Is spanking torturing
a child? No! It can save his or her life.
It can be a little pain for a lot of
gain, when it may be needed and that should be
almost
never with loving parenting:.Proverbs
22:6,15. How would you know if you're doing it right?
Spanking could be telling
your kids you don't want them. Be sure of what you are doing when correcting
them. Correcting means getting them back on the right course of life. What's
that? The course of love. If the child was being on the road of harming
another in some way, he or she was not being loving.
When I was spanked, I didn't
know what I did was wrong, only that I must have done something. So, it's
important to talk with the child first before spanking. Usually what a
child may have done is not really serious, but may have been if he or she
wasn't stopped, such as throwing rocks at other kids, pushing them in play
where if the other child tripped he could have fallen onto something and
been hurt. So, those sort of things. Teach them to respect others. Teach
them to not be a doormat to others who are not loving. Teach them to say
NO when necessary and to stay away from bullies.
If you make a bully your friend, you'll become like him in the end.
Usually spanking is not necessary
if the child is willing to listen and straighten
out.
Do you know how to connect
with your child's soul? No? Then you don't know how to connect to yours.
Learn about
it. It's all about love.
Love is so much more powerful
than anything else. It reaches the soul. Love for children will provide
special guidance to you to know how to deal with each of your children.
But sometimes and this is
mostly 'because you are pressed for time' and in a situation that you think
calls for immediate physical action, because you don't want to take the
time to reach a child's soul just then, you resort to a little pain to
underscore a lesson told so quickly to the child that he or she just doesn't
get it anyhow. Avoid these situations that are confusing to a child.
And, though spanking can
be an ordinary.(lower).consciousness
way of dealing with children and can be of the
ego level, there are those parents even below this.
These are those parents
who do not care for their children.(bad
moms.and.dads
of old), instead being content to just
let
them grow up.(throw
up). They don't bother themselves with
teaching, loving and correcting their children when necessary, seeing no
future but what 'the world
may hand them'. They are in delusion,
failing to think that explaining to the child will work wonders in reaching
his Soul, choosing instead to just leave him alone, abandoned to programming
of the mass mind,
which includes bad
ass schools, their bad ass teachers and horrible curricula:.Isaiah
55:8. It's no wonder then that many children develop criminal tendencies.
Such are they, both parents
and their children, who
don't even see themselves as part of the problem. Learn when and where
spanking is beneficial.
Don't know? Well, how about keeping him or her out of prison? If you, as
a parent, don't correct him, the penal.system
will, when he or she gets into serious trouble and then they will have
a criminal record:.Ecclesiastes
8:11; Proverbs 22:6. Better
to take care of small problems when they are small, than try to do it when
it's now beyond you.
These are those who are
of surface living and mind.."Great
minds often discuss ideas. Mediocre
minds discuss events making for a lighter conversation. Small discontented
minds gossip,
carp
and gripe.".Surface
living and thinking is of the low consciousness, that is, thinking and
acting devoid
of connection with the deep well
of existence.
But dumb
ass parents, who perhaps should have never become parents at this stage
in their lives, will not see this. Dumb ass parents are those who fail
their children, not just by sending them to dumb
ass schools, but also by neglecting to
envelop them with good thoughts and high quality friends, not realizing
the power of good that
high consciousness thoughts and environment
can provide.
The 'wonder'
of these people is that they are so. . .duh!
and never consider to the depth of reaching effectiveness that produces
the best adults possible. Do your best always. Why?
Such are they that have no
idea of the nature of the real ways of life, perhaps being filled with
much misinformation from sources who themselves have been influenced by
the dark side of the
mass mind, the ways of the vast.majority
of humanity.
Those who do not care for
their children, often neglect their welfare by failing to alert them to
bad behavior by their teaching of situations in life. Take children along
with you so they can see how mom and dad deal with other adults in all
kinds of situations.
Before a selfish, uncaring
and stubborn attitude gets embedded
in children is the time to train them up:.Proverbs
22:6 "Train up a child in the way he should go and when he is old,
he will not depart from it." 2Chronicles
22:3,4 "...his mother was his counselor to
do wickedly...for they were his counselors after the death of his father
to his.(the
child's).destruction.".That
is, when they are young and easily impressed is the time for training them,
again, mostly by example.
Some parents are so
dumb they easily yield to their laziness, when they think 'the kid will
learn later as he goes through life and gets out there'. This is the design
for a adult crippled by his background.
Like hello! Anybody in those
'dumb ass' heads? Do they not realize that right training in a loving home
atmosphere will save children from so
many heartaches and possibly prison or worse?.Ecclesiastes
8:11 "Because sentence against an evil work is not executed speedily,
therefore the heart of the sons of men is fully set in them to do evil.".Job
15:35;
Psalms 10:4-11; 36:3;
50:19,20;
Proverbs
12:1-8; 14:8;
20:17;
26:24-27;
Jeremiah
5:23-28; 9:8,9;
Hosea
12:7; Mark 7:20-23;
Romans
1:29-32.
A laissez faire attitude.(non-interference
in the affairs of others).of
parents sets up a trend for destruction in their children.
Children in untenable
situations at home should look to God who will take them into a better
environment:.Psalms
68:6.
Dumb
ass parents cause all of us to pay.."We
all pay the price when improper or destructive parenting leads to things
like drug use, violent rebelliousness.(such
as is bullying),
murderous rampages in schools,
promiscuity
or reckless and/or drunken teenage driving.
Bad ass parents are a severe killer disease, a sickness as hurtful as any
other, when their negligence results in others' deaths."....William
Campbell Douglass II, M.D., www.clicks.douglassreport.com
It is criminal to deprive
a child of a firm set of guidelines for his actions. Without them, he or
she becomes ripe material for disaster and propaganda
toward error, prostitution, gangs, drugs, car accidents, fights, danger
at every turn and the fast 'me now, you, I don't care', nowhere life. Who
can you blame because all children are born
good?
Bullying comes out of love
being smashed.
If your love was smashed, the path is now seen as a way to smash another's
love.(*):.Romans
7:14-25. It is parents and the life they stupidly allow their kids
to grow up in that creates a pattern of bullying in them; that is, no discipline
in the early years.(Proverbs
22:6,15), no training toward a
good, helpful and unselfish path of care, concern and compassion. Allowing
kids to be overrun.by
means of a laissez
faire.social.environment,
leads to becoming a bully.
"Continuous good
overcomes evil."....Bruno
Groening.
A child needs to comprehend
the
two messages that are available through their soul when he or she needs
to make a decision regarding something, such
as, whether
to take this path at the time or to take that one. Many call this 'knowing
right from wrong' but it's not exactly that.
'Dumb assers' will never
consider.(Psalms
50:16,17).the
subtle
things that can affect their children, things like Lt.
Col. David Grossman discovered from much experience.
Delinquent
youths have both immature senses of themselves and delinquent parents.
They do not imagine themselves contributing positively to society in their
future years, instead being concerned mostly with 'what's fun for the moment,
what can add to my status
now?'.Proverbs
29:18 "Where there is no vision, the people perish, but he that keeps
the law.(what
law?), happy is he.".Another
translation.(JPS).more
accurate to the original, has it that."without
vision, restraint is cast off.".And
here the child must have wisdom.
Parents just must provide
a child with direction, which includes enforcement of direction, until
a child begins to see benefits accruing
toward an ultimate goal. Parents must have enough care to keep their kids
out of 'dumb ass' schools.
Homeschool
them.
Peer
relations are important. Make sure your children are only around higher
quality children of extensive morality.
A good church.(whatever
that is to you at whatever point in life you may be now at).could
be a place to consider as one where one may find such intelligent youngsters
to fellowship with, but get to know the parents there too, because their
children will be like them. Find out this first before committing your
child into fellowship with other children. Their minds are too precious
to leave unprotected, ready to be carved into whatever shape an evil environment
demands; that is, away from your monitoring. Look, you got them for about
20 years or so under your influence to varying degrees at different ages.
Do your best and learn to do even better!
Children cannot learn to
relate in a loving way without following the example of right and wrong
they see their parents living by. If a child is left to 'figure this out
for himself', he is deprived
of any wisdom a parent himself may have gained living life that could be
imparted
to him.
A child may think, 'These
are my mom and dad; they wanted me, but now they don't treat me as though
they ever did'. Have you any idea what that does to a child? Talk about
feeling unloved!
If a child does not think
it is important to not act like a egomaniac,
then he might. That is why proper spanking
as deemed necessary by the parent is so important for those who really
do love their children.
With a wild child, many
sessions of spanking and teaching over the course of his growing years
may be necessary. With a milder child, only a few maybe. Every child is
so different and so very precious that it is criminal for a parent not
to do the best they can for their children's upbringing. So, how can you
handle the differing approaches demanded by the individual personalities
of each of your children?
Know this, all children require
their hearts to be reached and that parents must find each child's path
to his or her heart. Being in rapport with each child requires some effort.
One
thing a parent or parent can do.
A good parent concerned about
his or her kid(s) will always act in the best interests of the child and
not according to frustrations the parent presently may be experiencing.
Avoid being or becoming a
'dumb ass' parent. If you know of some kids with them, pray for the kids
and the childish ignorant parents. Pray what comes to your mind when thinking
about them.
Dumb ass parents are selfish
parents, gaining time for themselves at the expense of what could instead
lead to a quality future for their precious children. They sacrifice their
children on the altar of selfishness, so ignorant are they.
Exposure to violence lays
the groundwork for angry violent behavior. Add to this exposure, poor nutrition
and selfish dumb ass don't care parents who function in a moral vacuum
and what chance has the child got?
A major study in Dunedin,
New Zealand, has shown that allowed and unpunished misdeeds in the early
years predisposes
a child to later criminality. A stupid 'to hell with tomorrow dumb ass'
parent will simply allow the child to grow up and 'find his own way'. Yeah,
right into prison! Non thinking people are so very stupid.
Children learn by observing
how their parents and others treat them. Out of fear
of punishment children learn control of initial angry impulses and
retaliatory
actions. Coupled with proper teaching, empathy,
the basis of all moral
behavior, is developed in them.
How many families talk about
plans of doing good for others not of the immediate family and how many
children are taught the meaning of the word compassion and what kindness
means and honesty, patience, understanding, mercy, forgiveness and what
things beauty.comprises,
virtue
and acts that are commendable?
Kindness cannot be learned
in a vacuum. Involvement with parents
and others is needed. A child needs to learn that doing what is generous
and kind results in rewards of character. A child needs to see his parents
and others doing such actions.
Listening to quality music.(different
for all of us).with
your children, aids them in developing greater intelligence in mathematics,
spatial
reasoning and problem solving skills. ...Adolescence, Winter, 1999.
Violent
TV and movies and video games trains kids how to hate, how to institute
revenge, how to threaten others, how to learn to view death as not being
at all serious and how to cause harm to and even physically hurt another.
These are the traits
of bullying.
But others get harmed all
the time, just look
at the military, one might explain. Such are they who use psychological.generalities.
For those wanting to go deeper,
consider that most militaries are there to protect the people from psychopaths
and sociopaths
who want them purposely harmed.
Militaries harm evil ones to protect people who are basically good. Bullies
harm others because they just want to. Bullies show signs of insanity
by actions and also by actions, militaries show they are out to help and
protect:.Matthew
7:16-20.
Bullies are those not respecting
anything. They litter
both their attitudes and physical garbage interacted with.
So what is 'wrong'? What
went wrong? A child shows thoughts by actions. If the child acted in a
manner that shows hate, greed, theft, risk of or injury to another, basically,
the actions of a selfish brat,
then he or she deserves a lesson that could very well keep him or her out
of the way, when older, that leads to being a perpetrator
and/or victim of some of today's horrible senseless crimes such as kids
killing teachers, parents and other kids.
Kids intimidate
others, bullying them.(a
true sad story),
making their lives uncomfortable, kids on the way to adulthood trying all
that they please, drugs, wild driving, excessive consumption in areas that
may interest them, including late night wild parties filled with the immediate
selfish excitement of wild abandon,
losing their figure and becoming
porkers, making them even more distraught
with themselves, acting out what they think the lives of their idols are
like, because they are unable to grasp their own importance as an individual,
unable to come to grips with this because no one showed them how much ability
they could develop and effectively utilize skills of living. Add all these
together and you get what a child deprived of proper parenting can cause.
Are you sure you know how
your child is being with other children? You can get help with a stubbornly
defiant,
bullying
type of child at bullyingcanada.ca
Teach your children respect,
appreciation and thankfulness. How? When you teach them to say Yes, please,
if they want what grandma or whoever else they trust, is offering. This
shows both respect and appreciation for what it is they are willing to
accept from whoever is offering it. And once they accept what was offered,
teach them to say Thank you. This shows respect for the one who thought
of the child and got something for him or her. It's all part of being courteous.
Proper discipline, includes
spanking for behavior that refuses to conform
to principles that would guarantee protection and a better life for the
child once he or she matures. If you're not watching your children, then
what are you watching?
A child's curiosity will
lead him to try many things that are dangerous such as a hot stove. Parents
need to be around their children. Cords hanging down from the stove can
often be grabbed by a child, pulling hot water from the kettle, down on
him or her.
Some untrained children carry
on in
tantrums,
maybe then running away from parents onto a dangerous busy road. Some
even bite and/or badly scratch their siblings and do other cruel things
to animals and people. They learn behaviors such as these from what they
are exposed to. Without guidance from parents, they just won't know how
to manage the thoughts coming to them out of the mass
mind.
If your child must watch
the tel-lie-vision, be sure you first review a few episodes of the programs
before you allow him or her to watch.
Today TV and video games
are the great programmer of actions. Treat what is on for viewing as if
it was as potentially
dangerous as are poisons some people have around the house for cleaning.
Use vinegar instead.
If opportunities for your
child to learn behaviors that are valuable for higher character are left
off from from, your child's chances of later actions deemed
as leading into criminal behavior have just increased markedly,
with the upcoming step of first being a bully.
Tantrums begin around age
2. You've no doubt heard of the terrible two's. Tantrums lead parents to
frustration and punishment. It's just that in the child, the ego is beginning
to flourish.
It shows need for spiritual guidance. Here is where the 'fork in the road'
begins'. He or she wants to go the ways they may see, as they believe
it to be the best road of happiness.
Everything the child wants
to do is to make him or her happy. Children need guidance here. Children
at this juncture
must come to see that there is a way apart from selfish ego
promptings
that will provide happiness without hurt to anyone including him or her.
Children do not comprehend what their actions can cause. They are
children! Why do you think children have parents anyway?
A smart parent will believe
the Great Infinite's words when it comes to advice
for child rearing. He made us.
God constantly is chastening
us, getting us fit for the highest
position in life hereafter that is possible for us.
