."....Jack
Kornfield.
Emotion
follows thoughts or decisions most of the time. Sometimes emotion comes
first, like when you are suddenly frightened.
When you decide
differently,
feelings follow. From
these feelings one makes his or her life. You are always giving out what
it is that you are and you always
get back what you transmit.
More
1)
2).
But if I forgive, then I
may get taken advantage of again by the same person, some may ask.."As
long as you do not forgive, who and whatever it is will occupy rent free
space in your mind."....Isabelle
Holland.
So, let yourself be taken
advantage of! Do you trust the Creator for anything?.Matthew
5:39-48; Romans 8:28; *.
The Creator tells us to
deal out forgiveness lavishly 70x7 to those
having done us wrong. Why not? A quote from Bob
Proctor's book:."Let
us not look back in anger, nor forward in fear but around us in awareness."....Leland
Val Van De Wall.
That is because God's
in charge of all that's happening to you if you are a Christian
or are on that road of spirituality leading you into deeper ways of loving.(one
is). And if not, circumstances
are still molding your life into lessons you'll need to learn for your
eternal journey.
How forgiveness has power,
but not power to change another. When you forgive someone and you might
have to do that again if a similar situation arises when
around them, know this, forgiveness has great power. Here's
how it works!
True forgiveness is forgetting.
But what if every time I'm around that individual, it all comes to mind
again. Not to worry. Key is, do you want it forgotten?
God is
aware
of all occurring in your life, even if you're not a Christian.
Forgiveness is an attitude,
not an action, although one's actions can show forgiveness. That is why
we forgive without having been asked for forgiveness by anyone who may
have offended us. When you have the
joy of the Lord, forgiveness comes easy!.Luke
6:35 "But love you your enemies and do good and lend, hoping for
nothing again and your reward is great and you then are the children
of the Highest, for he.(the
Creator).is
kind unto the unthankful and to the evil.".Why?
One way to show forgiveness
is to not ostracize
those who have offended you. Another way is to show love to them, even
if it is clumsy at first to show. Love is like
any art. Perfection is a never ending process.
When should you forgive?.Mark
11:25,26 "And when you stand praying, forgive, if you have ought against
any, that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses.
But if you do not forgive, neither will your Father which is in heaven
forgive your trespasses." Ephesians
4:32 "And be you kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one
another, even as God for Christ's sake has forgiven you."
